My thinking has always been that true nudists are all accepting and one's body is just that, it is one's body and does not reflect them being a nudist or welcome in a nudist environment.
That being said, I do think we all have a flaw on our bodies which we don't like or something we would like to change, be it a nose or a beer belly, a birth defect or a scar. Some things we can change and some we have to accept of ourselves. Some people have incentive to do these things, and in some cases the funds to do them, and others might need a life moment before a change is begun.
I think there's a number of issues here:1 body shame and body shaming are slightly different things. Body shaming, I.e. Shaming or shunning someone else because of their appearance is totally wrong always. It never helps and is never justified. Obese people won't suddenly start losing weight because you say they are fat or disgusting or anything else2 feeling shame in yourself is a different matter, but I suggest that shame is a very strong word/emotion. I am overweight and would certainly like to lose some weight so that my health improves and get fitter so that I can do more things. That doesn't mean I feel shame in my body. It is my body and the only one I've got and it serves me well, even if it could be improved. I don't agree that you need to feel shame in order to recognise that you may feel better if you lost weight or got fitter etc3 my preferences and desires are not the same as anyone else's. I may think that I'm too fat and need to lose some weight that doesn't imply that anyone else should feel the same way. It's their choice4 we should be careful not to equate a person with their body, even our own. We are so much more than just a body. If you are looking to see beautiful bodies, there's plenty of porn sites with people with specific body types and possibly airbrushed photos you can go look at. If you want to connect with real people the way their body looks should be immaterial. The kind of person they are is what mattersJust my thoughts
I think we're both agreeing and disagreeing on some points. On your first, you make a pretty big generalization stereotyping obese people. If I had not been called obese by my doctor (written in my records) and told about the health-related issues that I had related to it, I would not have felt shame, and i would not have, "Suddenly decided to loose weight," as you put it. "Doing things," that I have not been able to do, looking better, not dying, having more money, etc., were additional benefits...icing on the cake.
People equate others with their bodies in all areas of life in different ways and for different reasons. Of course, I agree with you that we all are far more than our bodies, but that doesn't mean we should let our bodies go to hell.
I certainly am not looking to see, "Beautiful bodies," in any nudist environment, but I do admire beautiful bodies over ugly ones. Being a naturist isn't about looking at others, but I do prefer beautiful bodies over ugly ones, and that includes my own body.
I don't know what you mean, "Connect with people," but I agree if you mean we should not be judgmental and shaming of others, if that's what you mean.
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