Introducing yourself at the beach
I go to my nude beach more by myself than with my wife. She will go but isn't ready to go nude yet. I would like to start meeting people when there by myself. I think if people wave and say hi as they go by to find their spot, it might help her feel more comfortable. Now as to meeting people as a married guy that is by himself at the beach. I was thinking about putting up a small sign letting people know I would like some beach friends. I think this might be more inviting than going up to people who may not want to be bothered with introductions from an unknown guy. What do you think of this idea?
i'm with halfof, either kinda creepy or desperate what you may try to do is form a group here for that particular beach and than if you have true interest from others here maybe than post a sign - example: Jones Beach truenudist group meetup all welcome. but i've chatted with quite a few at the beach but i can't say that they became regular friends either and i'm taking that's what your striving for.
These are isolated incidents but they are incidents, nonetheless, that tend to make people on nude beaches ... skeptical, protective and standoffish.
Some guy came up to me at Black's. He started by commenting on a hat I was wearing andwas making a connection on what I did and what he did, for a living. He then wanted totalk to meabout some creepy guy that had been walking up and down the beach gawking at people. "I just come down here to have a good day and all these creeps gawking at people really piss me off". As we stood there he couldn't focus on talking to me but kept averting his eye contact with me and kept looking at my wife sitting naked in her chair. I moved to have him reposition himself, he stayed facing the same way so he could glance over at my wife. Finally, my wife had enough and covered herself with her sarong and the conversation ended. So much for ... " I just come down here ... these creeps really piss me off!" Him included!
A young female from the college a top the cliffs of Black's came down to study and get some sun. This young woman went as far as making a sign the read something to the effect ... "Please leave me alone. I don't want to be hit on. I don't want to talk. I'm here to study and enjoy myself and be left alone." I stopped counting the idiots that either couldn't read or thought the sign didn't pertain to them after about the 10th guy that walked all the way over to where she was. ALL of them making an obvious detour once she was spotted. She finally had enough and moved her blanket over toward me and I gave them the evil eye and they got their glancing stare.
I truly think it's best to make friends prior to visiting the beach and then meet at the beach. There are groups on Facebook. Black's Beach has a group and they have events and they advertise these events and meet ups. Trying to make friends at random on a nude beach ... not as easy as you'd think and, like here, it takes time. You have to show your presence regularly with the regulars. Once they realize you're there for the right reasons, you'll be invited into the fold and then you'll meet more friends that way.
I think that a sign would just send people running or attract the type that you and your wife probably wouldn't want to meet. It's no different talking to people at a nude beach than it is anywhere else you just have to wait for the right moment and take it from there. My wife is the same way. She'll go to the beach with me but doesn't get naked and that has to do with her job more than anything else. I've introduced her to people that I've met naked and it isn't a problem.
The sign wasn't ours ... it belonged to and was posted by the young college woman that didn't want to be bothered. You're right ... it didn't detour the idiots but as many that stopped, just as many walked up and then moved on. Some guys get it, others think it doesn't apply to them.
My wife was concerned the very first time she visited the nude beach with me. It took her about 15 mins before she said ... "this is dumb, I'm the only one with clothes on." She stood up, dropped her shorts, took off her t shirt ... Bam ... naked in seconds and stayed that way the entire time. I took her to a more unpopulated area or less concentrated populated area of the beach where she could then get up and move around. She was even willing to have me take some polaroid pictures of her. She loved going but inevitably the jackasses would see her up and about and the parade of morons began.
I've met lots of would be friends at the water's edge. Once you get a sense of the person or you've seen them there many times and know they are there for the right reasons, I'll invited them over to meet my wife, even better if they are with their wife or significant other. That's how we met 4 other couples at San Onofre Beach, Trail 6. I think you're still skeptical, no matter what. It takes a few trips and meet ups to really start getting to know someone and form that friendship. We've not met many on the nude beach that remained as close a friends as those we've met at resorts. Those that we've met at resorts are still our closest friends, naked or clothed!
