Older couple created a triad relationship with a younger man
So, I've been with my (one) husband for almost 20 years. We were not monogamous, but we did only play with others while together. Never separate, that felt like cheating to us. We were seeing younger guys. We were told by them that they preferred older mature guys because we were stable, had less drama, and we knew what we wanted.
We had been considering the idea of polyamory. A year ago we met a young man. We were all three compatible, enjoyed each others company, and we all fell in love. We are now "thrusbands". We are exclusive and do not play with others. He is very submissive and eager to learn and to please. We benefit in that he makes us feel vibrant, virile, young.
We have not seen anything negative from this relationship. We all love each other, we all share each other, and we all want to be with each other. No harm, no foul. There is no room for jealousy in polyamorous relationships. One feels joy for the other two if one cannot be there. We do occasionally travel separately for work, so one may be solo and two remain together.
As with any other relationship, whether with two or more persons, it is a relationship based on love and trust.
This falls under "shit that we do not need to know". I mean, what relevance is this to us or anyone really? Exactly what does this have to do with naturism? I swear people love to just overshare things.
Actually, young man, I was asked by the owner of the group to discuss my relationship. So, if you're unhappy with the content of the discussions here, don't let the virtual door hit you in the naked ass on your way out.
I'm still introducing him into public nudism. In fact, of the three of us, I really only consider myself a nudist. My first husband will skinnydip when we host or go to parties, but my other husband only skinnydips with us. He's still very shy. The younger generation has been taught body shaming. It is tough, but possible, to unteach.
As I evolve from my close-minded evangelical Christian past, I commend you for sharing. I fully believe you that your triad is one based on love, respect and trust. As I recover as a single dad from a harmful marriage, I am trying to be open to new ways of thinking including polyamorism. It's natural to be deeply skeptical of poly relationships, but look how traditional marriage is faring and I'm another statistic against it. I love Oscar Wilde's quote: Bigamy is having one wife too many. Monogamy is the same.
I continue to find the non-traditional orientation community inspiring and as I man I feel you are the pioneers and pathfinders as society as a whole struggles to redefine itself. You don't have many examples to follow and seem to improvise with strong integrity communication and good will. You make it work because of who you are rather than what you expect or think you deserve.
My hats off to you and my pants too!
This falls under "shit that we do not need to know". I mean, what relevance is this to us or anyone really? Exactly what does this have to do with naturism? I swear people love to just overshare things.
I'm going to ask you to answer your own question, except I want you to explain why a site that is devoted to improving the human condition through a life transforming practice should not discuss or present alternate basic social units for men.
The idea that gay men, persecuted and still made to suffer disproportionate relationship failure should rather just be heteronormative is appalling. Don't like it? Don't read it. I very much appreciated this honour and it's relevant to my interests as a researcher and a nudist.
This falls under "shit that we do not need to know". I mean, what relevance is this to us or anyone really? Exactly what does this have to do with naturism? I swear people love to just overshare things. The idea that gay men, persecuted and still made to suffer disproportionate relationship failure should rather just be heteronormative is appalling. Don't like it? Don't read it. I very much appreciated this honour and it's relevant to my interests as a researcher and a nudist.
Well said! Without walking in "gay" shoes, it's hard for me to understand life as a gay man. Please forgive us more heteronormatives for our hypocrisy and close-mindedness. Even I notice how our ranks balk at anything new and "gay" and in a couple of years you hear "What do you mean "gay" thats just normal." You are the movers and shakers in a world which badly needs to be moved and shaken and it is good.
Aug . 20 , 2018 . Thanks StoneAndy .
It is true that things that at one time seemed more risque' , or more geared towards gay themes , like being shaved of all my Pubic Hair , is now often just accepted as a normal activity , if done so , by nudists . Big deal , big whoop .
I know being shaved is still an unusual sight to see outside of the gay community , and even within it . Especially here in the Mid - West in Michigan . I am shaved , because I choose to be , and part of a community swimming pool , where we all shower in an open gang shower room , with everyone exposed of their nudity , except those who were taught ( wrongly ) to never be seen naked , even in a locker room after swimming and changing into street clothes , and where everyone can observe if someone is shaved or not . Most are not , and that's OK . No one thinks less of me because I am shaved , and that I openly let others see that I'm shaved , while taking that naked shower after swimming in the pool . It's just who I am . How I am . Big whoop .
Thanks . Steve
Well, if the title is of no relevance to you, then just move on without reading the content. There is no need for rude and demeaning comments. If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all.
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