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Compliments
Return to DiscussionsGuys are not as free with their compliments of each other as women are, but I have had men, who were total strangers, tell me I have a great beard. It happens once in a while, but it's not common. I've heard guys compliment each other on their haircuts. I don't think it's too much of a stretch that one man could compliment another man's hands or face. I'm pretty certain that positive comments about biceps, pecks, or abs would also be well-appreciated.
But what would happen if, in the locker room, one man said to another,
"Nice set of low-hangers" or
"Nicely shaped mushroom" or
"Great cock" or
"Very pleasing set of equipment"
Etc?
This topic came to mind because a guy sent me images of himself wearing some new jewelry he recently purchased. The jewelry was very nice and I said so. But his cock and balls are well-formed, visually pleasing, attractive, and, quite frankly, very beautiful -- and I told him so. My compliment was quite well-received.
But it got us talking about how men seem so frightened about discussing or complimenting another man's cock and balls. Are we that insecure? Are we afraid to give and received compliments regarding our male sex organs?
Now, understand, none of us did anything to deserve or merit the cock-and-balls set we got. We simply have the set we were given and that's it. There is nothing we have done, could do now, or could have done to change the set we have. From that perspective, we have no cause for pride or shame.
Nonetheless, some sets are decidedly more shapely, visually pleasing, handsome and attractive. Is either man harmed when one acknowledges this in the other?
There's a men's-only clothing-optional resort near where I live. Although it's perfectly acceptable to wear clothing anywhere and everywhere throughout the resort, a good deal of the men take advantage of the fact that they are not required to do so. At that resort, compliments on male equipment flow freely. Low hangers seem to be almost universally appreciated. A good stiff dick elicits a flood of compliments.
Why is this essentially unheard in any other context?
Ancient Roman greeting: Cupping.As for shaking my cock by way of greeting, I would love it!
It's actually mentioned once in the Bible when Abraham sent his servant off to acquire a wife for his son.
To cup, two men stand face to face -- each slightly to the other's right.
Place left arms over and around the shoulder/neck of the other man and use your arm to pull the other man close -- hugging. With your right hand, cup the other man's cock and balls.
We have an expression, "I have your back." Cupping says, "You're safe with me; I have your balls."
Just an outsider looking in on this as Ive never been to a clothing optional anything. I can see where most men would be uncomfortable complimenting another guys genitalia. Our society has engrained in the male brain that if you look at or think about or even talk about it, period, then you have some psychological issues. Its a double standard for men as women can freely discuss the guy they are withs cock and balls in their lady groups but we as men cant. They talk about topics like their cycles, body parts and other things but men cant even broach those subjects when together.
Live and let live! If you want to compliment mine, go ahead, and thank you. If you wanna talk about your cock and balls and feel comfortable doing so with me, lets talk. If I feel comfortable with you and I want to, Ill compliment yours. Weve got to get out of the close minded mentality we live in and yet retain our civility amongst each other. Freedom not used is eventually taken away forever.
Ancient Roman greeting: Cupping.As for shaking my cock by way of greeting, I would love it!It's actually mentioned once in the Bible when Abraham sent his servant off to acquire a wife for his son.To cup, two men stand face to face -- each slightly to the other's right.Place left arms over and around the shoulder/neck of the other man and use your arm to pull the other man close -- hugging. With your right hand, cup the other man's cock and balls.We have an expression, "I have your back." Cupping says, "You're safe with me; I have your balls."
Learned of this several months ago on a similar TN post. I have cupped quite a few times and highly recommend it. It is a physical manifestation of trust. An excellent step to begin a friendship.
usually when somebody says they like my junk it's a gay dude wanna get down on it - it's all good
Not junk. Cocks are too important to belittle. No kids are made from junk. It may be light-hearted, but the words we choose about ourselves reflect our self-image. It's kind of like the difference between being proud of your six pack abs versus pulling in your gut. We need our pride!
I had many men complimenting my dick. Even total randoms at the beach or public showers. My dick is a normal dick. Average size, average pubes, average hanging balls, uncut. They frequently complimented that it has a good shape, just the good size of balls and that I do not shave my hair. Sometimes there were guys that visibly watched my dick and when they noticed that i noticed that they were staring at my crotch, they just nodded their heads and showed me the thumbs up. :-D
Also quite frequent are compliments about my beard, hair generally and my height (194 cm or 6 feet, 4 inches).
Honestly, body-related compliments are more valued to me when they come from men. We have the same body and mind configuration so we can truly appreciate all those things.
I like to compliment men.
Nowadays, it is almost rude when a man compliments a woman. All that crazy ass female empowerment. Don't get me wrong - I am all for women, I hate sexist behavior (or any similar form of discrimination). But when a man says to a woman that she looks beautiful today and she starts screaming at him that he is a pig who only objectifies her as a sexual tool, there is something wrong with the world.
And that's why I try to deliberately compliment men more. And even more guys who have some issues about how they look. I encourage them to be proud of their naked body no matter the amount of muscle and shape and size of their dicks and balls. People who feel well in their naked bodies are the ones who are truly sexy.
I personally would appreciate a compliment. Compliments from women is very rare so a compliment from a man is still nice.
If we're in a nude resort of spa where guys are more open minded then yeah feel free. You can look and compliment all you want.
In a gym locker room in the textile world you have to be more discredit about it. I just don't want other hearing and then you know.
Sometimes, I think it's generally difficult for men to give or receive compliments. Perhaps it's just how we're naturally inclined. Being uncircumcised in a country where most men are circumcised has always made me feel a bit out of place. It was something I was very self-conscious about while growing up and during my initial experiences with social nudity. However, after visiting several nude beaches and resorts, I discovered a wonderful aspect of the nudist community: nobody cared!
Sometimes, it's our differences that connect us or bring us closer. I've received compliments on being uncircumcised. Initially, it felt a bit odd and as though it was the main focus when people met me. However, on the whole, it was a compliment, and it's genuinely nice to both receive and give compliments. I've learned to appreciate them, and as long as the sentiment isn't creepy, I simply accept them as compliments.Its never bothered me if another guy compliments my man parts, as long as theyre not creepy about.
I have received many complements on my body before, mostly on my penis when I'm nude around other men.
One very memorable time was years ago when I was still in my 20's I was at a 24 hour gym and finished my workout and went to shower. There was an older man in the showers who was heavy set and very hairy. It was an open shower area so there were no patricians between them so we were both in full view of each other. I did notice that he was checking me out quite a bit but I didn't mind, guys look, we all look even I do. I finished my shower and proceeded to dry myself off and go to my locker. As I was drying myself off the man came around and sat on the bench near my locker. His locker just happened to be close to mine. He sat down with a towel wrapped around his waist and looked over at me and asked if he could tell me something without me getting offended. I said sure and he complemented me on my body and said I was in very good shape. I said thanks I do my best to stay in shape. He then said that I also had a very nice penis and head on it. That's something I've heard often from people who have seen my penis is that I have a nice fat, mushroom head. Again I thanked him and he said he wasn't trying to be disrespectful and I assured him that I was not offended by it. It was something I heard often and enjoyed hearing it. He asked if he could have a closer look and I said sure. I moved closer to him so he could get a better look and he liked what he seen. It was just the two of us there at that hour and I could see that he was getting turned on by him viewing me. He didn't try to hide it but did apologize for it. I said that's no problem. We chatted as we both slowly got dressed. He thanked me again as I left.
I don't think it's a bad thing that men complement each other on our bodies it's something we need to do more and be more open about it.