what aare we realy searching for here? in my country nobody seems to want real fun,just exhibitionism and masturbation on cam
Not just your country, to read complaints from here and there. My partner and I made the decision not to own a cam - at least not on the desktop we use to browse the internet - which cuts almost all of that stuff out. I sometimes regret turning down a new friend's request to skype, but the decision is made, so there's no person-by-person judgement call. Sometimes we can conduct a conversation in messages, more usually not.
Technology has its place with its strengths and weaknesses, but if it helps us to make live connections to local people with similar interests and hold meaningful dialogue with those who are far enough away that we would never know, it's worthwhile.
So many naturists set rules which take the fun out of nudism. And, on the other hand, too many just want to get sexual. There is a happy medium. There is a way to enjoy non-sexual nudity. Really it's just about us all being comfortable (and relaxed) in our own skins. Some may call it exhibitionism just because we happen to be in public with no clothes on. I think they are mistaken.
I really enjoy being naked in public (where its allowed) and posting masses of pictures. But I stopped using skype because too many wanted to watch me masturbating.
I realised after been a member for a time that it is only for reading/making/replying posts on here. Yes my computer has got a cam built in but the first thing I did was to blank it out and that is the way it will stay and it was the same with the last computer as well.
All of you are absolutely right. I, myself, have never used Skype video chat or any kind of video chat with other nudists. That's why there is messaging on Skype and on TN itself. If I message them or they message me and we can hold a conversation, then I am willing to share other methods of getting in contact (usually email or skype). Then, where it goes from there will be a natural course of our friendship and nothing more. If the message goes unresponded or they just want to cam chat, then I know what they were probably going for. I'm not condemning them for those choices, but I prefer to chat with people and get to know them. So for myself, I have not seen anything like that.
I really thought TN was a forum for bringing people who accepted or enjoyed a nude lifestyle on the same platform. I imagined it to be one that put people in touch who had no inhibitions or doubts about wanting to be clothes free. Being a True Nudist firstly means being true to yourself and unafraid of what others might think of you. Everyone who gets on this site should share this common thread. It therefore surprises me that there are people here who are allowed to hide behind private profiles. There is another site which is very fair in this regard and does not let 'members' view any one else's pictures unless they are in the same state of dress or undress in their profiles as the person whose pictures or profiles they want to view. People who are just curious about nudity or only want the visual delight of nude pictures should be directed to some other site specifically for this purpose.
I believe that this is a forum for the pure pleasure of being in one's own skin and sharing that with others. It is essentially a non sexual site.It is expected that whatever goes on here in public had to have a certain decorum and decency. When people get in touch with each other what they do in the privacy of their chats or cam sessions is entirely their business and not the responsibility of this site. It is unfortunate though that many nudists here still equate nudity with sex and use the opportunities, , verbal or visual, for titillation and what ever else that follows. I guess each of us needs to define what we are looking for and make that very clear so that the boundaries we set are not crossed.
I've met some wonderful and had some great social chats here and then again I've been taken unawares, to say the least, by a couple of others, desperately drowning in shades of blue!
OP, I am sorry that you have encountered so many guys who just want sexual camming. There are a lot of us here that do not (starting with the guys replying here). I have also decided not to cam nude for several reasons.
But you may want to open up your profile a bit more to get the non-cammers interested in communication. Good luck.
I am a naturist. I have been for over 30 years. I enjoy wearing no clothes - especially in natural settings like forests, rivers, beaches, etc. I believe people being nude around each other is good for a number of reasons. I am here to help others learn about and experience the benefits of being socially nude, and to learn more myself.
One of the things I've learned is that there are a lot of people who mix social nudity & open sexual activity*. I believe the people who conflate social nudity & open sexual activity hurt the broader acceptance of social nudity. But those people don't care and they aren't going anywhere. Many of them have an agenda of making open sexuality socially acceptable. And they are happy to use the label "nudism". I am also here to say that "nudism" does NOT include open sexuality, to be a foil against those who want to use "nudism" as a cover for their sexual activity/agenda.
* "Open sexual activity" is engaging in sex not in private. It includes "swinging" (swapping partners & having sex with multiple people), exhibitionism, voyeurism, and just having sex in view of others.