Thats an interesting situation youve shared. It made me think about my own setup and, while I am happily married now, what if I wasnt married and I had my boys around and was in the dating scene. I would absolutely need to meet someone who was very cool with all of our nudity without any qualms, hesitations, or weird feelings.
First and foremost when it comes to his sons dont expect anything at all. They may decide to wear clothes more often. They may decide to not interact with you right away. It is what it is and if you push it things can go bad quickly. Take cues from their dad but give the boys agency to make their own decisions.
Secondly for anything that could be construed as sexual in nature you will be at risk for anyone under 16 years old. That is to say the whole masturbation conversation going on could get you in trouble. Its one thing for the teens to experiment amongst themselves and their dad can explain how things work but its something that stays with them not you.
People are talking about fantasy that has real world consequences and thats dangerous.Thank you so much for starting this thread and conversation. Men like you give me hope for a better world!May I make myself very vulnerable and ask some honest questions? Please dont judge me. I truly want to navigate a new friendship in the healthiest way possible.I was not raised to be a nudist. And since becoming one, Ive always been in awe of nudist families, who raise their children to embrace their bodies and sexuality, without shame. What a gift to their childrenand to a society that is otherwise raising children to hide their authentic, beautiful selves.And if were honest, we live in a time when child abuse is in the headlines, and prosecution of suspected perpetrators is harsh and rampant.I recently met a man through another nude website, who lives in a different country. He is raising his three sons (12, 14 and 18) to be nudists. As we have texted and then talked, we have become close. Ive expressed my admiration and respect, and hes expressed how much he and the boys would like to share their lives with someone like me.Weve scheduled a vacation together where they will stay in my home this summer. We'll do tourist things (clothed) and also go to the nude beaches and nude hiking. We'll cook together, hang out around the house, and watch tv together...all naked.As weve talked, Ive asked lots of questions about how they live, what to expect and how I should engage with the boys. As weve talked, Ive heard (like many of you here) how healthy this is for their communication, trust and closeness. Ive learned that sometimes, he and his sons masturbate together. Sometimes, they shower together. And, he (with the boys permission) has invited me to be a part of these activities. That is the part that makes me nervous!Ive told him, I will only participate in any nude activities with his children, if he is present, and if the boys specifically ask me to join them. I never want to harm or abuse a child in any way! And to be clear, I have no sexual interest in children. But, nor do I want to communicate that what theyre doing is wrong, shameful or somehow less than positive.He has expressed his fears of opening their very private lives to someone outside of their family. So, were both navigating our fears through this.I am thrilled (in a non-sexual way) with the idea of sharing in this kind of intimate, familial setting. Its the kind of family one can only dream of!So, my questions are these:What additional boundaries (if any), do you think I should set?What legal risks am I creating for myself?Is there anything else that I should be thinking of, as we plan this get-together?Thank you in advance for the benefit of your experience and wisdom...and inclusion.
I learned from my father how to masturbate at a young age and it's one of the first activities we really bonded over before we became nudists.Thats the kind of Dad-Son-Bonding how it should be. The own Dad is the best Teacher for all things you can do nude. My dad and I started at my young age too. It was the most wonderful Bond I've ever had.
So nice to hear this bro, the more details the better as it real helps other Dads and Sons, thanks.
I was lucky to have a dad who was open to talking about sex and willing to explore the intense bond we shared and both felt when I was curious and wanting to learn things from him. It was a beautiful experience that made us closer than ever. Maybe not every father and son have the same kind of opportunity we had with my dad raising me alone and newly divorced, but I loved how I grew up!
Canvas Valencia, I admire your hospitality and vulnerability in hosting a father and his three sons naked in your home. In regards to your legal situation, it's best to do an AI search for more specifics in your country and province as applicable.
I live in the US which is very Puritanical and associates nudity with sexuality. When I lived in Sweden it was very different that social nudity was a non-issue, but having to talk with a complete stranger was an awkward breach of privacy. They both required completely different responses even though they had the illusion of similarity at first glance.
Since the family is from another country, I'd ask the father what he considers inappropriate and private behavior, including erections, masturbation and even pooping. In the same way, if you're in social nude situations, what boundaries are appropriate for others? Are there any laws or social practices that are different between your countries which could lead to misunderstandings, clothed or naked? Do the sons have any unexpected behaviors clothed or naked that you should know about? Will anyone else engage with them in your home during your visit such as a local nudist buddy stopping by? I would also encourage you both to plan on alone time to recharge from being a good guest or host.
The best thing about your post is that the father and you both recognize you'll have to work at making it a great experience for all. Such mindfulnes is key, pants up or down. Have a great visit!
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