advice please.
Okay here's the deal, I have recently moved in with a girl, just as roommates, not romantically, that I've known for a few months now. She told me she was a nudist before we moved in and asked if I would have any problem if she was naked in the flat, I said if she wanted to and was comfortable like that then she should, partly, I must admit, and amn't ashamed to, because she is an amazingly attractive young women, I'm 24 she's 22, but mostly because she had chosen to live her life like this and I saw no way it would negativley impact my life and no reason to stop her if it was what she wanted to do. Anyway the thing is I have always fancied, for lack of a better word, this girl, for more than her looks, and the first time I saw her naked I realised that having her around the place like that all the time could be more of a problem that I initially thought as my sexual desire for this girl immediatley rocketed up. Now I know that just because she is neraly always naked, and a touchy feely person, she is always hugging people and snuggling/cuddling into whoever sits next to her on a couch doesn't mean she's trying to hit on me. but it is making my life increasingly alkward, and honestly more than a little frustrating. I'm searching for ways around this, for instance at one point I thought maybe if I was naked with her in a non sexual manner then it would help subdue the feelings I've been having toward seeing her body so I joined in her nudity one day but unfortunatley after about 20 minutes or so of doing nothing more intimate than making dinner, chatting and having a couple of beers, I got a huge erection, Rosie didn't say anything or react in an adverse manner, even although she couldn't have failed to notice, but I think probably needles to say, I was mortified. I never tried to repeat that particular experiment.
I need help on how to deal with this situation as it is now really annoying me, should I ask her to dial back her nudity untill I get used to it, should I just tell her the complete truth and hope for the best, should I try and do the naked thing again and become a proper nudist, as I probably should have said before, this is something that has interested me long before I met this girl, or is there another aproach that has eluded me thus far, Help please.
Cheers
If, in fact, this is a real situation, and this girl is a real nudist with some experience in social nudity, then the best advice would be to talk to her !
Honestly tell her what's going on, and why.You can safely assume that she's not stupid, and she'll know how she wants to handle the situation.
One of three things will happen.
1. If she's a real nudist, she'll already understand more than you might think, and respond appropriately.You may have found an excellent guide into this hobby of ours, and a long term friend.In any case she will be able to adjust as she will understand.
2. Whether #1 happens or not, you may have acquired a nudist girl friend.You can't imagine how fortunate this might be.
3. You'll both agree that the situation is developing in a less than desired direction by either or both of you, and one of you will relocate, possibly ( probably ) remaining platonic friends.
Any of the above will avoid a potential problem, improving the chance of remaining friends.
Addendum....
If she's a real nudist, it is absolutely imperative that YOU understand that it's NOT about sex !!
There is no more, nor less, chance of developing a relationship than if you were both textiles, or both nudists, and had no knowledge of the proclivities of the other.
Too many women complain that when a potential boyfriend learns she's nudist, they automatically assume that this means she wants a physical relationship.
That's a fatal assumption ! ( even if she does )
Don't make that mistake.
Good bit of fiction writing, my friend. From reading some of the replies here, you've got people almost believing it to be real, ( oh the naivety of nudity )
Please see my first 8 words post #3.
The stories, fictional or not, sometimes provide an opportunity to educate.
A few of us take advantage of the opportunity, even if hypothetical.
Still, we all know what's stranger than fiction ! ;)
OK, big problem for you. If you want to change your status to more that just roommates, then you need to talk with her and explain what your feelings are. If you want to remain roommates, then you need to spend more time nude. Erections happen. Part of life. When it does, excuse yourself to another room, and return to what you were doing after it has softened. As a nudist, you need to understand that Nudism and Sex are two very different things. Your mind has not done that yet. Nudism is a lifestyle, open to all. Sex is something done in private. Staying nude more often will help change your thinking.
Get up and walk with a hard on when your trying to not call attention to it? Sounds like walking to the pool or sea to get rid of it? If public display is offensive, the whole act of walking away is a display. Oh, the irony of prudish nudists. :-P
Erections happen. Part of life. When it does, excuse yourself to another room, and return to what you were doing after it has softened.
Yeah right. Leave the room with a hard on, go into another room for a while, and come out after looking like you had to disappear to beat off. Doesn't sound like good advice at all.
Good bit of fiction writing, my friend. From reading some of the replies here, you've got people almost believing it to be real, ( oh the naivety of nudity )
Please see my first 8 words post #3.
The stories, fictional or not, sometimes provide an opportunity to educate.
A few of us take advantage of the opportunity, even if hypothetical.
Still, we all know what's stranger than fiction ! ;)
Excellent answer, Curt. Thank you.
Jen
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