Uncertainty about circumcision

Hello, I'm 31 years old, and I will probably have to be circumcised. Almost three months ago I had surgery to solve a urological problem, since my frenulum was too short and would pull to much when retracting my foreskin, causing premature ejaculation and discomfort. This surgery anyway made more evident another problem, that of phimosis, being my foreskin tighter than normal. So my doctor told me that in this case circumcision would be highly recommended. My foreskin would go back both in flaccid and erect state, the only issue being that in the state of erection my foreskin would get stuck behind the corona of my glans, and wouldn't slide back and forth over it as it should. Also, sometimes if my foreskin remains pulled back too long, it would start to swell and start to feel very uncomfortable. I also have to say that I don't really like the appearence of my foreskin, which is very long, but having been uncut for 31 years having circumcision now really scares me. What if after that I lose sensitivity? What if I don't like the appearence afterwards? What if the scar would look bad? Or what if something goes wrong? I'm still deciding what to do... I'll have another appointment with my doctor in ten days, and I'll discuss it with him more deeply, but I would like to hear from your experiences also, especially those who were cut at an adult age, how did it change for you, and if you are happy or not with the result. Thank you!

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The foreskin is generally a pretty stretchy piece of tissue. Do you have any insight into why it's not stretchy enough to behave normally? Could be eczema, fungal infection, irritation... or could be that it's just not fully healed from the earlier surgery. Consider any practices or soaps or lube that you might be using to create inflammation / irritation. You might want to wait a bit, and you might want to consult a dermatologist - whose practice seldom resorts to the knife.

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The foreskin is generally a pretty stretchy piece of tissue. Do you have any insight into why it's not stretchy enough to behave normally? Could be eczema, fungal infection, irritation... or could be that it's just not fully healed from the earlier surgery. Consider any practices or soaps or lube that you might be using to create inflammation / irritation. You might want to wait a bit, and you might want to consult a dermatologist - whose practice seldom resorts to the knife.

I have had a tight foreskin all my life, so I think that phimosis is the right diagnosis, as my urologist said. Unfortunately the problem is also the length of the foreskin, if it were shorter maybe I would've been more keen to find alternatives to circumcision. I appreciate your tips and I'll ask my doctor at my next appointment if there is anything else I could try before considering circumcision!

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I was cut at birth because my parents wanted me to "fit in" as an immigrant kid in the US. Circumcision is not practiced in my Swedish culture of origin, so I regret that I was circumcised without my consent. I have two main reasons: foreskin and a covered glans provide a lot of sensual pleasure. Some say foreskin isn't the wrapper but the candy. Second, the exposed glans develops a protective layer of skin to protect in called keratinization. It's good to be Iron Man in some ways, but perhaps not with a desensitized alligator skin glans. Therefore, I have engaged in foreskin restoration and recovered about half my foreskin.

Given the elasticity of foreskin, I recommend you consider stretching it out to compensate for the tightness. You can use emu oil to help, though maybe it would get you hard and do more harm than good. There are also foreskin stretching devices though most are focused on length not width. Medically, I don't know what the parameters are where surgery might be a better option. Nor do I know your level of pain and discomfort and frequency or duration of your erections. Perhaps you could even take meds to keep you flaccid (many have that as a side effect but I'm not aware of an anti-Viagra pill) and go on a porn strike long enough to stretch your foreskin diameter. It takes time but you still have youth on your side. Just a thought. And if you do get the chop, you'll be fine after a few days of pain and recovery.

Either way, I see you have a new penis in your future with new opportunities and pleasure. No worries.

