Male Bonding2
For those who like to explore the concept and dynamics of male bonding. Men are socialized in different ways in different societies, and so many men would like to have close male friendships, yet after spending time establishing a career, primary relationship and live in general, find themselves without close male friends. Many of us want male friends with whom we can share openly without...
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What is the ultimate activity whilst male bonding?
Return to DiscussionsEveryone seems to skirt round the topic, but I think the ultimate activity that really bonds people together is the curiosity about what the other guy does with his penis when its aroused. Is there anything wrong about a couple of guys masturbating in each others presence?
I have read a few of the replies and find this an interesting topic. I think the ultimate activity involves some sort of touch while men are nude with each other. I doesn't have to be sexual, but it can be. Just sitting "cheek to cheek" so to speak and playing on the computer together. A friendly slap on the ass ... swapping massages ... even hugging each other ... the more skin to skin contact, the more barriers broken and bonding grows. Of course full honest conversation must be maintained.
I agree with noodman...skin contact is important for bonding while nude. I'm str8 but enjoy massaging a guy - who is mostly gay or bi, as str8s not generally happy being massaged by a guy, even if str8 guy. That touch and all over body contact begins to create bonding, especially if legs, arms or other body parts are used during the massage, or are just placed near the person being massaged. More often than not, that person will gently stroke my back, butt, thighs etc as I massage him. The whole experience usually takes 4 hours or so, starting with a nude chat and tea/coffee drink, then massage, then we wipe each other down and relax chatting again (often about our bodies, how we react to massage, what bits we enjoyed ,etc ) with a stronger drink to finish. If I'm really cheeky, I do ask for some intimate body shaving, if the other person is willing.
Just sitting "cheek to cheek" so to speak andplaying on the computer together. A friendly slap on the ass... swapping massages ... even hugging each other ... the more skinto skin contact, the more barriers broken and bonding grows. Of course full honest conversation must bemaintained.
Sitting cheek to cheek or maintaining skin contact sounds more like
leading up to love making. Thats what I do with my girl. But for
two men to enjoy a stroke, its just two guys hanging out doing what
guys do. Its not anything intimate, its bonding and having
fun.
One of the greatest male bonding activities that I found iswith a naked hiking group. I is such a great experience being naked with other guys under the warmth of the sun while sharing our feeling and helping each other climbing over objects along the way. Touching is such a great way to bond with other guysandbrings out our deep feeling of ourselvesthat we may have forgotten. And ending the hike with a naked hung with the others is such a great reward of our day together.
Sounds great. I have never been hiking where I now live (in a desert). I hope I don't get sun-burned!
I enjoy camping with my friends.Involving helpingeach other setup camp, cook and conversation.Introducingan activity to your buds; boating, swimming, fishing, hiking and games. Coming together in natureto form a small community is wonderful.
I would like to add bonding is wanting to be with someone
and return. Masturbation and sexual gratification with another person takes a
lot of trust and self-confidence. Speaking for myself if I and another dude wish
to repeat an activity we have bonded. Skin to skin contact is not a must. Are
johns bonded to hustlers?
Here I am, a recovering evangelical responding to a thread about male bonding and mutual masturbation, with my two cents that bonding is more a "how" than a "what." I grew up with the view that "the spirit is strong but the flesh is willing" where masturbation and sexuality for that matter were taboo. Now I realize that this is an effective position to control people and have evolved to enjoy naked massage which can include masturbation. I enjoy naked touch and full body arousal, making the release of ejaculating more incidental than a prerequisite. I also have old friends who are uncomfortable withfriendly hugs who may not even shower naked, but stillfeel very bonded with them. A sense of honesty, vulnerability, trust and openness are key or ultimate for me in male bonding. Removing textile interference makes this process easier, but it's more important to meet people where they are at. Overall, I seek the intimacy of good old fashioned homosociality, where men need other men just to be men together. Often this occurs in a quiet, nonjudgmental, noncompetitive understanding which can occur in something as simple as meeting for a quick beer at the train station on the commute home from work. The how, the intentionality, is the game changer for me!
I totally agree it is all about cotext and intent. A sense of honesty, vulnerability, trust and openness are key or ultimate for me in 'male bonding'. (Or indeed in any bonding)
'Overall, I seek the intimacy of good old fashioned homosociality, where men need other men just to be men together.'
'l have old friends who are uncomfortable with friendly hugs who may not even shower naked, but still feel very bonded with them.'
'Often this occurs in a quiet, nonjudgmental, non-competitive understanding which can occur in something as simple as meeting (for a quick beer at the train station) on the commute home from work. Removing textile interference makes this process easier, but it's more important to meet people where they are at. The how,the intentionality, is the game changer for me!'