Male phantasms
I saw some polls concerning guys' sexual phantasms. Now I don't have them at hand so I will not give any figures, I will just mention what I remember and I will group them around two categories.
Category A - Multiple partners
1. Sex with two women.
Colour me shocked. Sure 3 ladies is better than 2 but 2 is what most guys think of (and clearly should not aim for more if they want it to be a pleasant experience for all sides concerned!). But fine, maybe three. Anything more would be a waste, guys. The marginal value of adding a fifth would be quite small but far bigger than adding a twentieth.
Now I don't blame you for this. I don't think you had this experience in your distant, evolutionary past, but your best sexual strategy from an evolutionary point of view was to impregnate as many of us as possible. Guys, let's be fair. You probably can ejaculate ten times in a night when you are 18, five when you are 28, three when you are 38 and then... You do fall asleep after one shot, don't you. But hey. It's your phantasm and if that is about 20 of us and you, who am I to judge.
2. Two guys, one girl.
This must ring some distant evolutionary memory from the time our species was in the stage of sexual promiscuity and ladies announced their oestrus and became sexually available to pretty much every interested male. So yes, your ancestors must have spent time waiting in line to impregnate a pre-homo sapiens female...
Hence I can't really blame you especially that now we do have the skills to satisfy more than one man at a time. Of course, this version also has the extreme of a gang bang, although depending on the context I think this may be more of a female than a male fantasm. I don't know, is it your dream to be the tenth guy in a row of guys masturbating to keep hard to inseminate a woman? Although I somehow believe that if I announced that I am organising a gang bang starring myself I would find sufficient interested partners... So it may very well be so, what do I know, you tell me.
We know that the promiscuous phase was very long and important in our evolution because it shaped us so much. We ladies can have multiple orgasms to be available for multiple partners, cry them out to attract more partners, our anatomy has high fertilisation thresholds to create competition among sperms (no need for that if only one man is involved, all his spermatozoids have the same genetic information), you guys have unnecessarily big penises (ok, not all of you) to scoop out the sperm left inside by a predecessor etc.
3. Orgies
Indiscriminate sex with multiple partners, where the word no is almost unheard of. A bit of a combination of the first two, I will not delve on this. I am sure that all men in the world have at least once dreamt of this. Don't lie guys, you did and most of you still do.
Category B - Sex with a single partner
4. Uniforms.
Medical professional, police woman, military lady... I understand about the medical uniform, fundamentally nurses are there to heal you, there is often some sort of intimacy involved where nurses may see and sometimes even touch your male bits... This may generate some ideas. I knew that just because there are so many sexy nurse outfits out there for sale...
But police? I expected this to be a common phantasm for ladies, not for gents... I could explain it through two different, contradictory arguments. Some men may have submissive phantasms and that lady police officer, sexy but severe and dominating might be the right way to satisfy them. Others, on the contrary, may have a bit of a revolutionary spirit and want to reverse authority and dominate, humiliate and... yes, fuck hard that helpless sexy police officer.
5. Sexy secretary.
Come on guys. We all knew that. The lovely personal assistant who goes the extra mile to make sure her boss is relaxed and comes with pleasure at work? Don't lie, you all have that, no need to delve on it.
6. Sex with a perfect stranger.
Oh yes, you do. No question about it. Otherwise I wouldn't have experienced so many pick up attempts and dating sites would not be populated, just like this site, by 90% male members... Sure, some of you are too shy to make a move but would hardly ever say no to a sexy stranger, would you.
And you guys? What sexual phantasms do you have? Now, don't go "romantic diner with wifey, then kiss and make love" on me... I don't buy it. And if you are sincere and active, tomorrow we can also talk about women's phantasms.
So on a scale 1 to 10, when 1 means "never thought of it" and 10 is "I think of it almost every day", where are you with these 6 popular male phantasms?
I won't give you any personal insight in the question, but as far as D is concerned I never heard him speak about uniforms. That being said, I know that he has fulfilled the 6 of them... How do I know it? Well, maybe he told me, maybe I was there and saw it, who knows...
Sex with a stranger, say a tall blonde who is an expert between the sheets, yes I'd that at my current age that would be fantasy enough.
