BartlettPear wroteYeah sorting out the fake profiles from the real is annoying. Maybe there should be ID verification using the same ID that is needed for international flight.
Well, there is "Certification" but it's an imperfect tool. It may convince the site owners that you're the real deal, but beyond that, you're on your own. It's perfectly possible, AFAIK, for an old guy to get certified and then tweak his profile to present himself as a young man or a woman. But for those like myself who really want to meet and socialize with other like-minded people, it would be a pointless exercise, since I'd be exposed as a fraud the instant we met face to face.
Aileron (and I really like that username!) said:Most of the people I chat with are in other countries, so we're never going to meet in person. If they're good conversationalists, it doesn't really matter to me if they secretly aren't who their profile describes.
Or, as Kurt Vonnegut wrote: "We are what we pretend to be, so we must be very careful about what we pretend to be."
Most of the people I chat with are in other countries, so we're never going to meet in person. If they're good conversationalists, it doesn't really matter to me if they secretly aren't who their profile describes.
My name is Patrick Henry. "Give me liberty, or give me death!" Let's chat about Liberty!
More to the point:
"People always tend to be someone else" because we seek acknowledgement, acceptance and understanding. To get these, we learn/ copy from others and present ourselves to be seen as part of the accepted society."
If you pretend to be an attractive young woman here, you will have instance acceptance and your message in-box will light up like a Christmas tree. If you represent yourself as you truly are which may be an older man, then all the old stereotypes will kick in and you be rejected by most. You would be lucky to get one message reply.
The very sad thing in real life is that I constantly speak with older men and women who do indeed fell rejected by society as we are a youth worshiping nation. Yet, so many older people have so much information to share about their life's journey if only someone would give them the chance to engage in conversation. I do and am richly rewarded for doing so.
I prefer real life and real people with real experiences.
I prefer real life and real people with real experiences.I'm not really sure what this has to do with the topic at hand. Interacting with people online doesn't mean you don't also interact with people in person. They aren't mutually exclusive.
For many people with no social skills, interacting on-line is the only way to have any interaction with anyone - whether that interaction be based upon people who are genuine and represent themselves in an honest manner or with fakes.
The topic here is meeting quality people and the best way to do this is in real life where you can much more easily see what you get. It is far too easy to deceive on-line and so people may be just chatting with a bunch of fakes. Some don't care if that is the case just as long as they get a response and a bit of attention. Others prefer genuine people.
Fakes are not quality people. Then again everyone has a different interpretation of what 'quality' means.
UNLUVER101 wrote:If you pretend to be an attractive young woman here, you will have instance acceptance and your message in-box will light up like a Christmas tree. If you represent yourself as you truly are which may be an older man, then all the old stereotypes will kick in and you be rejected by most. You would be lucky to get one message reply.
Which informs me that there are two types of people who frequent this board . There are those who are interested in playing a persona and interacting with people using that persona, and attracting interest and "friends" and attention and thereby getting some sort of validation for that persona. They have no interest in personal contact; in fact, they dread it, since it would give their game away.
And then there are those who actually use the board as an avenue for communication, to exchange information in the hopes of someday meeting others of like mind. The board is only an imperfect substitute for true personal contact, and they would be happy to meet others in the flesh when given an opportunity to do so.
I'm one of the latter. I don't care if I get a single personal message, unless it's directly related to an issue I'm discussing or it presents an opportunity for personal contact (i.e., somebody in my area that I'd like to meet personally once this COVID thing is over). I'm perfectly happy with that arrangement.
Hello,
I hope that you do make the connections you are looking for. A few things to share that might help in your search for genuine friends. I have found that some think that because you have nudism in common that's enough. While it's definitely a starting point there has to be more. We have a plethora of groups that our own user's create that cover a broad spectrum of hobbies and interests. We also have groups tailored to the location of the user's which helps local people get together. I would start there and see if anyone shares your common interests and reach out.
Covid-19 has made it tough for many to go out but with vaccinations rolling out it might be possible to do hikes out and socially distance. The site is a great platform to meet friends but it definitely takes work and having more than nudism in common to make great connections. We've made some great friends on here and it definitely took work and effort but it's worth it if you find your people.
I hope yo do find yours!
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