Father And Son Nude Bonding
Fathers and Sons who have either been naked with each other or Fathers and/or Sons who have wanted to have that kind of relationship. This is a group for discussions concerning both.
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Seeing dad nude
Return to DiscussionsI am an only son with sisters. I have for all my life wanted to see my dad nude to know how I compared to him. I love to shave and know my dad did not have much hair on his chest. I did see him in his boxers many times after his bath. You all who have been nude with your dad are so lucky. I so wanted that. You nude sons with nude dads are so lucky.
Its so natural for a boy to want that male connection with his dad and to learn everything about being male etc.
In my case my dad was my hero. He wasnt a nudist but I know hed have loved it. My mother was domineering and ruthlessly enforced her puritanical religious obsessions. Dad was very openminded but quietly so, so as to keep the peace for all our sakes. That wasnt weakness on his part. He made that sacrifice to keep our family together and so he could continue to be there for us.
He usually bathed me when I was small and I continued asking him to do that into my teens. Sadly he never got fully naked but I loved that time with him when I was naked and he washed my body and listened as I told him absolutely everything, unedited.
He was always loving, kind and non-judgemental. He was also quietly bi so he understood me. When I was 11 I found a meadow where men went and sunbathed nude in summer and I become a regular there. Dad noticed the all over tan when he was bathing me and when he commented with a smile I told him where I was going and he knew the place. Of course he checked with me that I understood that it was a place where men who liked men went. That led to a truly beautiful chat that was a monumental moment in our relationship as dad and son. I opened up about all my feelings to him and he responded with calm understanding and love and guided me to be careful etc. He was wise, and understood that if hed banned me from going there hed only have driven me into secrecy and lies, and shame. So I was loved, not judged. I also told him that my best friend was like me. His response was that he thought we were both great. How many boys have suffered and even taken their own lives because they didnt have that openness, support, and love.
How I wish hed lived to see his grandsons and me living naked and free. And I KNOW hed be naked with us!!
It's interesting that you wonder how you compared to your dad. My dad and I were not only nudists but we always showered together so I saw him "up close" everyday. As a boy I was intrigued with the larger size of his penis, but I always assumed that was "normal" for adult men. When I started sixth grade and we had open showers in gym and sports, I realized penises come in all shapes and sizes. I asked my dad when mine (penis) would be as big as his and he said it would grow when I went through puberty and I didn't need to worry about it. In time, I ended up almost the exact size as him. He had a lot more body hair than me and it was all dark. I have very little body hair other than on my arms and a little in my arm pits, and my pubes are ginger.
Other than penis and body hair, I learned to be proud of my nude body. I was very inquisitive about going through puberty and my dad was there to explain it all. Spontaneous erections were common, and considered normal and natural. Masturbation was also considered normal and nothing to be ashamed of. I was very lucky, not just to be nude with my dad, but to have a wonderful bonding experience with him.
I find your stories moving both as a son and father. My mother too was domineering but unfortunately my dad didn't compensate and was largely absent. Whereas we weren't repressive regarding nudity, as an adult 60+ years old, I understand that both of my parents had what's now referred to as trauma response.
I also feel that much of my same sex attraction has been the longing to be affirmed as a boy and then as a man, with my sexual attraction directed towards women. If that puts me in the bi category, it's no issue for me. In any case, I now see it as an obligation to affirm younger men, be blind to orientation labels and not to separate nudity and sexuality any more than I separate the two when clothed.
I struggled raising my sons as a single parent and was not as open as I wished I could be due to their mother. I didn't want secrets and they didn't have filters. I was afraid that she could make a legal issue out of me having an erection in front of them, for example, since she did for other reasons and I didn't trust her. Nor was I able to find a local nudist family or a resort which didn't discriminate against us, so they didn't get any social nudity experiences. I have regrets but taught them to be body proud, accept their natural attraction and feel no shame over masturbation. I often felt that they compared me to their friends' fathers, putting me in the weird dad category, but now they're 20 and 22 and seem to be coming around.
In any case, I encourage other dads and more mature men to provide a safe and affirming presence to young men in particular, as well as those who may have lost their fathers with never being seen and heard as they wished. For those of you who are younger, remember that your older brothers have been there too, have suffered, have felt joy and remember the experience well. As men among men, let us be compassionate and vulnerable. Let us honor each other's unique gift of sexuality as both an intangible spirit we carry everywhere for those willing to be present, a fingerprint we sometimes leave discreetly without knowing it, and even a persona that can lead to experience life in ever meaningful and wonderful ways.
I know it's a topic that's on a lot of folks' minds, but let's not go there in this group, or it will be banned. Read between the lines of other posts and start private conversations.Just wondering if anyone here ever had a sexual relationship with their dad?