Friends, Romans, Countrymen...
lend me your thoughts...
Earlier I was in the chat room, when a, lady, sent me a PM, we didn't chat for long, but when I looked on her profile I noticed she had well over 600 friends. I thought that seemed a bit excessive, how would you keep track of everyone?
I know members send out random requests, we have over 80 waiting to be accepted, but I don't see the point if we've never had any sort of contact on the board.
I was back in the chat room a little while ago, and received a PM from a stranger, I checked the profile (as I always do) and found it set to private.
immediately I was told I could see the profile if I sent a friends request. I said I only add people I know as friends.
That's almost word for word and the extent of the conversation ... I was then told I was rude and unfriendly.
So do you have friends on your list.............or is it a score card of some sort?
Stevie
I'm sure some of it is scorekeeping. For myself, I'll accept a friend request from anyone I imagine I might want to meet. I do have one friend with a massive friend list, who uses the sort-by-last-login feature to see who's online, so he's not really keeping track of all those friends, but still uses his list to keep in touch, and always has someone to talk to over his morning coffee.
For some it is somewhat of a " who is the most popular" deal. Not sure if they do it anymore but it used to be posted on the opening
page. What I like to do myself is chat with a person at least briefly, I also check their profile to see if they have bothered to fill it out. I have
put a few on the list who haven't filled in the profile much, but for the most part I don't. But what I have told many people, it's easy to get
on my friends list, it's not so easy to stay. If after being on the list they never chat, rarely come in the chat room, or send a message, they
get removed when I edit the list, which I do a few times a year. I have taken far more off the list then what I ever have on at one time. If
someone on my list chats in the chat room with others, or is vocal in the forums, thats great, we aren't best friends and they do not need
to chat with me all the time. However if they don't chat in the chat room, post in the forums, or message me, then they just want lots
of names on their friends list. Just my thoughts
I have to admit ... I probably have too many friends. Most of those I have I've communicated with in some fashion, either via a private message or on the message board and then via private message. In some way, we've communicated and I either allowed friendship or requested it based on common likes/dislikes about certain things AND ... their location. We are planning on beginning our travels and I like to communicate with other nudists from other states and countries we may visit. It, hopefully, gives us some 1st hand knowledge of nudist places to visit while in that area AND some 1st hand experiences and information that you can't get from the website.
I have friends come and go and that's fine. I sometimes lose friends and I can't tell who left. That should tell me that I've got too many friends! hahaha Many of the friends I have here are friends I've made on other sites and we are friends on both sites. I don't discriminate when choosing friends but I do not befriend anyone that just sends a friend request without some comment on why they want to be friends with us.
Ah "friends lists", guess too many it is like a child saying "i got more than you do, ha ha ha. we have friends that chatted with before joining TN or have met in person or wish to in near future. Earlier i guess the more ##'s ya got moved ya to top of search lists, we believe that is like rungs on a ladder to nowhere.........
I have to admit ... I probably have too many friends. Most of those I have I've communicated with in some fashion, either via a private message or on the message board and then via private message. In some way, we've communicated and I either allowed friendship or requested it based on common likes/dislikes about certain things AND ... their location. We are planning on beginning our travels and I like to communicate with other nudists from other states and countries we may visit. It, hopefully, gives us some 1st hand knowledge of nudist places to visit while in that area AND some 1st hand experiences and information that you can't get from the website.I have friends come and go and that's fine. I sometimes lose friends and I can't tell who left. That should tell me that I've got too many friends! hahaha Many of the friends I have here are friends I've made on other sites and we are friends on both sites. I don't discriminate when choosing friends but I do not befriend anyone that just sends a friend request without some comment on why they want to be friends with us.
Andy, you always articulate things so well. Thank you and I agree with all you have said above.
Only thing I can add is that as a newbie, I have found it really helpful to see the posts of many people and see how they enjoy nude activities. This includes the pictures of vacations, resort, hiking, etc. Just good folks enjoying themselves. It has helped me grow in courage and I'm happy about it.
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