New to living alone
Not only am I new to nudism, Im new at living alone, too. In fact, until recently I have never lived alone.
My partner of 39 years passed away in December 2018. About three months later is when I started becoming a nudist.
Its a strange new world; one to which I am still adjusting, and discovering new things about myself. To help me, I created a blog, My Journey Into Nudism . Its a bit long, totally rambling, and probably contains more information than anyone cares to read, but as I said, the intent was to help me. If anyone reads it and gets something out of it, all the better.
I know others have experienced a similar loss, I would appreciate any insights that they are willing to share about the adjustment. I probably should have read more of the posts before starting this. Sorry.
Thank you for a group that allows for the sharing of real life circumstances.
Thank you, Harry, for your kind words and the hugs.
I am still adjusting, and think I will be for some time to come. I can't say it gets easier, at least not yet, but it does get a little less painful. I now have a new mantra... it is what it is, it's going to be what it is going to be, there is nothing I can do to change it, so I just have to deal with it to the best of my ability and get on with living the best life I can.
I hope you don't have to experience living alone for quite a long time.
There is nothing wrong with living alone, if that is what someone wants to do. But for those of us that have never experienced it, it is a major adjustment.
furry, naked hugs,
Rick
Hi Rick - I am sorry to hear that your partner passed away. As you pointed out, it takes time. My husband turned 80 this year and having some health issues. Concerning.
I find writing cathartic, too. I have been journaling for the last 15 years. Long ago my therapist had suggested me. It helps me check my anxiety.
You may be living alone but you are not alone. Reach out if you need to talk. You know my contact info.
Thank you, Mike.
I hope your husbands health issues are not serious and resolve very soon.
I have always enjoyed writing, but have never been that good at it. But, (here comes the selfish bit) since it is so cathartic I plan to continue; whether it is via the blog/forum or in a journal.
I appreciate your kind offer, and might just take you up on it from time to time.
Thank you, Mike.
I hope your husbands health issues are not serious and resolve very soon.
I have always enjoyed writing, but have never been that good at it. But, (here comes the selfish bit) since it is so cathartic I plan to continue; whether it is via the blog/forum or in a journal.
I appreciate your kind offer, and might just take you up on it from time to time.
When you have shared more than half of your life with someone and suddenly end up widowed it leaves a very large hole that is difficult to fill. I have discovered, after 13 years, that the hole will never be completely filled, but that one can adjust and learn to enjoy the life that is left to them. I did live alone for eight years, but I now share an apartment with my younger brother who is also widowed.
When one gets married there is the adjustment of living together and when a spouse dies there is the adjustment of being alone. I remember sitting in a church pew with people all around and having the loneliest feeling ever. Time makes things easier, but the feeling of loss when you have lost your true love never completely goes away.
I didn't mean this to sound maudling because it is anything but that. I have learned to live life like each day is my last and I have the most wonderful memories of my wife and I have children and grandchildren that hopefully will remember me as the crazy papaw.
Thank you guys so much! All your kindnesses mean a lot.
I know my life will never be the same. I understand what Phrog44 said about the hole never being filled, and that we have to continue on and live the best life we can.
Again, thank you so much
Rick
Hey Rick,
So sorry for your loss. I feel your pain for I lost my husband of 27 years over 11 years ago. Yes it is a hole that will always be there but once you go through the first year and a half (well for me) my life got a bit easier after going through the firsts. The holidays, birthdays, anniversaries, among others. We were nudists together so when it was time for me to get back out in the world I reached out to one of my nudist friends. He got me back into going out to be among people and they were the best to be around. Going to the club I belong to now was the safest place for me to be.
I think about my husband a lot and always will. But life goes on and so have I. So I hope things work out well for you.
Jersey
I'm sorry to hear about your loss. I'm living alone for the first time in my 50 years, though my circumstances are different. (My ex and I broke up a couple of years ago after 27 years together, but continued to live together for nearly another year until I bought a house.)
It does get easier with time, but there are still times that I wake up and wonder how I'm doing it? Picking out paint colors on my own, or deciding which house projects need my attention, and trying to get there by myself -- those are still tough to get used to. The flip side is that I can easily shuck my clothes as soon as I walk in the door and stay that way until I'm ready to leave the house, or I can invite friends over for a naked dinner. Or just drop everything and go out of town at the last minute.
It's a very different existence. Not necessarily bad, but definitely different.
I'm here if you need someone to talk to.
Hugs,
Ben
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