Mother-in-law is coming to visit
My MIL is coming to visit and stay with us for a week or so. I'm naked a bunch in our house, in front of kids and selected friends. For the first many years of our marriage, when my wife's mother came to visit, I'd behave and always dress up. Once, we bumped into each other in the hallway both trying to catch a late night phone call. I was completely naked, and she got an eye full. The next day she discreetly apologized to my wife for "embarrassing me." My wife assured her it wasn't a problem.
Fast forward a couple of years. My MIL stays with us for several weeks. Before her next visit, I told my wife that I liked her mom, but the only problem was I felt like I had to get dressed in the morning. Well, my wife shared that with her mother, who brought it up to me and assured me that no, I didn't. Just give her some time to get used to it. WoooHoo!
During her next several trips I was less cautious about covering up around her, and walked around the house naked, more. But we always managed to miss each other. Then, during one trip, we bumped into each other several times while I was naked and even had a few conversations. She was clearly not completely comfortable but was doing her best. I usually will get dressed if people are uncomfortable, but since she'd given express permission I kept on.
After a number of such trips, my wife pointed out her mother's discomfort and asked me to stay dressed around her. Disappointed, I toned it down a little. But not completely. I respect adults' ability to make their own decisions, and if my MIL wanted me to get dressed she clearly could have said so. However, to keep peace in the house, I did tone it down.
Now, my MIL is due to visit soon, and I feel it's time to advance the conversation. We're all adults, and I'm planning on discussing it with both my MIL and my wife so see where we all stand. Anyone got and advice? Thoughts?
Just an example how it works here; my mother-in-law is not a nudie but my other half had informed her of our lifestyle. So when she came for a first visit (she lives far away so short visits make no point), she told beforehands that if we/I stay nude it is OK with her and she doesn't want to disturb the usual ways of the house. So what it ended up, we toned down full nudity a bit like being dressed at dinners and so on, otherwise not much minding her. Except my wife was more dressed than us as she had been always dressed in her parents' presence when she lived with them.
Sounds like your issue could be applied to a lot of us. How to handle non-nudist house guests. There's an online store for nudists that has some clever mugs, shirts and stuff that gets the message across. I recently bought one of the mugs and love it. Here's the link:https://www.zazzle.com/thenudiststore
You have to respect the non nudists or we will never win them over. I will lay out in the sun nude when my MIL comes to visit, it's easy enouth to do and stay out of site. The last time she came to visit it was cloudy and she said I though you would be out on the deck naked? Kind of surprised I said it's too cloudy and if I'm going to be out there nude I want to catch some sun. I said I promise next time. She smiled and said good. I still won't puposely expose myself to her. If she feels comfortable enough to come out and sit with me that will be fine. We are nudists remember not exibitionists?
Here are some answers to a few of the questions.
My wife does go nude in the morning, whether her mother is here or not. Usually, it's just to the shower down the hall or back, or leaving the door open in the bedroom when she gets dressed. Our bedroom is at the end of the hall and she can be seen naked all the way down the hall. So, my wife is pretty comfortable with her mom seeing her nude. At least in passing.
Also, we sleep in the nude with the door open and we frequently kick off
the covers. A few times, I've been half a sleep, with no covers on,
when the MIL wanders into the room to get something for our kids.
Our kids are used to running around naked, at least while changing clothes, and they're starting to sleep naked. So, there are no secrets there.
I have had the "naked" discussion with my MIL and wife. In fact, they brought it up. But, after me acting like I normally do (not getting dressed until after cooking breakfast, etc) My wife decided her mother wasn't as comfortable as she pretended to be. So, my wife asked me to tone it down. I did, but I'm wondering where we go with it, now.
I think it's time for another discussion to see how my MIL feels about it. Hopefully, she'll just admit she's a little uncomfortable, or was, but has gotten used to it. Otherwise, I'll try to respect her wishes.
I'd tone it down, at least a little. I often sense, with guests who are perfectly aware that this is a nudist household, that they are OK with our being naked, but less comfortable interacting with us closely while we're naked. so I don't cover up dressing or going to and fro, but on occasions when we're likely to fall into conversation - meals, particularly - I'll have something on. A little gesture in the direction of a clothed guest's sensibilities may be appreciated, even if it's noted with an "oh, you don't have to cover up for me." Use your intuition, and trust your wife's.
Guys, thanks for all your feed back. I was planning on sitting down with my MIL and seeing how she feels. I do think it's mostly up to her and she is our guest. I was thrilled when she first granted her "permission" but she seems a little less comfortable.
For the record, I am clothed most of the time, any way. It was just in the morning or late evening (heading to the porch to do yoga) that she'd get much of a chance to see me naked. But, those are the moments when I am most relaxed and actually want to be without clothes. So, it was a very nice gesture on her part to make me feel comfortable. Can't wait to see where the conversation goes.....
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