Ive been getting a BroZillian wax for years now. My first wax lady was my wifes friend. Second time, the wax hit some nerve endings and boom, quick hard erection. I was embarrassed but she told me it happens all the time, and its easier to wax that way. If it wasnt erect then she has to pull and stretch it out. From that point on Id relax and just let it happen, sometimes it would and sometimes it wouldnt. I didnt care either way. Its a natural body function, happens involuntary and doesnt mean I had sexual relations with her. She had a job to do waxing me. Its all your perspective.

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I suspect that nobody would claim that having an erection during the manipulation of "that" part of your anatomy (be that in a massage, waxing or medical context) means that you had sex with the person who is giving you that service.

I got visibly aroused a couple times in front of a gyno. That was long time ago, I was very young and very shy and we know that the control centers for shiness and arousal are very close to each other on our cortex. Of course, my arousal was not as visible as a guy's but no gyno will ever miss the fact that he can slide his finger inside without any lube or pain. I was mortified and had the impression that time had dilated and I had been under that dreaded pelvic exam for hours. I was so ashamed that both times I changed the doc - I couldn't face them again. And no, that was not sex.

For the others, a couple said that sex is penetration - if I put my lips on a glans penis it's not sex but if I slid them 5 mm up it is. A couple others said that sex is intention - I can do whatever I want with a penis, as long as it's just for the camera with no intention of actual sexual gratification it's not sex. Yet a couple others tried to cheat their way out of the dilemma with the usual trick, enlarging the frame to be all-encompassing and calling everything "sexual activity", without defining actual sex.

Like in all my moral dilemmas, I don't claim to know the "right" answer (I don't think there is one) but just to challenge readers to go granular, there where the yes-no, black-white Manichaeism no longer works because morality, like life itself, is a gradient.

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