50 Plus Nudists
A group for nudists 50 years old or more. A place to discuss issues concerning nudism, past experiences, new directions, plans for your future ... most anything that strikes the veteran nudist's interest. BLANK, PARTIALLY filled out or PRIVATE profiles will not be allowed to join ... unless you contact me first. Thanks for your understanding.
Being more naked inside as well as outside.
Return to DiscussionsI don't mean indoors or outdoors.
I read a profile recently which said something along the lines about close nudist friendships are not just about being naked with each other physically, but how these friendships go well beyond that, so as mental things like emotions are shared much more openly with close nudist friends.
I get that feeling too, there is a special bond with the closest nudist friends, we unashamedly hide nothing physically from each other and it seems to follow that our mental sides are more naked too. Removing society's imposed attitude to nudity helps open up our inner selves in the same way that we are comfortable and relaxed physically when we're naked together. We socialise nude throughout the year partly because we don't want to miss out on that special bond just because its not warm and sunny outside. True nudist friends seem more naked when they are naked, clothed nudists are still generally open people, but actual shared nudity seems to enhance the bond.
How naked do others here consider the different types of relationships and socialising actually are?
I think so, too. I feel that the lifestyle of a nudist / naturist is more open and natural than that of others. I believe that we accept the "being different" of people more than others. And others simply notice or feel it
Interesting replies, thanks. I was reading some comments on a thread on another nudist website about ways of recognising other nudists when we're not naked together. Badges, wristbands (and far worse for nudists, clothing with something recognisable on it) were suggested. There are occasions when you're socialising somewhere in the textile world and you pick up on something someone says or does that causes you to believe that they may be a nudist too - mention of a holiday destination well-known by nudists, what might seem like a tan that doesn't stop where their clothing does, a general openness to conversation topics.
There have been times when I've met people in clothes and within minutes we know we're nudists, because we've sensed those things about each other that you both mention above, a nudist sixth sense maybe? But there have been other occasions when I've got a good feeling that somebody else is a nudist but never found out for sure. Not every nudist is the same by any means but there can often be a sense of openness and honesty about someone that matches the attitudes of good nudist friends. If I pick up on these I'm often very intrigued to find out if they share my preference for living naked, I'm not always right, maybe they're potential nudists though.
I don't mean indoors or outdoors.I read a profile recently which said something along the lines about close nudist friendships are not just about being naked with each other physically, but how these friendships go well beyond that, so as mental things like emotions are shared much more openly with close nudist friends.I get that feeling too, there is a special bond with the closest nudist friends, we unashamedly hide nothing physically from each other and it seems to follow that our mental sides are more naked too. Removing society's imposed attitude to nudity helps open up our inner selves in the same way that we are comfortable and relaxed physically when we're naked together. We socialise nude throughout the year partly because we don't want to miss out on that special bond just because its not warm and sunny outside. True nudist friends seem more naked when they are naked, clothed nudists are still generally open people, but actual shared nudity seems to enhance the bond.How naked do others here consider the different types of relationships and socialising actually are?
yes, I remember that thread as well and participated in that discussion.
I shared the differences between our circle of textile friends and nudist friends ... four couples, including us. Though we've known our circle of textile friends longer (over 35 years) and shared the same experiences; long weekends together, trips and vacations, ups and downs of life ... our nudist friends ( friends for 15-20 yrs) are much more open and honest about their lives than our textile friends. Stripping away the clothing, in as much to say, "this is me, this is who I am," our nudist friends do not hide the not so good things that are happening in their lives. They are not seeking assistance or looking for pity, they are sharing their most inner feelings, pain, anxieties, fears, concerns ... our textile friends could be going through some really tough times and their response to the question, "how are things going?" is always, "oh, everything's just fine, don't worry. " Everything in their lives is always great, even though we know better.
We have great times with both circles of friends but our life isn't always great and fine and it's a comfort to have a circle of friends that you can be truly open and honest with. It's a plus if it's done while naked but that's not a prerequisite! :DDD With that, I've listen to my wife and the nudist girlfriends talking about things while all in their robes, drinking tea and feeling a little vulnerable. It's quite amazing to see that as the conversations become more positive and uplifting, the robes open up and are soon off the shoulders, as if the cold vulnerable feelings gave way to warm comfortable feelings and acceptance of the troubles they were all going through. I'm always glad it's not me they're talking about! :DDDDD
We have met a lot of people nude but at this point in our journey, I would say that the only "Friends" I have are on TN. I have not met any of you in person (that i know of) and even though we are friends, it is not as deep of a friendship as Nik and Andy have described.
I do feel the openness when I have had conversation sitting in the hot springs and even more during our 1 night at the club. We learned a lot about the couple we ate dinner with in just 30 minutes. We were out of water and they took us to their trailer and gave us bottles of water and even sat with us at the dance. I would say we are friends but we really cant build on our friendship unless we go back to the club and meet up with them again.
I hope we get to join the club and start going often so that we can develop life long friendships.
As far as knowing if people we meet on a daily biases are nudist, I have picked up on a few peoples interest in the lifestyle from things they have said and have invited a couple of them to join us at the springs. Also, after watching people undress in the open, now when in the textile world and someone is removing a layer in public, I sometime think that we are at the springs and they are about to get naked and then I remember where I am and see that they are still dressed.
thank you andy for sharing this. right now we only have 1 other nude couple friends who live nearby.
those we've meet at our club are not yet friends - but I expect that will develop over time.
there is an "openness" that nudists share and relish.
it's a shame so many won't allow themselves that refreshing sense of freedom.
I know this topic was started a few years ago, but I am glad to see that it was resurrected. I have discovered that when I am nude, I am much more open to others. In the textile world, I can definitely be more of an introvert, but I am definitely much more outgoing when nude. I'm not sure what the difference is, but it is an interesting change I see in myself.
We have been fortunate enough to spend some time nude in either our home or the homes of others with 4 different couples now. Friendships are just forming, but I can see where they can become fairly deep friendships quickly. It seems that with the clothes also go the masks we wear and we are much more open and vulnerable in our conversations. Things we may have taken months or years to talk with others, seem to come out much more quickly when you are bare and naked.
Some of my background has caused me to have a difficult time trusting people and forming friendships. It has been a number of years since we have had people that we can just hang around and enjoy spending time with. Now we have 4 and hopefully more as time goes on.