the prejudice against single men is one of the great bugbears that plagues nudism. It seems to be worse for younger men than for more mature ones. It seems ironic that one of the largest demographics amongst nudist are single males. At any events i'vebeen to, single menoutnumber couples and single women combined.You can't discriminate against minorities, but it seems strangely acceptable to discriminate against the majority.
I think some of it is said to keep the numbers of males and females balanced, but I also think that some of it is because of the underground swingers that are at the resorts. All of the official stuff is naturist friendly, but when you meet up with people in private it's a different story
What annoys me most, particularly where im from, is that if you are a single male & a naturist/nudist you are automatically either gay or a perv or the likes. Typical mindset of the clothed i suppose.
Interesting that you are from Papamoa. Im a single male and been going to Papamoa and find that most of the guys that hit on me are married and all living a lie. Been trying to get to go to Rotata but they seem aprehensive of allowing single guys, and I can't say I blame them, but sucks for normal straight single males that like to be nude.
Kudos to the OP for speaking up. I agree with most of what he says.
I will only add that some resorts are not necessarily discriminating against single males because they may be pervs, but simply to maintain an even ratio of male:female. It is no secret that males dominate the nudist scene so in order to allow females to feel more comfortable, and encourage their membership/participation, they have to limit the number of single males. Is it fair? Perhaps not. Do I agree with it? Not entirelybut I understand why they do it.
Perhaps if some here adjusted their mindset and did not give out the streotypical male 'chest beating', attitudes among the ladies may change?
More importantly if we are to be accepted then we must be 'whiter than white' in the eyes of the clubs/venues.
Frankly I have been refused entries on the basis of my singularity but accepted after meeting owners, when with a girlfriend. The only time I have been a little upset was when asked to book the most expensive chalet/room if (as a single) I wished to visit!
totally understand your situ, the US has a lot of soul searching to do and so many citizens need to become self aware and not just beleive what they are told.the Land of the Free is anything but
What happens to mine and other's freedom of association? We all have to live in harmony and that means balancing out what rights apply where. Fortunately most resports are on private property and as such the owners are free to allow the people that they choose to come and go.
If two people rang my doorbell and I only let one of them into my house, would that mean I was discriminating and stepping on that second persons freedom????
There are also clubs that cater to single men in the Palm Springs area. I belive most if not all are Gay resorts. But you could also go to them. If you are not going to a resort looking for sex, then it should be a non issue, right?
This is absolutely correct.
I've been a single male nudist and more recently a partnered nudist. My partner is only just trying the lifestyle and making small steps. One of the things inhibiting her is the behaviour of some single males at the club we visit. I say "some" single males because I want to acknowledge that not all are the same. However the list of things that trouble her (and me frankly) are:
- Single guys that appear to be relaxing and enjoying their time, but when they spot a female, they seem to get a compulsion to get up and walk over to the vicinity where the female is- even if its 100 yards or more. With no obvious reason for the move.
- Single guys who leave a swimming area only to return 5 minutes later with what is obviously a semi-erection. Then stand on a bank where my wife and I are enjoying a swim and ask a contrived and lame question just to draw attention to themselves.
- Obvious gawkers and pervs.
- Situations where the number of naked males is overwhelmingly more than females.
- My wife and I are friendly. We're happy to say hello to other nudists, some single males take this as a cue to start up a lengthy conversation with a partnered woman.
- Single men who think its acceptable to stand in front of a woman who is sitting on a sandy beach area with their genitals in her eyeline just a couple of feet away.
- Where there's a number of ways one might leave an area on foot, single males who take a route that conveniently takes them immediately past an outstretched sunbaking woman.