Open Letter and gripe to those who mark their files "private" or all of their photos "friends only".
After 20 successful years in the military, and then 4 years working in Government, I understand when a person due to marriage or job is hesitant to show their face on this website. But photos can easily be cropped or faces blocked out when needed. But to blatantly assume that everyone is going to accept you without knowing what you look like is a very pretentious assumption. Guests and non-paying members can only see a limited number of photos on any profile, therefore at least leave some photos as 'public'. The serious nudists that are Paying members and Certified Members can see more or all of any given profile. After all, this is a nudist website, what do we have to hide?
This has been one of my pet peeves for over a year now on TN as well. I'm getting really annoyed when I get members viewing my profile and when I go to view their's its set to Private. To me that sends up red flags that its possibly a fake profile.
After 20 successful years in the military, and then 4 years working in Government, I understand when a person due to marriage or job is hesitant to show their face on this website. But photos can easily be cropped or faces blocked out when needed. But to blatantly assume that everyone is going to accept you without knowing what you look like is a very pretentious assumption. Guests and non-paying members can only see a limited number of photos on any profile, therefore at least leave some photos as 'public'. The serious nudists that are Paying members and Certified Members can see more or all of any given profile. After all, this is a nudist website, what do we have to hide?
I respectfully disagree! This is NOT a nudist website. Many nudists happen to be members here but you must admit that there are many, many undesirables that join here for the sole purpose of seeking nude photos to look at, steal pictures, are gawkers, trolls, pervs and they are not nudists!
I know what everyone has. Why is it so important to see someone's genitalia or headless body? I'd like to see who I'm conversing with. If they can't or won't show their face, I don't need to see their naked body. I know what they have! I, like many other guys with a nudist wife/partner/significant other, get lots of friend requests from blank, private or little to zero info on the person wishing to be friends. They've not contributed on response to a group or forum thread. Contribute nothing but want to be friends with me... why? To look at the pictures I have set to "Friends Only."
You (they) want to see my pictures? How bout you get to know me first, become a friend, earn my trust and then maybe we'll become friends and I'll share my pics with you! This is no free ride just because this is suppose to be a nudist website. ;D
This has been one of my pet peeves for over a year now on TN as well. I'm getting really annoyed when I get members viewing my profile and when I go to view their's its set to Private. To me that sends up red flags that its possibly a fake profile.
It's one of the gripes I get from people/members, after I've visited their profile. What they seem to fail to realize is that they have visited and requested to join one of my TN groups. I state specifically that I screen all perspective members to my groups to keep the group dedicated to real nudists and not just groups collectors, friend collectors and to keep those that are, out!
I can tell this by the groups they join, the pictures they have in their profile , the amount of groups they belong to and how active they are in contributing to those groups. Also, a lot hinges on their profile picture. So many are so obvious about what they are here for. I get lots of visitors to my profile and I know it's not to check me out but to see who it is that visited their profile.
It's has and most likely always will be me checking to see if those people are a good fit to my groups. By the way, I end up blocking so many of these people.
Andy, I do agree with your statement, and nudeingoodyear I also agree with what you are saying. I am not on TN to view naked bodies! Like Andy, I know the differences between men and women and don't need to keep looking at them. However, I do enjoy reading profiles to learn about other people on this site, and, if they have viewed my pictures, I will likely view theirs. What does upset me however, is the person that views my profile, looking at pictures or not, and when I go to do the same to them I have to ask to be a friend before I can learn anything about them. How can I be a friend without knowing ANYTHING about them? Block your pictures, I don't care, but at least complete your profile with a head shot, and allow me to see it. Then, after knowing a little bit about you, I may want to continue our relationship further and truly become a friend.
Agree with you Andy as usual. Unfortunately the site owners just don't do enough to manage the undesireables. They also don't resolve blatant errors/bugs. Don't even give the courtesy of a reply. So I no longer pay and that limits the value.
Ya know, we all have our gripes about this site, it's flaws, it's members, some people but to set the record straight...
nudeingoodyear is a good guy. I've seen many, many of his posts and we've communicated back and forth via the forums and groups and I agree with him most of the time. I can understand his frustration. I certainly am one who wishes we could all be open as some people are willing to be but it just isn't in the cards for some. I've had my rants and gripes posts here and I appreciate those that respond with their opinions. I, like nudeingoodyear, have my own and most times I stick with mine but there are times I truly see the other side and sympathize. This is one of those cases. I wish it were better, nudeingoodyear, I'd like nothing more than to trust everyone that joins this site but we both know that, that is not going to happen. ;D
i find it amusing while in the chatroom and I see someone asking to PM with folks. Then I look at their profile and it is either totally blank or marked " private friends only" I won't chat with people like that. Anyone looking at mine can see me
as for the 'undesirables ' who troll here to get naked pics, shame on them and stupid on them. There are plenty of sites with a far greater percent of those 'perfect' nude bods to go searching in if you want porn.
I think I'm on record, someplace, as saying I'd be all for a Paid Members Only Chatroom on TN. At least I've thought it...:) The current open chatroom is nothing but trolls and drama queens and kings. Heck...I wish this site had a decent Messenger feature similar to what you find on Facebook. Maybe someday we'll have that in a future upgrade. I hate going off site to chat with somebody I hardly even know, so an onsite IM feature separate of the chatroom would be ideal for me.
@funcouple - Did you know you can change your profile name? It's under settings/account, and is as simple as typing in a new one. (People who are certified have locked in their usernames and would have to re-certify, but you're not in that position.)
For myself, I have zero interest in seeing headless bodies, and take the fact that someone has posted one to indicate a misunderstanding, subtle or gross, of social nudism. I'd frankly rather interact with someone with no picture at all who has said meaningful things in posts and in their profile, than with someone who is represented mostly by a torso.
Face pics are nice, don't attract pervs, and are harmless if stolen. I recommend them to all but the most constrained and cautious.
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