Sexual Orientation
I'll chat and be friends with almost anyone, unless they have a blank profile and have been on TN for a year or more. Like anyone else I don't like labels but it is nice to know that I'm chatting with another gay man. Sometimes I chat about things only another gay man would know about so it's good to know in that situation. Otherwise I don't mind.
In reply to OP, no it does not matter to me whether a person identifies their orientation or puts NA. I love posts from people who have interesting stories to tell. I make that clear in my narrative profile. I am more inclined to read a profile in deciding whether and how to communicate with people on here.
I put my own orientation here so that the people who have clearly stated (in some cases screamed) their dislike of homosexuals categorically can bypass my profile. Nevertheless, one of the most strident on that topic requested friend status three times until I finally blocked her, out of sheer fatigue. So I stand by reading the narrative as a way to judge whether to friend, not look at pics and such.
Two people have refused to talk to me because I would not declare my sexual orientation. One was a straight man, the other a gay man.
Of the two, the gay man was the most crude about it. When I tried to deflect the question with a generic "it's complicated" answer he replied, (and I quote here) "No it's not. Either you like to suck ____ or you don't! So which is it?" I said I prefer not to say and he disconnected.
The straight guy was only slightly nicer. When I declined to say if I was gay or straight he said, "That tells me all I needed to know. Bye."
In both cases I couldn't be happier.
I'm here to meet and talk with as diverse a group of people as I can, especially people who are not like me. In almost every case I can find things in common and build on that and I learn so much more from having diverse friendships and conversations. The only people I really don't want to associate with are those who are so narrow minded they refuse to even talk with someone based on their sexual orientation.
To quote the one guy, that tells me "all I need to know" about that person.
You are not alone on this. I am a gay senior. I am also a social nudist and keep the two as separate as possible. I have many straight clothed and nudist friends. Yet, I have connected online with members that block me or refuse to even chat because I list myself as "gay" even though they have never met me in person. Or taken the time to chat online. A few have even said in their messages that a second reason was that I was "too old". Instead of being accepting and inclusive of all nudists, some seem to use this website as their personal morality site. I have no answer on how to correct it, but I don't think it is fair or what nudity is all about.
There was an informal gathering of guys from TN at a local spa and I went to meet some people. After a few hours, I gave thought to "Who's Gay and Who's Straight" here? It mattered not at all. We were enjoying just being guys naked together. And, in the end, it seemed we had a few of both and in between.
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