Male Bonding2
For those who like to explore the concept and dynamics of male bonding. Men are socialized in different ways in different societies, and so many men would like to have close male friendships, yet after spending time establishing a career, primary relationship and live in general, find themselves without close male friends. Many of us want male friends with whom we can share openly without...
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Unexpected cuddling with another guy
Return to DiscussionsHey guys, I thought I'd share an interesting and fun story that happened to me last night and this mornng..So I have a workmate, Kevin, who has become a good friend over the years. He's straight. He knows I'm gay. Never been an issue. We don't hang out too often outside of work. But we'll grab lunch together during the work day and chat a little here and there during the day. Nice guy. We've never talked about nudity (it's a challenge to bring that up at work)..Last night our coworker was having a retirement party. A lot of the office crowd went. It was fun. Open bar. I had a little too much to drink and figured I shouldn't drive home. Kevin's apartment was in walking distance so he offered for me to crash at his place..I should mention that I was wearing a kilt. So, when we got back to his place, I realized that it was an "efficiency apartment, which is basically a very small studio apartment. Just a bed and a bathroom and a tiny kitchen area. And it was insanely hot in there. Kevin then said that he can't regulate the heat. The heat is for the entire building and he has no thermostat. And then he starts stripping down. Well, me being in a kilt, I wasn't wearing any underwear either. So I undressed too..I went to the bathroom and when I came back, Kevin was already asleep, naked, in bed. I was like "ok" and jumped in with him. (It was a queen size bed) and passed out promptly..Hours later, I wake up and he's cuddling me in his sleep. I'm "small spoon" and he's nuzzled up behind me. His beard between my shoulder blades and his arm draped over my torso. It felt great..I fell back to sleep, really enjoying the comfort of his naked body against mine..When we woke up in the morning, we had moved apart at some point and were sleeping on our own sides of the bed. I didn't mention it and he didn't either. But neither of us had any issue being naked in bed together. We chatted for a bit about the party and I got up and got dressed and left. Now I wonder if he's a nudist too. I'm looking forward to more nude fun with Kevin. Hopefully more cuddling.
This happened during a recent outdoor meet. Few of us went to a beach and stayed back. There were three of us in the room and we all shared a large bed. We all slept naked. I woke up at the middle of the night and found that the guy on my right side has come very close and cuddled me. His hand was around my chest...with my movement he also woke up and (perhaps) felt embarrassed, removed his hand and turned other way. This time I put my hand around him..pulled him gently towards me and hugged him tightly. When i woke up i saw I am grabbing his hard tool. He too woke up same time and we released and departed as I feel we both felt little awkward.
later I talked to him...asked him whether he felt bad...he said not bad but was surprised. Then I told him about cuddling, male bonding, physical touch as a sign of non sexual affection .
He was okay with it. We are still good friends.
Sometimes back I visited Stockholm for some office work and stayed at my friends place. He is a nudist as well so we both had quite a naked time. He was staying in a single bedroom apartment with only one small bed available, so we shared the bed. The first night we chatted a lot and talked till late night and then slept. I realized later in the night that he had cuddled me with his hand over me and his penis against my crack .I turned back and hugged him and slept. Later in the morning we talked about it and laughed. There was male bonding between us but no kind of sexual tension. I stayed with him for 3-4 days and we slept the same way cuddling each other.
My best male friend and I in high school were so unbelievably close, we shared a locker at school, and we talked on the phone for hours every night. We would hang out naked together, and go skinny dipping together, and it was awesome, such a great bonding experience. But he was raised very Christian, and when he guessed that I was gay he let go of our friendship. I had never tried to make a move on him, there was never anything sexual between us, we were just best friends who shared everything. And I often wish that he had been raised differently or our culture was different, then maybe we could have cuddled naked together, and maybe he wouldn't have abandoned our friendship. Years later he apologized to me and we're friends now, and I know he's still a nudist, but we haven't hung out naked again. I hope to someday! I love the feeling of being held by another man, and would love to have some platonic nudist friends I could do that with.
I hope you can have that naked bonding time with him, bud. Maybe invite him to a nude beach so the naked time is among other people. It'll help him get over his anxiety, maybe, of being naked with just you.
This happened during a recent outdoor meet. Few of us went to a beach and stayed back. There were three of us in the room and we all shared a large bed. We all slept naked. I woke up at the middle of the night and found that the guy on my right side has come very close and cuddled me. His hand was around my chest...with my movement he also woke up and (perhaps) felt embarrassed, removed his hand and turned other way. This time I put my hand around him..pulled him gently towards me and hugged him tightly. When i woke up i saw I am grabbing his hard tool. He too woke up same time and we released and departed as I feel we both felt little awkward.later I talked to him...asked him whether he felt bad...he said not bad but was surprised. Then I told him about cuddling, male bonding, physical touch as a sign of non sexual affection .He was okay with it. We are still good friends.
Thanks for sharing your story! :)
I've had been on the other side of that. I'm straight and have been a bit of a nudist.i have a buddy that's a couple years back opened up to me and said he was bisexual.which never really changed anything but one weekend we spent it dirnkin and hanging out,at somepiont we did end up running around bare ased naked after we got durnk and when we passed out in bed together we wound up cuddling. Next morning we woke up and it was likeit was no big deal even walked around with our morning wood but only because it was the reaction of our bodies.. it wasn't a sexual thing. To me it felt more of a bonding experience because i started finding myself opening up to him more. and him to me.. it actually made us closer as bros.chris
It has been many years for this to happen to me but still can remember just laying next to each other on the couch watching a movie. We were in under ware only and did change positions a couple times who was in the back and who was in front, I do miss cuddling so much and even being several years or more for at least a hug. I hope I get to experience these things again soon.The others in here that do and sometimes more often than others have a very special bond that should never be broken.
cuddling is a great thing no matter the circumstances. I have a totally str8 buddy who sometimes comes over to hot tub and spend the night and its well know between us two that cuddling is totally fine.
Thumbs up to him for knowing its good and healthy. And to you for being the friend that does not take advantage.