New, Eager and looking for advice.
I'm new to being a nudest, and if you read my profile you have seen my interests and how I hope to grow into nudism. The people I have met online and talked to thus far have been great and I look forward to making more friends. One friend I did talk to about with me being new, and worrying about attraction with someone I may be hanging with, what happens if I get an errection. The friend explained that if it happened how to proceed without drawing attention to the situation. He explained that being new, that sometimes it happens, and how with time it is less likely to happen.
I was happy when I ran across this group and I was accepted. Because it seemed like a genuine group that would help new people like me, and be open and honest, and help me transition. So I present a question of what has been most recently on my mind...
What I have found in my research up to the point of joining TN was that nudist accept all shapes and sizes of people and that nudist do not judge on body type, nationality, ect. That nudism is not a "sexual" thing (example hookups) unless you are at a event that is the object for hookups, or both people are attracted to one another and pursue something beyond just being a part of nudism. However I can't help but think that I know that I am a grower, not a shower. I know as humans we are curious and that we all will sneak peeks at someone we may have an attraction to. I worry that people may judge me on size, not just in regards to attraction, but even possibly as friends. I know a lot of this can be a self confidence thing, and we are our own worst critics. I just thought maybe other guys may have dealt with this, and possibly have some advice they could pass along.
I appreciate being accepted to the group and look forward to making new friends, and having those that I can turn to.
Naturism or Nudism is not about sex. It is about body acceptance, and being proud of who you are. We are all shapes and sizes. We are all perfect, and whole. Erections are natural, there is a big hush hush... don't call attraction to it, don't look at it, make it go away.... I think it is nonsense. We are human. Without clothes we are all equal - no matter your equipment. When we are without clothes we are vulnerable. I would lie if I said I did not find other people attractive without clothes, but being horny for sex is not the same as appreciating beauty in others, and how that makes us feel. There is no judgment. Let go of expectations. Have fun. Be respectful. Be honest. The details will take care of themselves :)
Hi lamkraze. I did read your profile and see that you have a lot in common with myself when I first appreciated that I'm a nudist. That includes a history of wanting to get naked when I could on the one hand and being a grower on the other.
I got a lot of encouragement from the TrueNudists' groups when I first joined and came out as a nudist around 7 years ago. I discovered that us nudists are quite ordinary people, not the freaks others would see us as just because we chose to get naked. I soon found a nude guesthouse and was on my first nude holiday. The welcome and reassurance I got set me up for life - for social nudity.
And what advice would I give? Just be yourself - your true self. And then let others know who you are. It's not about body image. It's about personality and being happy (and confident) in your own skin. Us nudists are a friendly bunch. As we shed our clothes we shed our inhibitions. We have nothing to hide, both physically and in personality. You have already put up a full profile. Get involved in (group) discussions and add lots of nude photos. That's what I did. And now I enjoy my nude lifestyle even more and have lots of real-life nudist friends. Going on nude holidays and to nude events is a good way of meeting those friends.
There are only a few rules: Know the difference between nudity and sex - each has its place independent of the other; Have a towel or something to sit on for hygiene; Don't take photos of other nudes without their permission. Erections happen, especially when you are socially nude for the first time - hide it, don't flaunt it. Some places have dress codes. It can vary from obligatory nudity (at pools or in spas for example) to being clothed (for meals). Just ask. Otherwise clothes are optional (CO). When I have gone on holiday in Europe I have looked up the county's nudists' organisation's website to get a list of CO venues and beaches. Some clubs discriminate against single males like myself. I can always find alternatives. Finally joining your own country's naturist organisation gives you extra credibility, opens member-only events and provides legal support.
Thank you for the advice. I greatly appreciate it. I will say so far everyone that I have met on here has been great. I look forward to getting to know everyone more, and making more new friends and meeting people in person.
Hey man, as others have done with me, let me encourage you to just go for it. Ive been a closet nudist for years but was always modest about being naked in front of others. I love being naked when I was alone, but was self conscious about my own body and I was concerned about how my body (specifically, my penis) would react around others. I was fearful of being fully exposed and vulnerable.
But as I got my comfortable in locker rooms, I began to enjoy being a bit more bold about nudity in places where it made sense such as spas and Korean saunas.
Last year, after rediscovering this site, I decided to dive in a bit more. I did some naked hiking and camping (alone) and I visited a couple of nude beaches. Ive also made some great friends through this site. Ive met some of them one on one and hung out casually naked. Last night, I even attended nude yoga for the very first time.
What Ive discovered is that real nudists are truly judgement-free. It had been very freeing for me to feel totally accepted. It does require a degree of vulnerability. It has helped with my own body images, improved my self esteem, and Im growing more comfortable in my own skin.
Like you, I consider myself to be a grower and not a shower. But others always told me its really no big deal to get naked, and Ive discovered that to be true. While the rest of the world maybe judgemental and judge is by our clothes, appearances, etc., the nudist community is very accepting. At least in my experience.
the one thing I like about being a nudist is when we get together everyone is the same, no designer labels, or fancy jewelry, and every body is natural nothing to hide behind. Also you said you where worried about your size don't be just let it hang free. I might suggest you put a couple of naked pics in your profile. I hope you get to enjoy the freedom of being naked, there is never a need to be shy and yes we come in every shape color size but a judgment free zone. happy naked days
Thanks for the advice, I do have some naked pics on my profile and I believe it is set to be able to see them if we are friends. I will take a look at the settings. I am new to the nudist world, and obviously to the use of the site. So I am learning 2 things.. LOL. But again thanks for the words of advice.
I admire how articulate and throughtful your posting is and how it has drawn a lot of genuine affirming responses as a result, so much that I ask "what could I add?"
Like many things in life nudism as a practice is best experienced as a beginner - a permanent newbie. As my comfort level has improved in removing my clothes, I concentrate on stripping off other things such as attitudes and outlooks that don't serve me, and that can feel just as disarming as the first time being pantsless, still a newbie.
Another thing is that as men we have much to gain from the open honesty of hanging naked with other men and the cameraderie and brotherhood it creates. This was a given throughout history, men hanging with men, and it goes beyond any sexual orientation to basic human needs and fufillment. By making men afraid of one another, we are weakened. Homophobia, the kind of fear men have for other men simply because they're men, kills the male psyche and spirit. Fear of erections is just another aspect of homophobia. Boners are related to circulation and sensuality just as much as sexual attraction. Go out naked after a cold winter on the first warm day and chances are you will also find it arousing, and when you realize that you can come out and proudly claim yourself as a solarsexual! No one cares about that since it's not really a word but all the other prefixed sexualities are also made for others more than ourselves. We are men, we are sexual, we get erect and those are simple facts. Our relationships and context matter more than anything else, and fortunately nudism simplifies all that, making our right or left penis hang as important as right or left handedness.
Good luck and welcome!
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