Bromance SP
The relationship between two guys, heterosexual or a bit homo, it doesnt matter. It is a deep understanding of friendship for one another, that counts complicity and who has more affection, even if it manages jokes about being gay or not ... this is not the point. The most important thing is the support it offers to one another. Do you believe that? Did you have the chance to live like a...
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sexuality and bromance
Return to DiscussionsI've been thinking a lot about this. I always said that I was gay because I'm attracted to other men but for me it's more about the intimacy than just the sex. I don't even like anal sex. I just crave a close bond with a guy where we can be nahed together. cuddle. touch. kiss, take showers together and enjoy and explore our bodies with no shame. This is not something I can do with just any man. There has to be a physical and emotional connection. I get that for some men, that may be out of their comfort zone and I respect that but in the gay community, its hard to find a bromance. Everyone is all about top or bottom and how endowed you are. I am not even sure I'm gay really. I'm not attracted to women at all byt I don't have much in.common with most gay men. Any guys in the same boat?
I've been thinking a lot about this. I always said that I was gay because I'm attracted to other men but for me it's more about the intimacy than just the sex. I don't even like anal sex. I just crave a close bond with a guy where we can be nahed together. cuddle. touch. kiss, take showers together and enjoy and explore our bodies with no shame. This is not something I can do with just any man. There has to be a physical and emotional connection. I get that for some men, that may be out of their comfort zone and I respect that but in the gay community, its hard to find a bromance. Everyone is all about top or bottom and how endowed you are. I am not even sure I'm gay really. I'm not attracted to women at all byt I don't have much in.common with most gay men. Any guys in the same boat?
Anyway what two or more Males are doing together while Bromance. Its not gay in every case. They just follow his primal instincts. And that is Males Nature.
While I take your point I would state that although I'm gay and have had sexula relationships with men I've also had intimacy which is non sexual with guys who aren't gay,
When I was much younger I lived in East London in the UK , it was a very working class area , The local authority had swimming baths which also contained a traditional Russian baths with separate days for men and Women , On the men's days everyone was naked , no one ever wore a towel and guys would give one another a rub down with soap in the wet room and an oil massage in the dry rooms guys would rub one another down from head to toe as I was 20 years old at the time I was always getting hard but no one cared , It was an amazing experience and I made some wonderful friends there of all sexualities , no one cared and this was particularly amazing as this was in the 1980s where homophobia was much more common and intimacy between men was seen as abnormal, so I guess my point is it's possible to be gay and have intimate non sexual relationship with other men ,it doesn't need to be a problem or something we analyse forever just enjoy it
There is a place like that still in Stephenson Street, near Canning Town station. I have been there when young footballers get massaged by older guys of all ages s and on Fridays a lot of Jewish guys go there to cleanse before the Sabbath. No overt sex but total nudity, and plenty of horseplay.
Yes I visited a few times but not in years, I think it was started by a few of the regulars who used to frequent East Ham baths before they closed, My original venue was Poplar Baths then when they closed I alternated between Bethnal Green and East Ham, There was a great feeling of camaraderie at all three , I had a straight guy at one of the venues who enjoyed giving me a rub down and would get really upset if any other guy including his brother offered to massage me , we had quite a bond but nothing sexual ever happened I'm sorry to say
It might not be the same as going to the bath house. But we used to get a nude massage from this therapist. He didnt mind us wanting a nude massage at first but understood that it was a lot easier after.
Laying there we talked about life and how his life was going and how I felt. Many times I would get hard and he didnt care about it. Thinking about it he gave a great massage ! Wish he would come down here to the new small town where we live.
As for sex or just being very close to another man. Yes I have done both and loved it that way. I mean going to the adult theaters and a glory hole in counters. Which made things feel so much better. To being with a good friend and holding him in a bed to just hugging and talking. But then its very important to share that human touch with another male. I dont think we do that enough for each other. Hugs are more important now