I can see clothing optional as being good for someone who has never been nude in public. The park I go to all the time is that way and was easier for me the first time. I got undressed quickly when I got there, the people were nice and I felt strange being dressed while everyone else was nude. LOL
I have heard some resorts allow first time visitor to be clothed but nude on follow up visits. They do require you to be nude in pool or hot tub. I think that is a good alternative so a newbie can have time to adjust.
Having done it, I disagree with the "clothing optional" option, especially for a first-timer.
When I first arrived, everyone was at least partially clothed, and it just felt wrong. I persisted in staying a while, and maybe an hour later there were two or three nude people. Although still fully clothed myself, it started to feel like maybe I was in the right place. Not long after, I also stripped, and before long was among mostly nude people, at which point it felt perfectly OK, except for the clothed kids. That still felt weird, though they didn't notice or care. The few remaining clothed people still evoked a little trepidition, that not only was I in a totaly new and foreign environment, but from the people around me couldn't be certain what was "proper" for that environment. Having not yet been in a "nude required" environment, I can only speculate that it would have been more comfortable, but I do feel rather strongly it would.
Time, and experience will tell.
Some may think they'd be more comfortable in a "clothing optional" environment, and perhaps that should be available for them, but if my experience is any indication, it's like wearing a rented tuxedo to clean a clogged sewer. You *can* do it, but it doesn't mean you should.
Having done it, I disagree with the "clothing optional" option, especially for a first-timer. When I first arrived, everyone was at least partially clothed, and it just felt wrong. I persisted in staying a while, and maybe an hour later there were two or three nude people. Although still fully clothed myself, it started to feel like maybe I was in the right place. Not long after, I also stripped, and before long was among mostly nude people, at which point it felt perfectly OK, except for the clothed kids. That still felt weird, though they didn't notice or care. The few remaining clothed people still evoked a little trepidition, that not only was I in a totaly new and foreign environment, but from the people around me couldn't be certain what was "proper" for that environment. Having not yet been in a "nude required" environment, I can only speculate that it would have been more comfortable, but I do feel rather strongly it would. Time, and experience will tell. Some may think they'd be more comfortable in a "clothing optional" environment, and perhaps that should be available for them, but if my experience is any indication, it's like wearing a rented tuxedo to clean a clogged sewer. You *can* do it, but it doesn't mean you should.
Curt, while this may have been true for you (a man), Iknow that most (not all) women feel most comfortable their first time at a C/O venue. Most (not all) womenare comfortable taking their clothes off because it's what they've decided THEY want to do not because it's required or insisted upon. My first "social" experience nude was at a clothing optional camp. Had it been a requirement to be nude, I wouldn't have gone to begin with. A lot of women feel pretty much the same. I can say though, that the atmosphere at the place we went was so relaxed and matter of fact that I was completely nude within 15 minutes of being there.
Hehe...I can't believe I missed this thread over the last 5 months, my trolling skills must be slipping. lol
The reason I say that, is because this thread is important to me, as my wife is most certainly NOT a nudist. While she has no problems with my lifestyle (lol...she likes seeing me nude, I think she's blind lol), she has some major self image/confidence issues. So thank you to the ladies (and every one else for that matter) for sharing their experiences and/or suggestions. While I accept that she is not a nudist, I would like her to be and I truely think that given time and a lot of leeway, she may get there eventually. I don't want her to become one because that's what I do or that we can do more things together (though that would be a definate plus), but I truely feel that if she got into nudism it would do wonders for her self confidence. Nudism does so much for ones self confidence, as a general rule people don't judge you on your appearance, just accept you for who you are, not what you look like and I feel that would be very good for her to experience. Saying all that though, I'm not pushing her in that direction and if she never becomes one that's perfectly fine with me.
