art of conversation??
So, i don't get on here as much as i would like. I do use the chat rooms occasionnaly and i find them OK , it can hard to break into conversations etc. and there are groups who now each other well
my question is
Are people not interested in replying to a pm? If not should pm be removed?
I know women seem to get inundated with blank friend requests. I came here to make friends with fellow nudists, male , female or couples.
have we lost the art of the online conversation ???????
My opinion is: A trend began in our public schools a few years ago resulting in many schools no longer teaching cursive writing; no longer teaching the art of writing short stories and essays; no longer teaching how to use a library, a dictionary or even a telephone book. Children are being taught to use their smart phones, tablets and computers to obtain instant answers and solutions. Most of these things are small but important parts of social interaction, of communication between people. They help define the art of communication.
thanks man of wicklow,
i understand your point, however some people ,me included ,don't have the luxury u enjoy by showing by being able to show face. sad reflection of society but fact.
it a negative reflection of u , that you are judging a book by its cover , tut tut
@Derman
I don't pretend to speak for everyone but thought I'd give you my thoughts on conversation in the chat room and private messages. I chat in the room a fair bit in winter, less in summer, and have found that there are some really interesting conversations to be had ... and a whole lot more people who are not natural conversationalists but it's just like real life - you hit it off with some people and not others. Yes, there are conversations going on in the main room between people who chat together frequently but that doesn't mean there isn't room for you ... it just means you should sit back and watch for a bit and then contribute when you can.
As for private messages, reactions will be a mixed bag and don't be offended if people don't respond because there are umpty-nine reasons that might happen. Some people disable private messages - I do when I just want to hangout in the main room. Some people are already having private conversations when you send them a pm. And sometimes your opening conversational gambit is lame or off-putting. No one is obligated to respond to a private message.
Women are drastically outnumbered by men so are you sending private messages to people with whom you have things in common, regardless of sex, or are you just cold-calling every woman who enters the room? There are a lot of women on here who are younger and prettier than I am and yet I am still inundated with pms. If I enter the room and seconds later receive a private message from someone I don't know, chances are I am not going to respond to it. I'm still settling in and want to say hi to the room and see who's there and what's going on. Do you know that a couple of weeks ago I forgot to log off and in the space of a few hours had received 43 private messages (I actually counted them as I closed the windows) from people with whom I'd had no prior contact? A few had interesting opening lines that showed they had read my profile but the vast majority just said "hi" or "are you naked?" Guess which ones I ignored?
This is a social networking site so why not use it that way? Browse the profiles and when you find an interesting one that catches your eye, send them a message (not a private message through the chat) and see if they respond? After a bit of back and forth you can request friendship if it seems you are going to hit it off. If you prefer to chat with that person then invite them to the chat room or send them a message if you see them in the room but again, please understand that if you don't get a response it doesn't mean you are being ignored - they might just be busy.
As others have mentioned, your headless photo is off-putting and personally, I don't think I'd respond to you. I would much rather see a clothed photo that includes your face than yet another headless naked pic but if you aren't comfortable with that, why not a profile of yourself looking into the distance? Or hugging your dog and your dog partially blocks your face? The photo you have included is soulless and doesn't give any clue as to your character. I don't see any real conversation starters in your profile so I'm unlikely to message you out of the blue; why not find some profiles you admire and make a list of the attributes that drew your attention? Then use that as a template to craft a more appealing profile of your own?
I guess what I'm saying is, take it slow, reach out to people you have things in common with and put some effort into your profile - it's about all we have to form our first impression of you.
I hope some of this helps,
Karen
I understand what people are saying about faceless pictures and agree it needs a substantive profile to overcome the lack of info a body only shot gives. However, having worked in schools and being asked to leave for being a naturist (uk) I can fully understand the pressure our working lives can put on such openness . MOW it is not easy for everyone to be open on here please show some degree of empathy to the situations of others.There is no excuse for a blank profile, this is a social group and as suggested pictures not showing full face do give some info as to what you are. The art of conversation is having something to work with, my profile might be too long but i don't care I prefer people to friend me because they see something in me that they connect with, I would put up loads more pictures showing what i do but there is no longer anyone to hold the camera for meAs for schools no longer teaching conversation, not sure that is true, formal writing perhaps but connecting with others . What the trend is certainly for is not written media, without the visual many now fail to connect with the writer, unless it is in text and shallow messages on social sites. Sad world especially for me as i love books and writing but times will change.
Yes I agree, Nakednaturist, but there is no excuse for breaking the rules regarding (headless genital shots). There are many here not showing their face on pics, and manage to do so without having their genitalia as main focal point, (which is what it becomes with most headless shots)
Well said Karen! I get a little frustrated myself, but it's just like building any other friendship. You don't exactly buddy up with people unless you have something in common, have similar interests, or have developed that "warm fuzzy feeling" of trust. Be patient.
... it's just like building any other friendship. You don't exactly buddy up with people unless you have something in common, have similar interests, or have developed that "warm fuzzy feeling" of trust. Be patient.
It's true. The online world is no different that the real world- it just takes time to make new friends.
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