Before it was closed this year by the Wisconsin DNR (or I should say the wonderful governor,but thats a whole different topic) I would frequent Mazo beach on the Wisconsin river. I don't think you could find a more friendly group of beach goers in the States. I could walk up to most anyone and start a conversation and almost always get a positive response. On the rare occasion someone didn't want to talk most would just say they were sorry, but not to offend, they would rather just sit by themselves. No one was ever angry or upset and I would just say OK, thats cool, maybe at a later time and leave. I don't really know about the sign, might drive away more than it would attract. It is a very unusual tactic.
Perhaps a sign that has the TN banner, or of an affiliation to which you belong, such as AANR. "TN here...say hi". That would get the attention of likely friendly persons, who may already have other friends there, and the connections can grow. Also, you can message people here as to plans to be at the beach and where. Then if you get response here, exchange messages to solidify the meeting.
Before it was closed this year bythe Wisconsin DNR (or I should say the wonderful governor,but thatsa whole different topic) I would frequent Mazo beach on theWisconsin river. I don't think you could find a more friendly groupof beach goers in the States. I could walk up to most anyone andstart a conversation and almost always get a positive response. Onthe rare occasion someone didn't want to talk most would just saythey were sorry, but not to offend, they would rather just sit bythemselves. No one was ever angry or upset and I would just say OK,thats cool, maybe at a later time and leave. I don't really knowabout the sign, might drive away more than it would attract. It isa very unusual tactic.
San Onofre Beach Trail 6 was a bit tighter and friendlier than
Black's. Maybe in the earlier years Black's was just as friendly
but the beach at Black's is much bigger and spread out compared to
what space we had at San O. Those that visited Trail 6 were either
nudists or surfers or nude surfers. The nude area did extend south
onto the Camp Pendleton property but that area was were smaller
"groups" hug out and did their own thing. The few hundred yards of
beach nudists occupied seemed to be more friendly and being that
close to one another, you got to know people or at least see them
constantly down there each visit.
In regards to the sign ... let me ask you this. Your wife or GF
goes to the beach to relax and be left alone. She's approached for
the 20th time by someone wanting to talk. Does she give each and
every guy the time of day, an explanation that she'd like to be
left alone and not bothered because she's just there to be alone.
How long before she's tired of explaining herself before she just
packs up and leaves and decides never to return because she's tired
of having to explain that she just wants to be left alone.
That was the reason for the sign that the college aged woman
posted. Regrettably, she still had to hold her book with one hand
and point to the sign. Most times it worked, other times these guys
just kept bugging. Maybe it did drive some away that would have
become friends but she posted the sign for a purpose ... she didn't
want to be bothered nor did she want to make friends that day!
I don't know ... do you know of an alternative method besides explaining yourself over and over and over again that you don't want to be bothered and want to be left alone while at a nude beach?
I was thinking about putting up a small signletting people know I would like some beach friends. I think thismight be more inviting than going up to people who may not want tobe bothered with introductions from an unknown guy. What do youthink of this idea?
We wouldn't do that anywhere else - a bar, cafe. ...
Any sign saying Lonely man looking to chat will get a poor
response in any venue, nudist or textile.
I have chatted to others on a nudist beach when something has
cropped up to chat about. I had a friend who could start a
conversation with anyone. I think he started with Where are you
from? Are you here for long?... I don't have that
talent. We all know how difficult it is to take a photo of
ourselves without getting other nudists in the background. I've
taken a photo of my friend and he has taken mine. Then we have
asked someone to take one of both of us. It can be a useful opener.
Or you can set up an activity like body painting. I've attracted
attention by doing naked rock-climbing. I did hear of someone who
offered a free cold beer to anyone who stripped off. His intention
was to encourage others to join the nudists but he probably got
talking to a few over that beer.
I like to greet other nudists as I walk the beach; just being neighborly. However; for the most part other nudists stop to say something to me because of my body piercing. It usually elicits a comment which is fine by me, and also leads to a chat amongst nudists.
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