Sexless Marriage
My wife has lost all interest in any kind of sexual activity. It started several years ago and doesn't show any signs of changing. From conversations I've had with many other guys, it seems that many of us senior guys (I'm in my mid 70's) are in the same boat. Has anyone ever succeeded in turning the boat around? If so, how did you do it?
Over on another nudist site we have talked about this and a few have said "about bisexual" as there is a lot of naked man around they have turned to that, it's not ideal and some say they are "straight", but have tried it.
Maybe it's time to just get on with your life and except sex dosen't last forever, it has a time limit and why risk losing your wife if she found out.
My marrage was sexless from day one, I kid you not, not even on our honeymoon !!!......................it didn't last, now happley divorced.
My wife has lost all interest in any kind of sexual activity. It started several years ago and doesn't show any signs of changing. From conversations I've had with many other guys, it seems that many of us senior guys (I'm in my mid 70's) are in the same boat. Has anyone ever succeeded in turning the boat around? If so, how did you do it?
I'm in the same boat like you but I am not a senior yet. I happened to marry an older woman and we've been together for 20 years now. I know that this time will come that she will retire from sex, and I have come to accept that. There is no way to turn this back and make her like sex again. Just like what the other guy commented, sex is not forever and it has an expiration date. It may come a bit early for women than men but there are also men that retires early from sex due to medical issues especially if they have prostate problem.
On the other hand, you have two choices...either you accept it and keep your relationship or find someone else and risk in losing your wife or your relationship. I have heard some stories that there are some wives that let their husbands play around because they know that they can no longer provide the sexual part of their relationship and they are ok with it as long as the husband comes home every night to her and also provide for everything. It happens but seldom for sure.
Good luck to you no matter what you choose.
I highly recommend you casually 'mention' to your wife about your concerns; they may be more cognizant about it than you think. I found out about a low key health issue present and was able to improve that particular aspect. Additionally, get on the Internet and look for articles and other couples' posts about the issue and their changed approach. Afterwards, or possibly before, mention your status to your family doctor and see what happens. You can at least give the doc some clues and, assuming you both use the same practitioner, get some ideas and possible aids. You can't get back to age 25 again, but 55 is a possibility. I hope the best for you all.
I highly recommend you casually 'mention' to your wife about your concerns; they may be more cognizant about it than you think. I found out about a low key health issue present and was able to improve that particular aspect. Additionally, get on the Internet and look for articles and other couples' posts about the issue and their changed approach. Afterwards, or possibly before, mention your status to your family doctor and see what happens. You can at least give the doc some clues and, assuming you both use the same practitioner, get some ideas and possible aids. You can't get back to age 25 again, but 55 is a possibility. I hope the best for you all.
Hi John, Was your reply intended to me? I assumed it is since you mentioned my age at the end of the post. You are definitely right. I have spoken to my wife when she started losing interest in sex and it is because of the side effects of the surgery she had down there. She went to undergo a hysterectomy and the doctor for whatever reason, suggested to her prior to surgery that she can also do a vaginaplasty where she will make the opening smaller. I think this sounds good to my wifes ear and decided to go for it. Unfortunately, the opening was made smaller and it didn't stretch at all to accommodate the penetration which cause so much pain in her part. Since then, she refused to have sex at all and I didn't want to cause her pain at all so I just accepted the fact that it is done...
When women lose their sex drive, it is all over for them. I think they are genuinely happier when they go through their "change of life". The path of least resistance is simply becoming bi when this happens and continue enjoying your orgasms with guys that appreciate a good mutual wank session.
Yeah mine was loosing interest in her thirties. And I had tried a lot of different things trying to get her interested in sex again. But right around her fifties she started to dry up inside. She tried different kinds of lubricants but she still had pain while I was inside her.
Last time I did enjoy her body that way she bled . I hated causing her any pain. But I still have these hormones raging through my body. So I started going to the adult theaters, just watch videos and masturbate. I also discovered other videos other than the regular heterosexual ones. Thats when I discovered Bi videos and Gay videos. But they were a lot of the same videos of people just moaning really loud with amazing bodies. Until I seen a video of two guys together, they were normal. And they made love to each other like I have been making love to my wife. That one video really changed how I looked at sex.
Thats why I also found out about the glory holes in the video booth. I knew it was a guy next-door to me and he wanted to help me put my cock through the hole. I knew it was a man and I knew he wanted it really bad. So I did!
I worried that I was turning gay. But it felt so perfect and I was relieved afterwards because he even swallowed which my wife hated to do. The next few times even got better.
I consider myself Bi now. And I put enjoyed other aspects of other men, but I have never told my wife. And I dont think she would like it if I had.
Yeah mine was loosing interest in her thirties. And I had tried a lot of different things trying to get her interested in sex again. But right around her fifties she started to dry up inside. She tried different kinds of lubricants but she still had pain while I was inside her.
Last time I did enjoy her body that way she bled . I hated causing her any pain. But I still have these hormones raging through my body. So I started going to the adult theaters, just watch videos and masturbate. I also discovered other videos other than the regular heterosexual ones. Thats when I discovered Bi videos and Gay videos. But they were a lot of the same videos of people just moaning really loud with amazing bodies. Until I seen a video of two guys together, they were normal. And they made love to each other like I have been making love to my wife. That one video really changed how I looked at sex.
Thats why I also found out about the glory holes in the video booth. I knew it was a guy next-door to me and he wanted to help me put my cock through the hole. I knew it was a man and I knew he wanted it really bad. So I did!
I worried that I was turning gay. But it felt so perfect and I was relieved afterwards because he even swallowed which my wife hated to do. The next few times even got better.
I consider myself Bi now. And I put enjoyed other aspects of other men, but I have never told my wife. And I dont think she would like it if I had.
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