Stop and think!!!
The topic of single males and friend requests has been beat to death. Believe me, I have no doubts as to why no one wants a friend request from a single male. A few bad seeds or maybe a whole bucket of bad seeds have ruined it for those who are truly just looking to socialize. Understood! But before the doors are shut and locked on all single males here just keep one thing in mind. If you do not take the time to read a profile or send a reply when a message has been sent then are you not treating the single male just as society treats the nudist. The general public identifies nudists as pervs or sex crazed people who live to see everyone naked. Not all of society but the majority. We are not like that but continue to wish that the world would give us a chance and not judge us. How about the same on this site for the single guys. I am in a relationship, a very happy one with a great lady, but that is not enough to qualify me for a simple message and response from a lot of couples or females. Seems like every time I read a profile of someone who has the same interests as me it also says any request from a single male will be denied. I dont send friend requests without a conversation first, something to let me know that the person is actually real with some of the same interests as myself. But I get so tired of sending messages, not friend requests, messages, saying hey how are you I see you are into ...whatever it may be that we have in common and never getting a response. I am aware that some may look at your profile and say well theres no need to respond because he just doesnt look like someone we would associate with or well hes to far away to be friends. Thats cool, to each his or her own. But I get very very few responses from couples and have to assume it is because they believe it is a come on to their wife, or possibly the husband. Who knows. Just keep in mind that there are some of us single males here who dont want to swap pics, dont want to come to your house and stare at your wife, dont want anything but a conversation with a couple who shares the same interests. It would be a real shame if all the single males left the site and then 10 years down the road were all married but never got a chance to meet other couples here to hang out with. Same for the single females, dont let a few bad ones run you off from here. If you let a bully keep pushing you he will never stop, stand up to him and he will go crying to his mommy. No better way to weed out the bad seeds than with a back yard full of good friends who you know are here for the right reasons. Just some food for thought.
The topic of single males and friend requests has been beat to death. Believe me, I have no doubts as to why no one wants a friend request from a single male. A few bad seeds or maybe a whole bucket of bad seeds have ruined it for those who are truly just looking to socialize. Understood! But before the doors are shut and locked on all single males here just keep one thing in mind. If you do not take the time to read a profile or send a reply when a message has been sent then are you not treating the single male just as society treats the nudist. The general public identifies nudists as pervs or sex crazed people who live to see everyone naked. Not all of society but the majority. We are not like that but continue to wish that the world would give us a chance and not judge us. How about the same on this site for the single guys. I am in a relationship, a very happy one with a great lady, but that is not enough to qualify me for a simple message and response from a lot of couples or females. Seems like every time I read a profile of someone who has the same interests as me it also says any request from a single male will be denied. I dont send friend requests without a conversation first, something to let me know that the person is actually real with some of the same interests as myself. But I get so tired of sending messages, not friend requests, messages, saying hey how are you I see you are into ...whatever it may be that we have in common and never getting a response. I am aware that some may look at your profile and say well theres no need to respond because he just doesnt look like someone we would associate with or well hes to far away to be friends. Thats cool, to each his or her own. But I get very very few responses from couples and have to assume it is because they believe it is a come on to their wife, or possibly the husband. Who knows. Just keep in mind that there are some of us single males here who dont want to swap pics, dont want to come to your house and stare at your wife, dont want anything but a conversation with a couple who shares the same interests. It would be a real shame if all the single males left the site and then 10 years down the road were all married but never got a chance to meet other couples here to hang out with. Same for the single females, dont let a few bad ones run you off from here. If you let a bully keep pushing you he will never stop, stand up to him and he will go crying to his mommy. No better way to weed out the bad seeds than with a back yard full of good friends who you know are here for the right reasons. Just some food for thought.
Excellent post, Blueiron!
Jen (the female half of the cuddlebuttons)
I cannot begin to answer this question with a short, snappy quip. I accept friends requests from men, women and couples of all races, creeds, religious affiliations and sexualpreferance so long as their profile pic shows their face and that picture doesn't show up at tineye.com. Those folks will remain my friends as long as they are polite and respectful. If someone turns out to be a little psycho, well, then they might end up in the doghouse, but otherwise it isn't hard to be my friend online. I have found the men are generally just as polite as the ladies, with few exceptions,and usually do a better job of communicating on a regular basis. I do my best to answer all the messages I get if they aren't rude. I started this morning with 49 emails. I'm down to 31 now. Sometimes it takes time. If everyone is patient I will get to most of the rest of them a little later today. When it comes to real life meetings, that's another story. My husband and I are careful and hope everyone understands the reasons why. That being said, we have met up with people we've gotten to know online, including NakedNHappy and his girlfriend. They were nice people and we've also met people we've met on other sites. The only catch is that we talked to NakedNHappy and the others online for literally months or years before we had a face to face meeting. It's safer that way. You've all read the stories in the newspapers or heard about them on television. You have to be careful. Up until a month or so ago, I'd have said I'd love to meet every one of my friends. Since then I've come to learn that some of my online friends aren't what they claim to be. We all have to take it slow. All that being said, and I have digressed from the original question a bit, I'd have to say that I don't know any legitimate reason why women and couples can't talk to single men. Homophobia? Jealousy? Husbands wanting to talk to other women besides their wives? Shame on you if that's the case! Who knows any other reasons they might have?
