Bromance SP
The relationship between two guys, heterosexual or a bit homo, it doesnt matter. It is a deep understanding of friendship for one another, that counts complicity and who has more affection, even if it manages jokes about being gay or not ... this is not the point. The most important thing is the support it offers to one another. Do you believe that? Did you have the chance to live like a...
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sexuality and bromance
Return to DiscussionsI've been thinking a lot about this. I always said that I was gay because I'm attracted to other men but for me it's more about the intimacy than just the sex. I don't even like anal sex. I just crave a close bond with a guy where we can be nahed together. cuddle. touch. kiss, take showers together and enjoy and explore our bodies with no shame. This is not something I can do with just any man. There has to be a physical and emotional connection. I get that for some men, that may be out of their comfort zone and I respect that but in the gay community, its hard to find a bromance. Everyone is all about top or bottom and how endowed you are. I am not even sure I'm gay really. I'm not attracted to women at all byt I don't have much in.common with most gay men. Any guys in the same boat?
.... Males hanging out, laying around, sleeping together does not MAKE IT GAY, QUEER, BI or any other politically motivated label. .... Humans should aim to achieve in HUMAN Male 2 Male relations.
agree in part. the kind of intimacy you describe is something i think all men need and being totally naked together physically and emotionally is a *necessary* part of that. there is just an automatic bond when we see each others' penises.
as a gay man, it is some thing i need too. you may or may not describe it as "sex" but physical intimacy with men is something i want and need, in addition to the emotional intimacy and support you describe, whether it is hugging, kissing, or sucking or stroking a penis. like @bucknakedtx80 i am not a big fan of anal sex but i love men and i love men's bodies,
you can choose some of all of that.
This bromance business is not about having sex- it should be a connection of emotional and spiritual connection. Too many want to make it int a sex thing and this will chase away Males not looking for a f uc k, but a true soul-filled friendship that will last a lifetime. You can get screwed by a perfect stranger, so should a Bond" be based on more than that? I have always slept with other Males, my cousins on the farms in the Summers, 4 to a bed, 5 beds in one room, (20+ boys of all ages hit the farm to help out every Summer, they have to sleep somehow! LOL!, and even when I was married and in the Army- out in the field soldiers would huddle up on the chilly to cold night and not always naked together- it was a bond, a social contract to be there for one another. All this sex crap pisses on that and keeps more Males from getting out of their "a lone" life. Women are pretty harsh these days and for me not worth the effort at my age the way they act. Males have to stick together in the USA, not as many gals out there really recognize Males need more than sex- they think as well, that's all we want. Sad but after having been an NCO in the Army and counseling couples- it is pretty accurate to say Females just do not think like Males. I would tell a wife that just because you birth a boy, wiped his ass and feed him, it does not make you the expert on MALES. Males hanging out, laying around, sleeping together does not MAKE IT GAY, QUEER, BI or any other politically motivated label. Those shallow control categories only keep Males from knowing each other, learning from each other and having buds that will have your back and you theirs's. I told my soldiers, be like dogs. They will sleep with you, have fun with you, loyal to a fault, and never turn on you, and NEVER "F" you,...., high qualities Humans should aim to achieve in HUMAN Male 2 Male relations.
Well said. I agree with you absolutely. Males created for male Bonding.
This bromance business is not about having sex- it should be a connection of emotional and spiritual connection. Too many want to make it int a sex thing and this will chase away Males not looking for a f uc k, but a true soul-filled friendship that will last a lifetime. You can get screwed by a perfect stranger, so should a Bond" be based on more than that? I have always slept with other Males, my cousins on the farms in the Summers, 4 to a bed, 5 beds in one room, (20+ boys of all ages hit the farm to help out every Summer, they have to sleep somehow! LOL!, and even when I was married and in the Army- out in the field soldiers would huddle up on the chilly to cold night and not always naked together- it was a bond, a social contract to be there for one another. All this sex crap pisses on that and keeps more Males from getting out of their "a lone" life. Women are pretty harsh these days and for me not worth the effort at my age the way they act. Males have to stick together in the USA, not as many gals out there really recognize Males need more than sex- they think as well, that's all we want. Sad but after having been an NCO in the Army and counseling couples- it is pretty accurate to say Females just do not think like Males. I would tell a wife that just because you birth a boy, wiped his ass and feed him, it does not make you the expert on MALES. Males hanging out, laying around, sleeping together does not MAKE IT GAY, QUEER, BI or any other politically motivated label. Those shallow control categories only keep Males from knowing each other, learning from each other and having buds that will have your back and you theirs's. I told my soldiers, be like dogs. They will sleep with you, have fun with you, loyal to a fault, and never turn on you, and NEVER "F" you,...., high qualities Humans should aim to achieve in HUMAN Male 2 Male relations.
Theres a lot of thought and experience behind that reply. Id be keen not to describe terms like gay, queer or bi as politically motivated labels as I feel that doesnt acknowledge the truth of peoples lives and experiences and also the great discriminatory wrongs of the past and indeed of the present. Were all males and equals regardless of whether were queer, bi, gay or straight or whatever.
I think that every bromance is as unique as the bros involved. And for me personally, I dont feel a need to set parameters or rules for bromances or even to have an opinion about other peoples special friendships. Some nudist bromances will be entirely platonic, others may be passionately sexual and many will probably dance in the garden between those two possibilities. In my opinion all are equally valid, equally authentic and beautiful.
Ive had a number of relationships throughout my life that Id describe as beautiful bromances. The first that might be described as a naturist bromance was when I was just 11 and I still recall it with gratitude and warmth. Ive had a few since then. Some were always clothed, some involved frequent nudity and every one was unique. Some would have to be described as loving.
Why would I or anyone need to have an opinion on whether other males should or shouldnt express their friendship in whatever ways they like? Love is beautiful in all its forms and however its expressed. And everything that happens in a spirit of true friendship and affection is good. Naturism and personal freedom, in my opinion, go hand in hand.