Misconceptions abound

This cannot be a surprise to most folks who've been involved in social nudism for any length of time. If we try to explain it to someone who hasn't been taught better, their immediate thoughts may go right back to where they were mentally the last time their parents scolded them when they tried to run around the house or yard naked, probably just after they'd started to show their budding adulted-ness. The child in their head is made to be embarrassed by the parent who wrongly thinks it's time to teach their developing kid that their body is no longer theirs to do with as they like, that from that point on, if they are nude in front of others it automatically sends the viewer the message that they're either a target to use sexually or a slut for wanting to be bare around others. It's a decidedly sad situation, and about the only thing we better-informed can do about it is to re-educate them one at a time.

Another alternative would be to sit down at a computer with your neighbor and show her the AANR website or some other family-oriented nudism site. Let her read the rules of conduct which state clearly what to expect and what is expected of visitors to such places. The stringent rules of no visible arousal or open sexual activity of any kind should begin to inform her better than trying to correct her misinformed wording as she keeps connecting nudity to sex. Some people won't believe anything you tell them because of what they've been told all their life about what occurs when nudists get together. They'll continue to think, "It's a colony, it's a commune, it's a bunch of horny hippies who can't stop following their genitals around!" It is a very difficult thing to convince otherwise those who've been steeped in that idiocy for so long.

Further, there are things that go on back in the dunes or after dusk settles in at some beaches that won't do anything but re-enforce those unfortunate and false lessons from her past. Be certain to avoid any times of the day or special areas of the beach which might lean toward the 'adult', or end up alienating your neighbor to the whole idea of non-sexual nudism. All it will take is her witnessing one exhibitionist lost in their own kinky head to keep her preconceptions of 'nude means sex' permanently ingrained.

Clothing optional beaches have their advantages, like being able to introduce people like your neighbor to the beauty of bareness in public, where they can keep their clothes on until they have begun to acclimate. Unfortunately, these places also invite onlookers and gawkers who often hide themselves as they stare at all the skin, furthering the idea that there is something unwholesome about simple bareness in social situations. Leaving open the option of wearing clothes for the newbie seems reasonable in some ways, but most nudists understand that being nude is much less provocative than the current styles in swimwear today. This will hopefully be the moment for your neighbor to see for herself that 'no sex' does sell the product!

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While talking to my neighbor last night. I suggested to go to the somewhat near clothing optional place with me. I told her we can walk around and she could see what it is like. I told her she can wear clothing, and I can walk around naked. I reinforced to her its no big deal I have seen it many times. Then she kinda turned it into, well were is the strange sex place located at? I said what? She thinks that a clothing optional resort is some sex place! This is not the first time I have heard this come out of someone's mouth.Not sure why its automatically tied to sex? And on top of it, thinking some sex hall located on the property?

Because mainstream media presents it that way. It's the only thing most people have ever seen. Getting naked? Sex is soon to follow.

John aka cobeachbum

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