Though I agree with most of what you wrote , I have to say:
Dont want to? No need.
I personally contact man , women and couples as long as there is something interesting about them.
You cant be bothered if someone ignores you. If someone ignores you in the real life you get offended?
Nop. You just move on.
This site has thousands of people to talk to.
Some are interesting, some are not, some has an agenda and some dont.
As for single women: from my vast experience on yahoo, 98% of the women are fake there.( not counting the bots.)
If you want to change the odds in TN since it is managed much more carefully, you can put a pretty sure bet that the number is about 20%. ( from the uncertified women.)
Another 10% for sure are here for other reasons then the lifestyle.
This fake women has no interest in you and trust me , you have none in them.
As for the rest , as someone here well put before , try walking a mile in there shoes , I bet that if you create a womens profile and post a nice pic, you will have a predators attack on you so fast that you will turn off the pc and go weep in bed in a fetal position.
I have many lady friends , more in real life then online and no , not for that purpose , love my wife , will not trade her ever.( Well , maybe Elizabeth Harley but sure to say , I am not her style ) and from what I hear , being a single women is hard, online they at least have the option to just ignore.
And you know what? Its just fine.
You cant ask them to give us a chance because maybe we are not like that because we are.
Yes , I generalize. In Africa people are black , in Europe they are white, in Israel they are jewish and in the sea you have fish.
None is true ! and thats my point , the majority is. and in our case: men are pigs.
Maybe you are not , maybe I am not ( I hope ) and many more.
but why should she let you? ( or me or them) cause we say so?
Have you ever heard of a rapist calling before to announce: hi ,my name is john and I am your designated rapist for the night?
Have you ever seen a profile saying: I am a total freak show , I will hunt you down , I will stock you for a year and then make you bare my child after ill publish the pics you send me on a sex site?
I can totally understand them.
Grateful for those who choose to let me to know them but totally understand those who choose to ignore me.
And for a bit of perspective:
In the movie hitch will smith tries to pick up a lady , long scene but in the end he says: she will probably refuse him , they each will go their separate life and will live happily ever after.
(or something like that)
Regards.
Bman
Excelent post Linda.
I have met a fair number of people from on here IRL. I also got to know them before hand here before I met them in person. Most were at a nude beach where we arranged a meeting place so it made it easier. One of the ladies I met had never been nude in public before, but having talked to us in chat many times, felt comfortable getting nude right away. There are others that I hope to meet someday, the reason we haven't met yet is distance.
Thomas
Meeting in person is not really an issue to me. I can see that ther are people all over the world on here. It is unrealistic to expect to meet any large percentage of the friendly people on here. Mainly I am pointing to the mere idea of not necessarily ignoring the single males until at least looking at their profile or replying to a message. That is unless it is an obviously obscene or blatent remark about wanting to meet someones wife or something like that. Just wanted to make the point that there are some single males who just want to meet new people and get to know them. Not to mention having a couples opinion on some topics might be helpful to a person new to the lifestyle, such as myself. That being said, this is what I love about the forum. Different views, opinions, outlook and advice from people who come from different backgrounds and lifestyles. This is what its all about. Love it!!!
Meeting in person is not really an issue to me. I can see that ther are people all over the world on here. It is unrealistic to expect to meet any large percentage of the friendly people on here. Mainly I am pointing to the mere idea of not necessarily ignoring the single males until at least looking at their profile or replying to a message. That is unless it is an obviously obscene or blatent remark about wanting to meet someones wife or something like that. Just wanted to make the point that there are some single males who just want to meet new people and get to know them. Not to mention having a couples opinion on some topics might be helpful to a person new to the lifestyle, such as myself. That being said, this is what I love about the forum. Different views, opinions, outlook and advice from people who come from different backgrounds and lifestyles. This is what its all about. Love it!!!
I mentioned the possibility of meeting online friends because I don't see the point of having online friends who you would not want to meet. I think it ties in, but that's just my opinion.
I agree. I would love to meet everyone here. Thousands of people in aggreance about a major lifestyle. What could be cooler? Everyone sharing ideas and stories from all over the country, world even. But I know I will not get to meet everyone, it is a great thought though. I just hope everyone will think about how nice it would be to have a huge group of people, happy, naked, relaxed and enjoying the company of everyone else. Married. single, couples, black, white, purple, green, straight, gay and everyone the same. A Nudist.
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