Inappropiate Behavior at a House Party
My wife and I attended a nude house party at the home of a couple who we met through True Nudists. The host played a XXX rated video and he and some of the other guest engaged in, what we consider, inappropriate behavior. Needless to say we won't be attending any other functions at their home and we have apprised other personal friends about this situation.
What other actions should we take? Should this be reported to True Nudists? Should we message other mutual friends on our "Friends" list?
This is a can of worms thatwe don't really like being a part of, but we feel some action should be taken. Are we wrong, or should we just let the matter drop?
Thank you,
DesertRat and Wife.
No, I don't think you should be putting an APP against these people on this site. I've always been of the opinion that what goes on outside of this site should stay outside of this site. As long as these people aren't doing any of that crap here, they haven't broken any rules here. You know what I mean?On the flip side though, if there only purpose on this site is to lure people into that kind of situation, then they should probably go. So, I don't know. lol
However, I do have a question. When you were invited over, did they mention what kind of party they were having? Was there no inkling as to what could possibly happen over there? It just seems kind of weird that they wouldn't have mentioned anything to you about what to expect.
Sounds like you're beyond offended, and into outraged.
There's nothing to report to the site admin, as what you describe is not really an abuse of the site, though it may well be a rudely inconsiderate use. I'd likely have just thanked them for the invite, explained that there's a difference between nudist and swinger, that I'm nudist, not swinger, and left.
It's not really a can of worms, unless you make it one ! There's no action to take, really, except for possibly not associating with them in the future. Swinging may be immoral in your judgement, but it's not illegal.
Are you wrong ?
No, not yet, but by escallating what may be a simple misunderstanding to the point of spreading stories on friends lists, you could well cross that line easily.
Just because someone is a swinger does not mean that they are, or are not, also nudist.
These are two completely different things. Perhaps they have it confused ?
Sad that the communication regarding the type of party you were invited to was bad on beforehand.
But True Nudists is no Nudist Behaviour Court. True Nudists is not the place where you should put people in the naughty corner. You have made your point clear and that is the important thing.
The party hosts have obviously other habits than you. You got indignated and angry over other moral rules than yours. But as far as I know swinging is not illegal.
As we've said numerous times here, we've met many wonderful people from this site in person. This only comes after we have chat with them extensively, selected the appropriate venue to meet up with them, and have actually come out and clarified the reason for meeting. Also, terms of the meeting, i.e. going to the beach, having dinner, or for whatever reason, have always been clearly stated prior to the meet.
Learn to get to know those that you want to meet, in depth, or, meet in a neutral place. Sexuallity and sexual habits should be/could be discussed seperately from nudism. Once boundaries are established, then every one will be clear. Was swinging an issue that you discussed with them before hand? Did you share the wrong type of pics giving the wrong message? Did you let them know that you're not into swinging(or whatever your feelings are) about any type of contact before you accepted the invite? Most people who have swinging on the mind will either not invite you if you've stated that you don't want anything to do with it, or if you have a great relationship, they shouldn't fear telling you what kind of party it is prior to asking for your RSVP.
Just some 'street smarts' here before you meet your next 'new friends'. But we all get ourselves into situations that we're not comfy with and as long as you learn from this, then you're good....
Steve and Jen
P.S. As you've titled this 'inappropriate', just realize that the business going on at the party was appropriate for the type of party they were hosting, but inappropriate for a nudist setting. Sounds like you dressed up for church and wound up at a rodeo.....LOL
Was this party a swingers party of were the couple just engaging in some sort of sexual activity together? If in fact the couple were swingers I think it is only fair that they should advise that as well as nudist they are also swingers, that way everyone knows what to expect. If the couple just decided to have sex infront of others, well that is some other sort of fetish they practise.
If what happened at the party was not broadcast live or otherwiseon TN's chatroom, then no site rule has been broken. All you can really do is chalk it up to a bad experience and ask the proper questions if these people ever invite you again (assuming there's even the possibility).
We can report misdeeds that occur on or through this site. We can't do anything about what happens elsewhere. And keep in mind that whilesome people confuse nudism and swinging, there are also swingers who know the difference, and they will probably go to great lengths to make sure they don't offend anyone by accident. From what Ireadof the experience related by the original poster, the hosts of the party may not belong in the second category.
As for warning other people and identifying the guilty party, I'd stick to the closest friends you have whom you know are truly on your wavelength. If you start badmouthing to "generic" friends (people on your list whom you don't meet on a regular basis), you may wind up with more problems than you expected.
I'm sure we've all been to parties some time or other where things don't go as expected or something unusual happens. The nudist/textile is not necessarily the question. I'm sure people have gone to 'textile' parties where people have suddenly stripped off to go skinny dipping in the pool and a few 'prudes' have chosen not to join in. I agree if the plan was for swinging it should have been mentioned but if it 'just happened' it's just one of those things.
I realize there is a "live and let live" attitude with most nudists. But I think you are right in NOT wanting to attend such activities in the
name of nudist activities. I think you should notify all those that you feel would be offended.
Indeed. We demand that centres, resorts, parks and other places called "nudist" adhere to standards of "nudism." Those that simply say "nudity permitted" can't be held to the same standard. The same applies to parties. Just because the members are on this site doesn't mean all their "nude" activities are necessarily "nudist" activities. There is a difference.
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