At 18, MFF would have been on the list for sure.
Lived a sheltered life though so fantasies not realities.
Innocent Richie x
I believe everyone has fantasies; no doubt, men's are different from women's.
#1- Every man dreams of this one; myself, regularly. I agree with you, more than two would be too much at my age; so I say seven on this one.
#2- I had dreamed of this one most of my life and had the opportunity to fulfill it last summer with a lady friend on a friend's boat. It was her first time to be nude all day with two men and the first time for a threesome for all of us; it was a day all of us will remember for quite some time. So this one would be a 10.
#3- I do have thoughts of an orgy, but it's not on my most wanted, so a 4 for this one.
#4- Uniforms do attract. In my twenties, I was a policeman. Women constantly approached me, and sex in the front seat happened regularly. A nurse's uniform, a military uniform, or a policewoman in uniform will always get a look from me. So, a six on this one.
#5- I, too, fell for the secretary 30+ years ago. What was so attractive in the dress turned out to be not so in the bed. A lesson learned early. A 3 on this one.
#6- I will again fit this with # 4, as all encounters were with total strangers who wanted to experience a man in uniform. Since I don't constantly think about it, a five on this one.
A female acquaintance of mine and I were discussing fantasies recently. To my surprise, her two most wanted (thought of) were two females, one performing cunnilingus on the second female while having sex with the male, and her most erotic dream was a total shocker to me, incest with a son!
This is somewhat of a dilemma for me as I've always been pretty much a straight-arrow. Though Flora surely knows how to tempt someone, I must say that my choices are as they have always been; just me and my sweetie. That said, here's the hypothetical;
Category A - Multiple partners
1. Sex with two women.
I had often wondered about this one in the distant past; it seems like it could be a lot of fun. But that said, when the opportunity did present itself long ago, I did not partake. It just didn't seem like something I should do. About a 4 on the scale.
2. Two guys, one girl.
Not a chance on this one, just me and my one female forever. Just about a 1 and that's it.
3. Orgies
Indiscriminate sex with multiple partners; don't think this one would work either. Again, a 1.
Category B - Sex with a single partner
4. Uniforms. No, not this one either. I really love my wife's naked uniform; it really turns me on. We did do the Victoria's Secret nighties for a few years but some of those things just didn't want to come off!! So much for the moment. Just my sweetie wife & she's a 12!!!
5. Sexy secretary.
This would be a no also; I've only had a real secretary on a couple of occasions and it was strictly professional. Nope, just a 1.
6. Sex with a perfect stranger.
This was one opportunity that I succumbed to many years ago during my first year of college; I met a cutie at a local disco and we had an evening together. It was ok at best and I took her home later on .... Maybe a 5 then but certainly a 1 now.
7. And you guys? What sexual phantasms do you have? Now, don't go "romantic diner with wifey, then kiss and make love" on me... I don't buy it.
Oops .... well maybe I do have fantasies about $ex with the wife in different places, times and with great scenery. Watching the sun come up at the beach with coffee & tea and light pastries, talking about the day's activities and then having my ....... breakfast. ;-) It's still that good after 40+ years and I hope we never change. This is obviously a 15+ on Flora's scale. Yes ... I'm a lucky guy!!!
I'm sure that most men have had fantasies like this from time to time, particularly when they're perusing erotic literature or films. But as one who has only experienced monogamous serial love, I can't speak for anybody else's mindset. And I think there's a huge difference between what we fantasize and how we behave when actually confronted with these situations.
But if you want to survey this topic (which I don't find really suitable for this site, since nudism is trying to get away from the popular stereotype of nudity=sexual activity), Nancy Friday has, I think, put out a book on men's fantasies about women. And there are any number of sites publishing erotica that can be mined. A more appropriate site to ask this question might be True Swingers, the companion site to this one.
And I'm wondering: would you consider female fantasies to be a topic for conversation, or do you feel that you already have that covered in your own head and are simply curious to find out what goes on in men's heads? If you put this topic to the ladies on this site, I expect you wouldn't get many answers. They're more focused on the non-sexual aspects of nudism than men are.
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