Being the "center of attention" at the nude beach or resort.
This is a subset to my other thread on "dabbling" with nudism; I thought it merited its own thread.
Whereas there are people who practice nudism in a semi-private way: sun tanning, swimming and socializing nude alone or within a small group of friends or S/O's, there are people who take on a much more active approach.
At the nude beach I've seen nudists walk around, talk to other nudists they didn't know, introduce themselves to newbies; sitting next to them or standing over them while talking.
At the resort I've seen people do the same. Some were very active in resort activities: even my ex, on occasion, would jump up and volunteer to participate in or manage activities. Taking "center stage" and directing activities. I once chatted with a young lady who had been a "children activities coordinator" at a French resort. Her job was to direct activities for kids; and her position required nudity. She admittedly loved her job.
So I was just wondering; being an introvert myself: where does this "extra nudist comfort" come from? Some nudists "shy away" from being "front and center" within nudists groups; or from being "in your face naked." Others embrace it. I can think particularly of nude models who actually pose completely nude in front of other people.
How or why do they do it?
Ironic that so often opposites attract. I was born an extrovert and problem solver. I'm very comfortable taking over and running construction job site or speaking in front of large groups. My wife is a shy introvert. Wants no mention of her name even though she is a doer and very involved in a lot of things. It's just the way we are. I was visiting a club by myself once years ago. I was hardly acknowledged, welcomed by any member and only couple of them said hello when I walked by their places.
I saw that as a problem and so at our home club I make sure to make a guest feel welcomed. Even offer them our spare golf cart. I will not approach a female to welcome her unless she has a male companion or my wife is with me. Nudony I know exactly what you speak as I have seen more than once a guy looming over Mrs Rock making small talking when she is laying out at a pool ect. Yup that's what she wants, some guys schwong looking her straight in the face.
I get that they may be extroverted types but come on. Single guys in my experience are the worst offenders. I think they may have the mindset if they don't put themselves out front and center they will not garner any attention. My thinking anyway.
Single guys in my experience are the worst offenders. I think they may have the mindset if they don't put themselves out front and centre they will not garner any attention. My thinking anyway.
The thing is clothed or nude a lot of men think they are the best thing to the female sex and think back to the old adverts for the chest expanderas and the beach where the chap has used them get the girls and the other men just run away.
I think that some people who are more "front and center of attention" do so because of the "ego boost" or "euphoria" nudity in certain situations or certain settings provides for them.
But I'll have to agree with Andy and RD that personality type has most to do with nudist behavior, most of the time.
I'm an introvert. So I guess it's no surprise that the women in my life have been extroverts! I've talked about how my ex, once she got though her reluctant stage, became very socially active and very visible in our nudist social circles. This was no different from how she was in the textile world; only then she also did it with no clothes on. My current fiancee, after spending our first day at Club O and her first time ever socially nude, ended up having conversations with every single nudist sitting by us.
Myself, unless I'm involved in physical activity like swimming or running - where I may "temporarily" appear like an extrovert because of the nudist "euphoria" I'm feeling - I'm a quiet dude. Being the "center of attention" is something I otherwise shy away from. So I do admire those people who are just "out there", being social and meeting "10 new nudists" in the course of an afternoon, being involved, who have no issues being "front and center of attention." I have loved bringing the women in my life and just seeing them bring that extrovertedness to nudism. And it has helped me as well be less "reclusive."
I think extroverts are essential to nudism because of the confidence their outgoingness can instill in others. It's communicable. I've seen shy newbies/reluctant spouses interact with extroverts and gain from them the motivation to be socially nude. They are otherwise often just a pleasure to be around; more so than the introvert sitting on the other side of the pool not saying or doing much of anything.
That being said, is there a point where nudist extrovertedness can "cross a line"? I think some extroverts can be oblivious to other nudists' comfort levels. I've mentioned guys randomly starting conversations with people in very "in your face" ways. But it's not just men who do this; both my ex and fiance have also done it. Although people's reaction to it may have been different because they were women, there is still an element of "surprise" when someone looks up at a person talking to them and it's a labia that appears directly in their line of vision. Although the situation might be inconsequential in the textile world...well it's a bit different in the nudist world.
But I still think that extroverts are so essential to nudism that the occasional "thoughtlessness" is a relatively small price to pay - unless it is brazenly offensive. We need them there. How boring would nudism be if it was just people sitting around the pool quietly minding their own business?
Although I haven't been to any resort or beach yet. I was exceedingly shy from as early as I remember, and it's still with me just a little. My sister would walk up to strangers and start a conversation, I was scared of strangers at 2 years old and wanted to hide. Being center of attention makes me uncomfortable, and that's before naked even comes into the picture. Being in a crowd makes me uncomfortable slightly, even a small one. It's just the way the genes fell I guess, coupled with life's experience of course can modify the original nature somewhat. Working alone out in the woods and gardens is what I like. I think I'd enjoy a certain amount of social life nude, as long as it's the right kind. Gardening with other nude loving souls would be best. I like to call it Adam and Eve style gardening. Although there aint no Eve yet. Sometimes I wish there was, but it can wait awhile yet. ----------ReubenT
A subject similar to this was discussed several years ago. As I remember a lot of people who were normally very shy became very out going and personable when they were nude. This was very surprising to them and unbelievable to their companions. The one reason that I remember this is, the same thing happened to me. I was always very shy and reserved, but after becoming a social nudist, I became very out going. I would introduce myself and talk to strangers which is something I would have never done as a textile. Through the years I have heard many other people discuss similar behavior. Seems like it is quite common.
A subject similar to this was discussed several years ago. As I remember a lot of people who were normally very shy became very out going and personable when they were nude. This was very surprising to them and unbelievable to their companions. The one reason that I remember this is, the same thing happened to me. I was always very shy and reserved, but after becoming a social nudist, I became very out going. I would introduce myself and talk to strangers which is something I would have never done as a textile. Through the years I have heard many other people discuss similar behavior. Seems like it is quite common.
I might have responded in that older thread. I have gained more confidence since becoming a nudist, and it has spilled over to speaking to large groups at work, too.
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