why do textile people feel so intimidated
Why do textile folks think we are so far off balance? I mean lets face it since everyone of us were young we were curious to see naked people, it feels better, its more enjoyable and we were born that way. we enjoy being nude with people around or at home, we dont mind people looking at us even though we are not much to see anymore, Modesty but Curious? Not a single person I know would turn their heads quickly if someone was naked, but at the same time they all say oh I couldnt do that, We have close friends who say that but always ask questions about nudism
My neighbor cought me a couple of times , once I ran out to my car to grab my phone and then she cought me getting my paper both time she waved hi it was like a day latter I saw her out so figured I go talk to her hope she was not offended she told me she did not have a problem but was surprised I was so ununhibited and she is in her mid 70s
When we started going to camps, so many years ago, told many textile friends about the places we visited. They all said, sounds like an awesome place maybe we can all go together. Then mentioned it was nude, and the conversation about joining in abruptly stopped ! The looks were priceless, haha. Hell we were 32 yrs younger, if ya get the drift. No good reason not to join in but love them all the same.
I know I have shared this before, but when we lived out in the country in Missouri, my neighbor caught me on the back porch nude drinking my morning coffee!! She stumbled all over herself apologizing!! Well the next morning she was sitting on my bench nude!! My wife was out town and so was her husband!!Come to find out Beth was a closet nudist!! Whenever our spouses would leave town we enjoyed each others company!! But as to answer why are they intimidated is because they may not have ever opened up their mind to nudity!! My first wife and my present wife, were and are intimidated by my nudity!! They thought and think nudity is all about sex!!
Why do textile folks think we are so far off balance? I mean lets face it since everyone of us were young we were curious to see naked people, it feels better, its more enjoyable and we were born that way. we enjoy being nude with people around or at home, we dont mind people looking at us even though we are not much to see anymore, Modesty but Curious? Not a single person I know would turn their heads quickly if someone was naked, but at the same time they all say oh I couldnt do that, We have close friends who say that but always ask questions about nudism
Most close friends know we're nudists, life is much simpler through being open about our preference for living naked, we can talk about where we've been if it was a nudist weekend trip without pretending it was somewhere else! Close friends accept as for who we are, those we don't know us so well are more likely to be the ones asking lots of questions about nudism. We don't mind them seeing us naked either, if not in person then they'll probably see the photos dotted around our home from various nudist trips.
I'm not sure if its our actual nudity that can intimidate the less confident ones as much as the openness and confidence that they may encounter from both ourselves and our nudist friends when we're naked in their company, or even when we're all required to be dressed. Among reasons that nudists often give for enjoying our way of life is the increased self-confidence that social nudity can bring, and how much more open our relationships are with nudist friends compared to even our longest-term textile friends. We hide nothing physically from each other in nudist situations and it seems to follow that we hide far less mentally too.
The opposite, i.e. why do some textile people do not feel intimidated, seems to be more interesting.
In my own experience I've found that older people appear to be more tolerant and far less intimidated.
Earlier this year our auntie, who's to become 71, stayed with us for short of a month. Not that she isn't adorable and easy going and a great company but my home nudity was largely curtailed, until I decided enough is enough. Close to her leaving, one night when wifey wasn't at home I offered her tea to her room upstairs and did it naked, asking her: "If my nudity offends you in any way tell me so to cover up." To my complete awe and delight she replied: "Not at all; I've been around nudist friends and acquaintances in Baja [where she lives] and I don't mind." And she added jokingly laughing: "Just don't ask me to get naked too!", leaving it to my imagination that she might consider doing it had I asked... I only wished I had asked her from the beginning. Wife's reaction when she saw me naked with her was: "Arent you ashamed that auntie is seeing you naked?" Before I could answer, auntie's reply to her was a shocker to both: "Why's that? Haven't YOU seen him naked before?", stating that for her nudity is natural, even if that's something she wouldn't do, and leaving my wife unarmed in her intents for me to dress up.
More recently my wife was making a fuss that I started to get naked at home around our 2 maids who come in 3 days a week. One is circa 50, the other about 30. Older was startled at first but has since then acted naturally whereas the younger was and is still clearly shocked, turning around to avoid looking at me. I asked the older one yesterday: "Does it bother you that I'm naked around you?" She said: "No, I don't mind, I know you're not an exhibionist and I that you have no sexual intents. Otherwise I would have already told you "come on, sir, what's this about?" and asked you to behave properly." With such clarity, I only had to add: "Yes, I'm nudist and I enjoy being naked whenever it's appropriate."; also my wife finally has given up now.
Personally I can't or choose not to test the waters like that. Yes I feel like my skin is crawling so to speak with extended company and want to say the heck with it. I just nixed a retired relative from a self invited extended stop over. He just left his sisters house after a 2 month visit. I think I would have shot myself.
I don't think I would test the waters that way either. I only get naked where I know it's acceptable. It is usually amongst a lot of textiles. Even though my friend(s) and I may be the only ones naked we never get a bad reaction. Maybe older men are less intimidating (poor things we're past it!). BTW Everyone around me knows of my nudism and will chat about it but that does not mean they want to see me naked around my village - well one or two might.
I have to agree with AndyDi. People have been taught since children to associate nudity with sex. A child walks into the living room naked and the first thing the parents say is, "Go put some clothes on! You should be ashamed of yourself!" It is this kind of conditioning, repeated over and over again that has made everyone so uptight about being naked even when there is nobody else in the house.
I think nudist are people that must be thinking outside the box. Nudist have asked the question, "Why?", "Why should I be ashamed of myself?" Once you grapple with this question long enough you realize it doesn't make any sense. The next thing to do is test your new found theory by being nude by yourself for extended periods of time around the house doing laundry or other chores or just drinking a cup of coffee after your shower in the morning. Little by little you realize how wrong the textiles are about body shame.
Why do textile people feel so intimidated by Nudity ?
We are taught from childhood to never be seen naked . To never let someone see that we are naked . And heaven forbid , that we enjoy being naked . When I became confident and open to being seen , because I had already been seen by total strangers while walking a beach completely naked , I found such freedom . That was in October of 2013 . Now I never go to that beach with a swimsuit . Just wear shorts that I can slide off , and slide on when needed . Still put on shorts when I see someone walking towards me at the beach , but that's out of respect . Most people have no experience with nudity other than taking a shower , because they were never taught to enjoy it for its own sake , and they think they must be clothed at all times because society Told them to be that way . I Enjoy being naked , and I break the normalcy of society's rules every day while home .
We as nudists are outside of that restrictive thinking . For me it's now expanding beyond being naked to openly inviting fellow nudist friends to come visit me at my home . Always tell them to come visit , and visit my area of Michigan , near Lake Michigan . I can show them the beach on Lake Michigan I visit to lay out naked when it's warm and most days during the summer . Nothing like having sun on bare naked skin . Thanks . Steve
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