I was watching the TV show "Lucifer" the other day. The police needed to find a killer and needed to interview everybody he slept with in the last couples of week. About 100 good looking ladies and 5 nice looking guys were on the list. The detective was surprised there was guys on the list, Lucifer reply, "Come, come detective, it is the 21 century, is it not?" I had to go tell my wife, too cool.
Labels have a tendency to alienate, which is unfortunate. The site is titled as a social network for nudists and social can and does cover a lot of territory. There is a plethora of profiles that state "like minded nudists" and to date I have not seen a single definition of "like minded" that will meet all of the individual "likes". Being a social network it is also reasonable to believe that many people seek friends - note the friending process - and quite frankly we all need friends for good social balance. This takes us back to the bi label. If you seek a bi friend it is plausible that you seek the friendship and comfort of a "like minded person". There are few, if any, people who seek the friendship of a person who would tell them their likes and lifestyle are flat wrong. The mystery of life goes on................................
Given the amount of feedback on this topic, you'd think they might consider enabling more filters in search. I think the argument against being able to filter on Gay or Bi is that this site isn't about finding sex. For me, these labels aren't about sex so much as community and being able to filter on these terms would enable me to connect with like-minded people and be part of a community with them.
This. A thousand times, this.
The very core problem embedded into non-heteronormativity is that heteros focus completely on just the sexual aspect of being LGBT. Watching it happen in this particular thread comes with a certain level of irony as nudists literally deal with the exact same problem.
Wanting to talk to someone who's also LGBT isn't just a matter of sex. Its a matter of finding common ground, people that you can bond with, people that know what its like to deal with threads like this one. Being LGBT isn't just about sex, its about being the person you were meant to be.
When a hetero couple has a child, do you focus on the fact that they had to bone for the child to exist, or do you embrace the scientific miracle of their love and try to make baby sounds at them? Why not embrace LGBT for being people that just want to love without persecution, to find those that won't persecute them, instead of getting hung up on what they do in the bedroom?
There is nothing wrong with meeting a fellow nudist and chemistry leads to a sexual encounter. Yes, this is a nudist place and if you are strictly here for that that is you right. Any conflict can be resolved by direct communication. Myself,, I want to enjoy both if possible here in Chicago.
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