Well I have always believed in the Ancient Male's rights to have a great life. Not married since 2002, I moved to SC and found the Females here to be a bit needy in that sex was a wat to catch a guy and then move in. 15 years of crazy on and off drama I came to find talking this very subject OUT TO DEATH with other Males,..., "PLEASSURE KNOWS NO ORIENTATION". Males have enjoyed each other for millennias and still kept wives, or not. But once you get past the orientation politics that are just to control Males,...., you will find that the rainbows and the Stright liners all fade away and that you DO HAVE Males that will be great friends and care about you in a Masculine- not romantic way. Just be a good Male- do what MALES DO. And if it goes to enjoying the physical side- be smart and not freewheeling, Males can hurt each other emotionally with sex too- let's at least support each other better than many of our gals have. And if you just need to hold on,..., well start giving "HAPPY BIRTHDAY SISTER" cards and masturbate any time you want to around the house. let her know that there is at least ONE LIVE HUMAN in the place! LOL!!!! Peace-S
Same boat here. To fill the gap a little I've been trying CFNM at our pool. Not the submissive type, but literally. Although she'll go nude at the pool with me she won't when here friends are at the pool. So far I've been nude around almost all of them one at a time, but never with them there as a group. No it's not sex, but it is a turn on, which helps.
Finding friends and couples to be nude with is very difficult, I think the biggest issue is none of them have pools, if they did they'd probably get used to swimming nude all the time like we have.
hormone replacement therapy can change your life...My wife had similar symptoms of low testosterone..(Essential for women to have the correct levels of T which controls desire and Response..Plus its proven to inhibit osteoporosis (bone loss) in women and muscle mass.
once her levels got corrected (40-90 Parts per million free testosterone) she was a tiger again and chased me around the house for sex..
Not covered by all insurance but its worth the cost of pellets implant (around $200 every three months)
I have gone 15 years without sex and my wife passed away two years ago. So make that 17 years now at age 77 it is damn hard to get back out there and date. But my wife never was a sexually oriented woman anyway. To be quite honest ?I simple should have left way before 15 years. I knew it was not going to change but I was always a dreamer, always positive it would change. So dont kid yourself that anything is going to change.
Realizing that there are a ton of good reasons to get married, not the least of which is a good, steady supply of loving pleasure at home. I suppose my woman and I could be outliers in the statistical data, with our wants fitting together just about as perfectly as do our parts ~ though it seems to me those items of connection should be totally discussed, fleshed out, understood and decided upon between partners before any vows are taken. If the want between you does change, and it will, having chosen a comfortable path for the future ahead of time could soften the sting of a love gone quiet. If, say the genitals are detached due to a freak smelting accident, would a gold member be an adequate replacement?
Desires wax and wain over the life of any relationship, and our physical parts don't remain static either. Loving someone needs to include addressing compatibility in the libido area, not just before the honeymoon but on a regular basis. Communicate! And get out of your comfort zone with your life partner if things get stale or rote.
How much blame is on the partner when their lover cannot perform the act of physical love any more without some drug or while consuming pornography to make the grade? And seriously, is trying to name the blame any help? Do what you have to to keep the physical act of love "acting", but going without passion in a relationship for weeks/months/years isn't right and it will hurt you both. The genitals are not the only way to pleasure - if the fantasy of your life that you both envisioned when you were considering a lifelong commitment hasn't turned in to what you expected, time to change it up! Use your biggest sex organ - your brain! If there's no passion the intercourse will go the same direction - away. And intercourse does not only mean the fuck. Speak your wants clearly and on a regular basis, and well before getting into bed. If those things are ignored or never honestly addressed, keep on trying, whether gently or otherwise, or get on the road.
I hear you, and I know it can feel discouraging. Speaking as a woman, Ill say that a drop in desire, especially as we get older, can come from many different directions: hormones, medications, physical comfort, emotional shifts, or even just how life together has settled into a routine.
Some couples have been able to turn the boat around, but it usually hasnt come from pushing for sex directly. What often helps is reconnecting in smaller, non-sexual ways first, touch, affection, shared activities, laughter, and simply talking openly about what each of you needs. Sometimes a woman may feel more pressure than pleasure if intimacy is only framed around sex, but she may respond well to warmth, tenderness, and emotional closeness that leads to physical closeness.
I hear you, and youre not alone in this. For many couples, intimacy does change with age, sometimes in ways that feel frustrating or one-sided. What Ive seen help is focusing first on closeness and affection outside of sex touch, shared moments, feeling appreciated. Sometimes when the pressure is off, intimacy can slowly return in its own way. Every couple is different, but patience and gentle connection seem to make the biggest difference.
Actions
Back to TopicsReply to TopicShare this topic
Get paid just by sending us users/traffic.
Signup takes seconds, start now!
Signup as an affiliate!