Brand new friends - appropriate questions
Hello, I joined TN to find fellow nudists I can relate to and get guidance as this is a fairly new lifestyle for me. As I have accepted friend requests, twice the very first communication is asking if I am shaved? I asked if they would go up to a clothed woman and ask that question? Then why is it ok to ask me that, especially the very first thing! Also the men that send messages of a sexual nature. This isn't a porn site! Anyone have thoughts, suggestions how to minimize these poorly behaved individuals? If I wasn't so secure in my skin, it would be enough to scare me away.
There is way more perverts on TN than there are true nudist. Why they don't go to a porn site is beyond me. Won't solve the perverted questions problem because of so many on here but id get use to using the block button!!! One problem I see tho....you've been on TN for only 7 days and you already have 96 friends. You're just asking for trouble when you collect friends that soon.....you look easy.....if you understand what I'm saying.
Welcome to TN by the way. Hope your time here gets better and ends up being a good time!!!
Don't confuse this site with actual, real-life social nudism. It's the internet, and it can be a tough neighborhood. Groups are a good way to find like-minded folks - you can judge the tenor of them by the discussion threads they contain, before you join. No one gets notified, by the way, if you delete a friend request or un-friend somebody, so you can let go of any folks you're not comfortable with, drama-free. You are absolutely right that questions right off about your body are inappropriate. Men are idiots. Your tolerance may vary.
I like this site because it gives me a connection to a world that I am not always able to access.
I apologize in advance if my thoughts seem inappropriate.
I'm a Christian, that means I am a Christ follower. As a result I'm not comfortable with posting nude pictures of myself here because that is "on the internet". As a Christian I am concerned with what is sin and what is not. This opens a whole new aspect, and dimension of my proclivity for nudity. I don't believe nudity is in and of itself sinful, if it were we all sin everyday, and the saying that "cleanliness is next to Godliness" is rendered ridiculous. That is because we all bathe everyday.
My premise is, that nudity is not wrong, and is scripturally sound, but because of peoples puritan thought training it would be hard to convince them otherwise. I'm okay with that.
I don't come here with the thought that I am going to satisfy some prurient interest. That is not my interest at all.
I am intrigued by people here that have arranged their lifestyle so that nudity is an accepted practice. Those that have the ability go without clothes. There is a school of thought here however that doesn't allow for my way of thinking. If you don't have a full frontal photo of you on your page that disqualifies you from membership in many groups. That's fine because people should be free to set their parameters on groups they set up but I'm not sure these attitudes help the "True Nudist" cause.
Oh well I'm going to step down from this soapbox now. You go girl!
I see you are now at 104 friends. I suspect you have so many because your pictures are viewable to "friends only" I have had a few so called friends, once accepted I never heard from most of them again. Most friend requests I get are from 20-30 yo Sweet honey's, who I am guessing are looking for a lonely old sugar daddy, or links to what i am guessing are porn sites :-( So you are not the only one targeted by the creepers.
That does suck, unfortunately you won't know if the people here are perverted unless you communicate with them. Good thing is that if they are block em right away. In the beginning I used to get a little offended when i would see "no guys" or something close to that but after being here for a while i understand why. But just keep your head up and block out the negative
I too am somewhat new at this myself. I joined here several years ago out of curiosity, but did not really become active until this year. Like most, I started as a home nudist and then "bravely" visited a nude beach! Once that ice was broken, I started spending more time on here to talk with other like-minded people. Here is what I have found....clearly all my own opinion:
In some ways, things are the opposite of what you would hope. The real nudists tend to be a bit more stand-offish because they don't want to be burned by pervs. The pervs are out to get as many friends as possible, so that they look like regular nudists. To find real people, I spend time in the chat room. You can tell from the chat in there, after a bit of a break-in period, who is real and who is not. Also, if someone sends you a PM and just says "hi"....don't pay attention. If they contact you with something worthwhile, then, certainly take them up in conversation. For example, if I saw you in the chat room, I might say: "Hi there, Alan here, from Wisconsin but did go to school at Drake, in Des Moines. Thought that I would say hi". Hopefully, that is normal enough and we can chat from there.
Think of making someone a friend as a "reward" for a nice chat and potential future chats. Make sense?
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