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Due to the constant debate on which is better/more sensitive, I took the time to research in the uni medical library. Firstly, scarring will not make your penis less attractive. Many men in my tropical climate with even fully functional foreskins end up with infection that requires either an incision in the foreskin to loosen it or a circumcision. It is understandable to be apprehensive about removal of the foreskin as it is what you are accustomed to having, we are all very focussed on our penises. Neural imaging shows there is no difference in actual stimulation to the brain overall. Our brain is however a very clever organ. For those circumcised, one rapidly gets used to stimulation that is from clothing or a breeze and the brain figures out when to dampen the messages. Even so, those who were circumcised soon after birth still get un-requested/wanted erections from a breeze, change of temperature, moisture, etc.. You will be fine, but discuss all concerns with your treating physician or even get a second opinion. Best of luck.

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I was cut at birth because my parents wanted me to "fit in" as an immigrant kid in the US. Circumcision is not practiced in my Swedish culture of origin, so I regret that I was circumcised without my consent. I have two main reasons: foreskin and a covered glans provide a lot of sensual pleasure. Some say foreskin isn't the wrapper but the candy. Second, the exposed glans develops a protective layer of skin to protect in called keratinization. It's good to be Iron Man in some ways, but perhaps not with a desensitized alligator skin glans. Therefore, I have engaged in foreskin restoration and recovered about half my foreskin.Given the elasticity of foreskin, I recommend you consider stretching it out to compensate for the tightness. You can use emu oil to help, though maybe it would get you hard and do more harm than good. There are also foreskin stretching devices though most are focused on length not width. Medically, I don't know what the parameters are where surgery might be a better option. Nor do I know your level of pain and discomfort and frequency or duration of your erections. Perhaps you could even take meds to keep you flaccid (many have that as a side effect but I'm not aware of an anti-Viagra pill) and go on a porn strike long enough to stretch your foreskin diameter. It takes time but you still have youth on your side. Just a thought. And if you do get the chop, you'll be fine after a few days of pain and recovery.Either way, I see you have a new penis in your future with new opportunities and pleasure. No worries.

I'm sorry that you had to undergo circumcision only to homologate, for sure that's not a good reason, especially if done under no consent of the interested individual. I actually tried stretching it in the past, and it partially worked, but as of today it got tight again, meaning that the issue is still there. I think if I stretch again I could gain a few results, but in time they will probably fade and I'll be back at the same situation. But as I said already, tightness is not the only problem, in facts the length is an issue too. Even if I manage to make it wider, it would still be too long... so that's why circumcision should be the way, I'll see what the doctor thinks about it from a medical point of view!

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Due to the constant debate on which is better/more sensitive, I took the time to research in the uni medical library. Firstly, scarring will not make your penis less attractive. Many men in my tropical climate with even fully functional foreskins end up with infection that requires either an incision in the foreskin to loosen it or a circumcision. It is understandable to be apprehensive about removal of the foreskin as it is what you are accustomed to having, we are all very focussed on our penises. Neural imaging shows there is no difference in actual stimulation to the brain overall. Our brain is however a very clever organ. For those circumcised, one rapidly gets used to stimulation that is from clothing or a breeze and the brain figures out when to dampen the messages. Even so, those who were circumcised soon after birth still get un-requested/wanted erections from a breeze, change of temperature, moisture, etc.. You will be fine, but discuss all concerns with your treating physician or even get a second opinion. Best of luck.

Thank you! You're right, we are very focused on our penis and we probably tend to make everything related to it a bigger deal than it actually is. And the advise to have a second opinion is good. I'll see what my doctor will tell me and evaluate!

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I was cut when I was 28. My forey was rather long and loose as a bit unsightly so decided to get it cut. Was honestly the best decision Ive ever made yes it takes a bit of getting use to but definitely worth it

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Awesome, Pete!

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hi cut at birth here, i was done in the 'low and loose ' sorta way, perhaps talk to your dr about the options along that line, it leaves you with more residual skin,, unlike high and tight which pretty much skins it tight and removes the frenum nerve. Just a thought , To many uncut men want to piss and moan about men being circumcized when they have no personal knowledge of how we feel, You will be fine just do what works for you,
Have been doing some stretching of mine, be glad to correspond about that with you .
bob

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Thank you all :)

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