Anyways, on the topic of clothing optional or required, well I have to say I like clothing optional. lol...For one thing, my wife will actually go to that (and has in the past, well beaches mostly), but not only that, it allows people to ease into it. Sure, for some it's good that they jump in with both feet, but when it comes to displaying (and that's what it feels like the first time you do it) your naked body in a social setting, it can be VERY intimidating. Not just for women, but for men as well. At least with clothing optional you can go at your own pace and go from there. It's hard to get someone to do something if they feel forced to do it, everybody seems to have a bit of a rebel in them. lol
This is a great topic for us.My new wife has agreed to try a co skinny dipping area in vermont.I used to go with my ex wife many years ago but my new wife has never been.I have told her that she only needs to do what she feels comfortable doing.She agreed to go topless and then see what happens from there.I think that the best approach is to lovingly compliment my wife and not be demanding or pushy.I think that once she feels the sun on her bare skin,the rest will come naturally.She has a wonderfull attitude about life and is not uptight so I really expect good results for us but it must come slowly with no demands.
This is a great topic for us.My new wife has agreed to try a co skinny dipping area in vermont.I used to go with my ex wife many years ago but my new wife has never been.I have told her that she only needs to do what she feels comfortable doing.She agreed to go topless and then see what happens from there.I think that the best approach is to lovingly compliment my wife and not be demanding or pushy.I think that once she feels the sun on her bare skin,the rest will come naturally.She has a wonderfull attitude about life and is not uptight so I really expect good results for us but it must come slowly with no demands.
That sounds like a good approach, good luck on it.
Hello everyone,I have friends that are femael and arent nudists and im wondering how some of the female members in this site get motivated to become nude
I like it, it saves laundry, easy to pack for a trip and I enjoy the attention I get!
Simples !
Love n stuff,
Rudie
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This is a great topic for us.My new wife has agreed to try a co skinny dipping area in vermont.I used to go with my ex wife many years ago but my new wife has never been.I have told her that she only needs to do what she feels comfortable doing.She agreed to go topless and then see what happens from there.I think that the best approach is to lovingly compliment my wife and not be demanding or pushy.I think that once she feels the sun on her bare skin,the rest will come naturally.She has a wonderfull attitude about life and is not uptight so I really expect good results for us but it must come slowly with no demands.
You are so taking the right approach, and if you help her be comfortable (and praise her bravery along with her appearance) with whatever steps she takes, you'll likely be at least somewhat of a nudist couple before too long. Baby steps are what got my sweet wife to the point she's now comfortable nude with our friends at the resort. She would not take the clothes off on our first three trips.
Great decision, and best of luck!
I think some is to please the husband or boyfriend. Then some are exhibitionists. But like the women on here stated they have been brought up to believe there body needs to be perfect. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I know the beaches that I go to that hardly anyone has a perfect body once they are nude. That is men and women both, they may look great with clothes. I would like more people to say this is the way I am. If I am happy with my body that is all that counts. If you look at my profile you will see I need to lose some. I agree but I am still happy to be nude and enjoy the sun with friends.
I always get into passionate debates with friends on this general
subject. As it has been touched on by others I disagree that there
should be concern about convincing anyone else to go nude. They don't
want to? Ok that's fine. However what's important is being able to if
you do want to. I completely agree with Leanne
that partitioning ourselves from everyone else is not a good solution.
In fact I really do contend that partitioning and having "nude only"
destinations only makes things worse. Textile dependent people will
only wonder what "those people" are doing behind the fences.
I
think that once people are OK with others being nude then they will be
OK with being nude themselves. The challenge is making sure that one's
own nudity is not a big deal. I don't think the question should ever
be "Why won't that person get naked?" It should instead be "Why on
earth couldn't I be naked?"
We kind of have a perfect storm of
ideas to contend with when it comes to nudity. Religion, Law,
Sexuality. All subjects which people are passionate about and have a
lot of flexibility in interpretation. This kind of institutionalizes
textilism informally. People grow up just "knowing" that nudity in
general is not OK and/or even bad.
I think this last
point relates specifically to girls as they are taught to hide their
sexuality. Males are "expected" to be promiscuous to some extent.
Since many people equate nudity directly to sex it is easy to logically
conclude that they have more reason to cover up based on this incorrect
fact.
There are a lot of forces at play here. Hopefully the "choir" isn't too bored back there :-p
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