principles of nudism
I have been on this site for about a year now. I was curious as to how many nudists were true to the claims that it is not about sex, it is all about comfort, it is about accepting others for who and what they are and for respecting others. I see we have a number of members who are true to these principles and are passionate about the life style. This is what I was hoping to find. But I have also seen there are many that are truly from the dark side. Unfortunately those from the dark side make the most noise and are seen by the textiles as the role models of nudism. Their reputation is what makes getting a general acceptance of our life style difficult to attain.
I have a reason for posting this in the couples section. I am registered as a male. My one wife for life wants no part of it and I will not force her. We are both 100% monogamous and happily married for over 38 years. On this site I dwell in the forums, I have not done any chat. When I see a name that is new to me I check the profile. So what I see is a random sampling. It appears to me that most of the couple's photos are of the Mrs., and the Mr. is absent. The words in their profile may state they do not want single males asking to be friends or to message them. Am I missing something?
Bob
For me it is not about the sex. I like the freedom. I am registered here as male because my wife is very private about her being nude. She can take it or leave it. I respect that. She also respects my feelings toward it. Last winter while I stayed in Florida for the winter I was a regular at Apollo. She went once when she came down to visit. I asked her if she had any problems with me going without her and she reassured me she trusted me and knows I enjoy it. I suppose there are others TN people too that are couples that register as male or female for their reasons.
When I first registered on the site, I also registered as male because I wanted to check it out before bringing my wife in. When we wanted to change to "couple", we found that it was impossible at that time. I wouldhave had to drop my registration and re-register as a couple. Things have since changed so that it is possible to change one's status without having to drop the first registration.
As to our friends list we do have a few single males but most of ones listed as single males are actually married. We don't have a problem with some women wanting to stay in the background.
For me,nudism is a way of escaping from the stresses of everyday life.Work,bills etc.When I go visit either one of the clubs that I like,I feel more relaxed and at ease.My body is not perfect,but I accept that,and enjoy my time as a nudist.I really enjoy my social nudism time and look forward to my social nudist time.
I think the point about married men registered as single males needs answering. As far as I recall the category was 'male', not 'single male' and in that spirit I put myself down a male, since I am! My wife of 48 years is very supportive and has gone nude a few times at naturist places. She still comes to one site. However naturism is not really her thing, nor would being on TN be. There are many such couples, in which one partner - more often the husband - is keener on naturism than the other.
Cherri_Donna sums up well a lot of how my experience of living as a nudist has been, especially nudist socialising. The 'feeling of wholeness, honesty and well being' in a nudist environment is a major reason why I appreciate spending time with other true nudists, it is a great way to relax and be really open with each other.
AndyDi is right in pointing out that not all of those who call themselves nudists have a purely nudist agenda like this in relation to meeting others who prefer being naked. As he says that's much like society as a whole though, we are all different, but when you find yourself with others who have similar outlooks regarding nudism, life is good.
Regarding Morfa's point about married men registering as single here, I'm in a long term relationship but on TN as just me. My partner is also a nudist but she has work related issues about being open about her nudism. I don't have the same problem and like being open about being a nudist, so my profile is just for me, but I state that I'm in a relationship.
The reasons why others who are married or in relationships are on here as single can only be known truly by them. It may be an innocent mistake or oversight, if its something else then it doesn't really match the description of socialising in a nudist environment above involving honesty. So I think its fair enough to question whether some of those who are in the married but single status category on TN are being straight about it.
Interesting topic. Many have already said exactly the reasons I am registered as a male and not as a couple. My wife and I are happily married for just short of 30 years. I have slept nude and done some things nude for as long as I can remember just because - why bother with clothes, they are uncomfortable anyway? About 18 years ago I went to my first CO beach, my wife came to the beach but did not participate. Roll forward a couple of years and I asked and she agreed that we stay in the CO side of a resort and we had a great time. About two days into that trip she suddenly surprised me by walking out to the pool sans swimsuit! Since then we have visited a number of resorts with full participation. She is also quite interested in some of the resorts that we see in N magazine and on the web.This being said, my wife is okay with being nude, but she could take it or leave it. She will walk through the house nude, and enjoys it when we go someplace but does have that "What if I see someone I know" worry. We have developed good friendships with another nudist couple that we have travelled with but they are not local. So, I would ask, why not register as a couple, well she does have some work and other issues with others knowing, along with the other issues I just mentioned, thus much of her resistance
These days I lay out at the pool nude, work in the backyard nude, joined TNS, frequent Laguna Del Sol etc. all because it is relaxing, more comfortable, and just makes life more fun. My wife is okay with the backyard and some of it and the kids have accepted it as well but there is still some non acceptance from the kids about being nude around the house as much as I'd like. My wife is supportive, suggesting that I go to a resort alone when it is really nice and she has other things going on etc. She has already suggested visits this summer for the two of us but she really needs to meet other couples and get to know them so she can relax further as I know she will be even more interested. So I'm hoping to meet and get to know some of the local couples so maybe we can to meet them at Laguna Del Sol with her sometime in the future.
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