Is it easier to be open about nudism as we get older?
I've never been one to shout out to everyone that I'm a nudist but I've never felt it was something I should hide, but at earlier times in life I might not have told as many friends, nudist and textile, that I was attending nudist events as I do now. I've had jobs in the past where my nudism unfortunately could well have been an issue if it was common knowledge, I've known plenty of other nudists faced with similar issues.
However, once this was no longer a problem I've rejoiced in the fact that I can be open and upfront about being a nudist. I don't see anything to be embarrassed or ashamed about being a nudist, nor does it matter who sees me naked, life is too short to worry about that unnecessarily. Over time more of my social life has been spent with other nudists, I spend more time at local nudist beaches since moving to the coast and I've been on more events like naked bike rides. With local friends we socialise nude year round in our homes, I've got very used to being nude both in public and anywhere else that I can be, a weekend without nude socialising is quite rare.
Its not just that my employment is no longer a problem, I think that as I've got older nudism has become a much bigger part of life, more friends know that I'm a nudist, its very easy to talk to friends about what I do as a nudist and why I like life naked best.
Do other 50 plus nudists here have similar feelings? Are you more open now about being nudists? Does it matter who knows you're a nudist now, when it may have done previously?
It's reaching the point where it matters less. When we first got into nudism many years ago we were very careful to conceal our nudism. Although we don't go out of our way to announce our love of nudism to the world, we are a bit more carefree than before. All of our close friends are nudists so there is no real reason for us to tell everyone. Unfortunately there are a lot of less than understanding people out there.
I've just recently been more open about my nudism,telling my sister I am a nudist, who told my mother after keeping it to myself for most of my life. My sister cornered me on where I kept disappearing to on my time off during the warmer months! I was surprised to find that she thought it was great, but blanched when I invited her and her husband to meet me at my club. Baby steps! My 81 year old mother also had no problem with it, wonders never cease!
PS and everyone around me knows and accepts that I'm a nudist. It
makes life so much simpler being out in the open. I may be retired
but I play a big role and am respected in the local community. They know me and know
my nudity is nothing sexual.
I came to nudism late, age 69. Retired and don't care if someone knows that we are enjoying a clothing free life.
In our experience this year, we have found it easier to make new nudist friends than to have friends join us in nudism.
All of our current finds have declined to show any interest.
I came to nudism late, age 69. Retired and don't care if someone knows that we are enjoying a clothing free life.In our experience this year, we have found it easier to make new nudist friends than to have friends join us in nudism.All of our current finds have declined to show any interest.
I think this is one of the reasons some of our close textile friends won't broach the subject with us, even though my/our involvement in nudism and nudist places, is all over my FB pages.
I wish they'd just ask so I can tell them, "we really don't care if you join us or not. We have a circle of close friends that are also nudists and we are fine keeping the two groups separate." Sad part is ... the textile friends would really like our nudist friends and if they met and didn't know that the one group was nudists, they'd probably never know.
I just continue to "like" various nudist pages and groups or comment on various nudist postings on FB and wonder when the time will come when they finally have the guts to ask. :D
It's interesting that this thread was started before we even started going nude. It's been less than 2 years for us. I've gone nude around the house before then, but for my wife it was when she moved here to Florida just before summer in 2016. Our first resort visit was April 2017.
For us, I do find it easier to share now that we are open. I wouldn't have an issue if people found out. I don't exactly share it. I was having a discussion with one of my employees today. She has been talking about getting a tummy tuck and mentioned that her bf was wanting her to go nude more around the house and in her pool. She just felt she couldn't do it the way she looked.
Led into a discussion of how we like to enjoy our pool without suits, etc. Interesting how things come up at different times.
Last year at the age of 54 years old I discovered the wonderful world of nudism and I'm loving it!! I don't know if I would have been open to the idea when I was younger. Strangely enough I am more confident in myself and my body now then I was then. We all live in this world where so many want to judge others. In my profession being a nudist, with its unfortunately common misconceptions, could be a big problem........but I have reached that point in my life where I realize that I will be judged, but I don't care anymore......it speaks more to their character than mine. I realized that I love the freedom and sense of exhilaration I get when I'm naked in the sunshine, especially in a social situation.......kind of hard to judge someone when everything is there to see!! Also, everyday I realize that I'm not getting younger so I should enjoy and embrace these moments now.......I'm here for a good time, not a long time!!
Its never too late to become a nudist in my view, our lives all take different paths and we experience different things at different points along them, some of us discover nudism along the way. I'm very glad that the course mine took went via nudism. Your point about being more confident now than at earlier stages in life is, I think, pretty common, life experiences often help to build that up. Social nudism certainly improved my confidence and that's crossed over into the clothed part of life, of course that is also to do with the caring less what others think and related attitudes that many of us gain as we get a bit older. Newcomers to nudism sometimes mention their worries about being naked in company, then discover after a short time of being nude among others that its not such a big deal, but that the positives gained from being among nudists are a big deal.
I like the fact that among nudists 'everything is there to see'; we're not camouflaged by clothing that can convey false messages, when we're all nude we're on a more equal footing in my view. Once it has become normal to be nude among naked friends and strangers we might still look at each other, but nudists tend to be less judgemental in lots of ways. Because we hide nothing from each other physically it often seems to follow that nudists are more open and upfront mentally too, that is a major reason for why I love being a nudist. I've had some very honest conversations in nudist settings that I've only got close to with textile friends that I've known for much longer, there's something about being naked with others that encourages our thoughts to be exchanged more easily.
I'm fully on board with the idea of embracing what I enjoy in the here and now. I've no idea when my sell by date is up but I do know that I want to embrace life to the max and to do so nude preferably.
I'd say it's not easier but rather that now I don't feel uncomfortable being naked around nudists and textiles. When younger and forced to go naked even momentarily by the situation (naked in shower gangs, changing clothes in friends' rooms, putting on a swimsuit in the changing room, skinny dipping) it was something I did and had no shame but it still felt awkward. Deep inside me I knew I was a nudist but it took some good years to embrace the idea and to enjoy the lifestyle, and especially to look forward all of the the time to shedding off your clothes of your clothes.
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