Reconstructed breasts
Hi all
Im interested in nudism and when I ask my wife about going to a nude beach she responds with no one would want to see my breasts. Understandably she is self conscious about it.
A little back story.
She had breast cancer and had both removed. Reconstructive surgery failed on one and a different procedure had to happen which involves more scaring. Her nipples are tattoos, they look real at 1st glance.
My question is do you see many women with reconstructed breasts?
Thanks
My sympathies that your gal has gone through such difficulties, and my thanks to you for giving her what sounds like the deepest support to help her through it. Keep that up, man! If only everyone got that level of needed assistance in trying times.
Nudists naturally see it all -- that is one of the many pleasures of living life 'out there', with no place for us to hide away the most intimate parts of ourselves. Yes, around the resort we do commonly see such things, and bear witness to the widely varying way people adjust to what options are left to them after the doctor's have done what is needed.
With me now in my twenty-second year of regular nudism, I have seen a lot of natural bodies altered, for both necessary and totally unnecessary reasons. And still, sometimes I find my senses shocked by what I see.
The human body is an amazing piece of sculpture, regardless of your religious/biological opinions about why we are how we are. We're born with it but that's not all there is - we've got about 3.2 billions seconds to live, and what comes on later, whether via personal choice or through some medical imperative, I always do my best to normalize what gifts I am offered through a life lived bare, reminding myself that not everyone has a choice about what their outer shell looks like.
Scars and abnormalities are often the truest testaments to a person's life, and should be treated as such. To look, to not shy away, can, at times, be a challenge when my eyes catch sight of what could be trauma that still aches the wearer's psyche, telling me of a moment in their life that could have been the final act if no intervention was taken. To still have the opportunity for me to be a witness to their life, with me knowing more about their story through what is obvious on their exterior - disregarding whether it diminishes or enhances how they feel about themselves - my respect for their journey is given by regarding them in their totality and without reserve. The portrait of their life that they are freely letting me see, a thing that they are really asking me to look at through our shared nudity, therein is the truth, that those alterations have made them into someone more than they were before.
Hi allIm interested in nudism and when I ask my wife about going to a nude beach she responds with no one would want to see my breasts. Understandably she is self conscious about it.A little back story.She had breast cancer and had both removed. Reconstructive surgery failed on one and a different procedure had to happen which involves more scaring. Her nipples are tattoos, they look real at 1st glance.My question is do you see many women with reconstructed breasts?Thanks
No one will give her a second look. You will see lots of scars and other body modifications. It is just life.
John aka Cobeachbum
From my perspective, social nudism is where you see many imperfections in the human body including the effects of illness and surgery. I'm certainly seen the effects of breast cancer. It's interesting that I've seen a few people at my main nudist hangout with serious disabilities using the pool. I'd like to learn more about their choice of venues this year, Many people through nudism learn to accept their bodies with their imperfections, and I think in many cases that can be quite healing. These are my observations from a nudist resort setting. I'm not as much of a beach person as I would like to be. Are beaches better or worse first-time places if you are dealing with body acceptance? I see pros and cons.
I have dear friends, a married couple, I've been friends with for going on 35 years. My ex and I helped to introduce them to nudism back then. Over the years, they've made some good friends going to social events at area nudist clubs, whether it be potlucks, Halloween or other holiday parties, even nude bowling. About 5 years, she was diagnosed with breast cancer and had to have a double mastectomy. Being flat chested, there was not enough tissue to do any sort of reconstruction or even save her nipples. (As an RN for 35 years, she had access to the top in the field and all said that reconstruction wasn't possible.) I thought that their days of enjoying time at nudist resorts was over, but she surprised me. Two years ago, she started to join her husband at fall holiday events. The cooler weather meant that staying in a t-shirt was not unusual. But she noticed that in the time she was gone, other members had undergone their own health issues...single and double mastectomies, some missing toes or a foot due to circulation/diabetic issues, and scars from major heart surgery. So this year, the t-shirt is gone. The only thing people notice and remark upon is that they haven't seen her for a long while and missed her. Yes, it's not easy at first, but one can ease back into social nudity as most of the clubs and resorts are clothing optional. People wear various clothes whether it's when playing sports, or trying to reduce sun exposure. The only required nude times are in the hot tubs and pools. And it's when you get back to the feeling of "clothes are uncomfortable" and you see that you're not the only one who has had visible life experiences, baring it all becomes easier. I hope that your wife feels more comfortable as time passes and comes to realize that she's not alone. But as my mom always said, never take too much time to grieve or be indecisive as time passes very quickly and you don't want to find yourself 3 or 5 yers down the road and realize that you'll never get that time back. So live for the day, each day. It may not be easy, but with friends and family around, it's all possible.
Good advice from a wise woman.But as my mom always said, never take too much time to grieve or be indecisive as time passes very quickly and you don't want to find yourself 3 or 5 years down the road and realize that you'll never get that time back. So live for the day, each day.
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