Ejecting a person because of an unpopular opinion is something one would expect in a tyranny, not in a free country.
Well, as you have said before, this is a private group, organized by an individual, and they can keep or pitch whom they like just as they set the date format.
Please lets not bring up the date format again.... And do remember that peoples beliefs are very important to them,(I would guess almost as important as yours are to you) sometimes we don't like them, sometimes they don't like us... its part of being a large group of people from all over the world.... Some people Just don't like Gay,Lesbian, Baptist, Catholic, White, Black, Mexican, Jewish people...(I know I missed a few but I wanted to keep this short) it doesn't really matter why they don't like them, you will not change their opinion in a forum setting... no matter how hard you try, their beliefs or up bringing has ingrained into them that {insert Group here} arehorriblehorriblepeople. My way of looking at it... we are all here for ONE reason... because we share a common interest, and its not my job to judge you based on your life choices, that will be your creators job when your time here on earth is done. Until then, try to get along and remember, and no one is obligated to like your life choices. (no matter what they are) GOOD LUCK....
It has a lot to do with experience. When my wife and I first joined, we were deluged, I mean bombarded with friend requests from single males. Guys who never sent us a message, engaged us in conversation, no previous contact at all. It became very apparent that mainly these guys were just wanting to see any nude pics we might have had for friends only.I'd be willing to bet that anyone who has some pics hidden under the "friends only" setting, gets a lot of friend requests from single guys.
But you also have to consider that lots of people on here are what we call "friend whores". You get the same types on Facebook, My Space, etc. They just collect a long list of "friends". Realistically, they're not friends, just a list of people online.
Says the man with over 650 "friends"....LMAO!
Sorry, everyone, I know this might be misconstrued, but that really tickled my funny bone and gave me a good laugh.
Jen
Per the original comment:
Put in your profile what you want to put in there. Make it so that it conveys a sense of who you are. It doesn't have to tell people everything about yourself, it is more about giving someone a flavor of personality. If someone chooses to focus on minutiae rather than the larger picture, don't sweat it. Move on. If you get angry over every small thing that occurs to you, then you will essentially be "crying over spilled milk."
On a personal note, I tend to agree with people concerning some of the classifications and wonder why they are present. Normally I prefer the "less is more" tack, but in this particular instance I actually wanted to make a statement on several fronts. I am more conservative than many people. I have been called a "man's man." I want to show that stereotypes and prejudices have no merit in our society in a surreptitious manner. And if, along the way, there are people that do not want to communicate with me due to the minutiae in my life then I count myself lucky that I don't have to deal with that person and move forward.
On the converse, I will be THE FIRST person to hit that deny button if you send me a blind friend request. I HATE THAT! I will forever question your true motives if you send me a friend request without making an attempt at a conversation. If you went to a local restaurant to eat and saw a table filled with 3 people and there was an extra seat, would you just sit down? No, you would get to know the people before EVER thinking about going to dinner. I know this is an over-simplified metaphor (dinner = friend request), but I think it conveys the point.
Forget reading peoples profile... if you want to know who they really are... find something they wrote in the forums... I think the forums are where people tend to show their true colors, and you can get to know the person from the "inside" and know what they stand for... after that take a look at their pictures, not to see what they look like.. but to see the kind of pictures they post...Does it reflect the kind of person you would like to be your friend? .... THEN... read their profile. Sorry about the ramble, for some reason I justdecided to browse the forums today... there is really a LOT of information in there if your read "between" the lines...
Forget reading peoples profile... if you want to know who they really are... find something they wrote in the forums... I think the forums are where people tend to show their true colors, and you can get to know the person from the "inside" and know what they stand for... after that take a look at their pictures, not to see what they look like.. but to see the kind of pictures they post...Does it reflect the kind of person you would like to be your friend? .... THEN... read their profile. Sorry about the ramble, for some reason I justdecided to browse the forums today... there is really a LOT of information in there if your read "between" the lines...
I completely agree. What people write spur of the moment gives an indication just as much as the photos they post and how they present themselves in their profile.
Lifehappens and Upstate, I tend to agree with both of you. We communicated with most of the friends we've made here via either the forum or the chat room. Then we looked at their profiles, groups they've joined, pictures. Then we decided to add them to our friends list. Not always necessarily always in that order, but pretty much.
For me it'd be the sexual orientation. I'm really not interested in meeting gay or bi people online and I have a feeling there are many others on here who feel the same way. It's nothing personal, I'm sure it's the same way for those who deny people based on religion or relationship status.
I am not gay myself, but have encountered gay people both socially and during business to realise that they are the same as hetrosexual people apart from one subtle difference. would you discriminate against them if they supported a different sports team?
sorry NudeInMA, according to French law: " Constitutes discrimination any distinction between individuals because of their origin, sex, marital status, physical appearance, their surname, their health, disability, genetic characteristics, their sexual orientation, age, political opinion, trade union activities, membership or non-membership, real or supposed, ethnic group, nation, race or religion ". (Article 225-1 of the French Criminal Code). Sexual orientation and racism are in the same law.
And that means that they are the same thing? By your ludicrous "logic", anyone who discriminates against another person based on "origin, sex, marital status, physical appearance, their surname, their health, disability, genetic characteristics, their sexual orientation, age, political opinion, trade union activities, membership or non-membership, real or supposed, ethnic group, nation, race or religion" is a racist.
"That person is too old!"
"You're a racist!"
"That person is single."
"You're a racist!"
"That person is a Presbyterian."
"You're a racist!"
When a person is reduced to flinging the charge of racism, that person has lost the debate.
Think the term being sought here is "prejudiced."
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