How do u come out
How do u come out to your spouse u like being nude ?
- 9 years ago
How do u come out to your spouse u like being nude?
Just say "I like being nude and I'm pretty sure I'm a nudist". Then
just start being nude around the house as much as possible. Simple
enough? See my response to the question "Revealing nudism to
lover" in this same group.
- 9 years ago
It took me a long time, although I didn't plan it. I wasn't a regular nudist until recently. My wife and I go to a cabin each year. It is in the middle of nowhere, completely private. Once, when we were sunbathing, I took off my shorts. She didn't even say anything about it because it seemed so natural that way I suppose. So over time I slowly started being naked there more and more, until now I am naked from the time we arrive until we leave. Being in complete privacy made her comfortable with it. I liked it so much I started going naked at home when she wasn't around. But when I started feeling like I was living a double life, I told her I'd like to go naked at home like I do at the cabin. To my surprise she was fine with it. She even likes it. Actually, she encourages it, helping me make my house and yard as private as possible so I can be naked outside. In other words, it was a process not just a "coming out". Maybe I'm just lucky, but maybe my unintentional easing into it helped it not be such a shock.
- 9 years ago
I told my wife over the years that i wanted to try a nude beach. I didn't even think about being a home nudist until I researched naturism and discovered i should start at home. That's also when I discovered there is a nudist club just 45 minutes away. i asked my wife how she felt about it. She said she would try the nudist club just 1 time. We've been nudists ever since.
- 9 years ago
By not getting dressed in the morning.
- 9 years ago
My next step is to get my wife to be naked with me. We're headed to the cabin I mentioned next week. I've already said to her that if the weather is sunny and warm maybe she will go nude with me. No reply, but no refusal either. She has told me she doesn't like to be nude simply because she isn't pleased with her body, so I've been telling her I like her body to make her feel more comfortable. I'm guessing I have a slight chance of getting her to be naked with me inside and a little more of a chance of getting her to be naked outside. The sun will help me persuade her! This has been and continues to be a process as well.
- 9 years ago
My spouse hated the thought of being nude. And thought anybody who wanted to walk around nude was perverted. I knew there was no way I could talk with her about it. So right after the divorce I visited the local nudist club, became a member, and have been a nudist for 10 years. Love it, and now I search for a nudist girlfriend.
- 9 years ago
LOL....my kids would be laughingat that if they read that. They always thought their step Mom needed "Help". LOL. Yah, there was a issue hidden somewhere there. But like you say, we are better off apart and I'm so very happy in the nudist lifestyle. Been 10 years now at home and at the club. Butthe "Nudist Issue" still kind ofpops up now and then. Being single I wanted to share my love for nudism with a partner, girlfriend, or with good fortune....a soul mate. Dang.....the reaction I get in the textile world is quite mixed. I've mentioned this before in other posts. Most would show respect, "Good for you but not for me" sort of response. And in the 10 years only 2 were willing to go up to the club and experience it. But I did get quite a bit of negative. One emailed me over and over trying to get me to go get help to fix my nude problem. Such is Life....and I keep going. The key though, is to talk. If I click with someone I will have two or three good talks and then I say the word NUDIST. I feel a person should be open and honest right away when starting a relationship. Shouldn't keep things hidden which I find a lot of guys on here do. I get a lot of private messages from guys who say they are nudists but their wife doesn't know. Whoa......a woman would consider that cheating and lying. Need to get some balls and sit down and chat. If she isn't into it then your choice is how much do you love her vs nudism. Pretty simple. All you got to do is talk.
- 9 years ago
I agree with what you say and in fact I did try that for a while. I would have very long email chats, then move to long phone calls, and then the meetings/dates itself. Chemistry was great and it looked like a strong relationship could start. Problem was as soon as I mentioned "Nudist" then it was give up nudism or move on. A couple of them didn't want anything to do with me after that "horrible word". On your side you waited until you were already inthe relationship before you had the talk about nudism. I did that with my ex wife and you know how that went. But even after all the chats/calls and great chemistry with the others I always walked away feeling like I wasted a bunch of time. That drives me crazy! I could haveused that timedoing more important things. So if I chat with a woman, and sense chemistry, I will be up front and honest and mention Nudist after two or three emails. Saves me a lot of wasted time....lol
- 9 years ago
Sit down and talk about it. That's what I did with my kids when they came to live with me after I'd been living a nude life at home for five years. They had seen me nude in my room when spending time at my house,but now that they were going to be living there we had to talk.
- 9 years ago
I wish these posts were similar to Facebook I would have totally given this response a Thumbs Up!!
- 9 years ago