Is approaching women rude on a clothing optional beach?
Hey guys, I am a newbie to all this and just curious to learn more so I can decide if this is for me. Well I went to Gunnison Beach in NJ which is a clothing optinal beach and saw some pretty hot women in the buff.
Is it acceptable for a nude, single dude to approach and try to start a conversation with a nude woman who is sunbathing or reading a book? How should they go about it? If you can pick up women on a textile beach, why not do it on a nude beach?
Rick
Hey guys, I am a newbie to all this and just curious to learn more so I can decide if this is for me. Well I went to Gunnison Beach in NJ which is a clothing optinal beach and saw some pretty hot woman in the buff. Is it acceptable for a nude, single dude to approach and try to start a conversation with a nude woman who is sunbathing or reading a book? How should they go about it? If you can pick up women on a textile beach, why not do it on a nude beach? Rick
People go to the beach to relax and get away from the normal restrictions in life. When you go to one of these places, the people that you are most attracted to are probably the people you should have the least contact with. Why? Those conversations will be the most convoluted, labored, and contrived coming from you while being the most difficult ones for the other party. They will know your true motives right away. Learn to talk to others first.
Hey guys, I am a newbie to all this and just curious to learn more so I can decide if this is for me. Well I went to Gunnison Beach in NJ which is a clothing optinal beach and saw some pretty hot woman in the buff. Is it acceptable for a nude, single dude to approach and try to start a conversation with a nude woman who is sunbathing or reading a book? How should they go about it? If you can pick up women on a textile beach, why not do it on a nude beach? Rick
Rick, you are going about this whole thing in the wrong way. Take a deep breath, slow down and try to remember that a woman's personality and approachabilitydoesn't change just because she is at a nude beach. Most are there to relax not to hook up and if that is yourintentionyou would probably have betterlucksomewhere else. Be friendly but not intrusive and don't expect women to be overly receptive to your advances. To interrupt a person (male or female) who is reading or sunbathing other than to perhaps say hi in passing is rude and will not be considered cool. You seem to have a case of raging hormones which will probably subside as you get used to the sight of nude women.
I would also suggest that you read thefollowinginformationregardingnude beachetiquetteas posted by one of our members.
"https://www.truenudists.com/forum/viewthread.php?id=250/
Well how am I suppose to meet people if I make no intention to socialize? The women aren't coming up to me, so somebody has to make first move. Does being on a nude beach mean you can't try and make friends with the opposite sex?
Well how am I suppose to meet people if I make no intention to socialize? The women aren't coming up to me, so somebody has to make first move. Does being on a nude beach mean you can't try and make friends with the opposite sex?
Rick: This world is not black and white. Rather, it is many shades of gray with very little true black or white. There is always a proper etiquette to meeting new people whether in a nude or textile setting. The first thing you should analyze is your intent. If your intent is to "talk to a hot chick," then you should probably stay away. If your intent is to make friends, what does it matter if the lady is "hot," plain, or ugly? For that matter, why does it have to be a lady? If you are only looking to make friends then "hot" and "sex" will never come in to the equation. Focus on the socialization first. Wrap your mind around the fact that nudity does not equal sex. Learn to control yourself. Make friends with people first. Then, when you are at the beach with a varied group of sophisticated nudist friends and you see a lady that piques your interest, she will be more compelled to believe that you are there as a true person and will be able to have a conversation with her mind rather than her bosom. This is, of course, assuming that the lady is single and looking. Always respect those boundaries.
Well how am I suppose to meet people if I make no intention to socialize? The women aren't coming up to me, so somebody has to make first move. Does being on a nude beach mean you can't try and make friends with the opposite sex?
Would you do what you're thinking ofat a textile beach? If not, then you shouldn'tdo it at a nude beach either.
Everyone wants tomake friends, but not necessarily at the beach. Unless thereis something that lets you know that the welcome mat has been laid out, it's better to err on the side of caution.
That said, are there any activities at your local beach that are more social in nature, like volleyball or frisbee? Maybe one of the teams needs an extra player.
Rick, the advice given by LifeHappens and Gerry is very sensible and should be given some consideration. I might add maybe strike up a conversation with a group of people first. Let them get to know you better first, as you learn about them. This is socializing, and you won't look like some guy who is just there to hook up with someone.
Mike
I have been to blacks beach many times and have found that most women and men and groups are judgemental about anybody new making friends there will be hard my suggestion is to make friends here and meet them there
i think approaching women anywhere can be difficult, especially in california (where im from). the women here seem to think they deserve more than they really do. but to get to your question, i wouldn't say its rude unless you acted like an ass about it. its human nature for males to pursue females. while 100% of people go to the beach to relax, it doesnt mean their instincts disappear with that relaxation. if you got the right moves and the silver tongue then i'm sure she'll welcome your advances. but always remember that women are complex and illogical beings. you have to appeal to their emotions. but i really can see how it would be difficult to stay calm when you're talking to a naked woman you've never met before. you're young; don't listen to the old men here... they've already passed their prime and don't see things the way we do. the very unfortunate thing about women is that the older they get the more liberated and feisty they are. young women, on the other hand, dont seem to have a clue until they're in their 30s and beyond (there are exceptions of course). i hope it helps to hear things from another young guy's perspective. its kinda like apples and oranges to compare a young guy's opinion to an old guy's opinion.
i think approaching women anywhere can be difficult, especially in california (where im from). the women here seem to think they deserve more than they really do. but to get to your question, i wouldn't say its rude unless you acted like an ass about it. its human nature for males to pursue females. while 100% of people go to the beach to relax, it doesnt mean their instincts disappear with that relaxation. if you got the right moves and the silver tongue then i'm sure she'll welcome your advances. but always remember that women are complex and illogical beings. you have to appeal to their emotions. but i really can see how it would be difficult to stay calm when you're talking to a naked woman you've never met before. you're young; don't listen to the old men here... they've already passed their prime and don't see things the way we do. the very unfortunate thing about women is that the older they get the more liberated and feisty they are. young women, on the other hand, dont seem to have a clue until they're in their 30s and beyond (there are exceptions of course). i hope it helps to hear things from another young guy's perspective. its kinda like apples and oranges to compare a young guy's opinion to an old guy's opinion.
I am not old.
Queue mob of angry ladies in 5...4...3...2...
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