Male Bonding2

For those who like to explore the concept and dynamics of male bonding. Men are socialized in different ways in different societies, and so many men would like to have close male friendships, yet after spending time establishing a career, primary relationship and live in general, find themselves without close male friends. Many of us want male friends with whom we can share openly without...

What is male bonding to you ?

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Hey guys, I'm starting this thread because I want to know what your idea of male boding is. Why are you here and what are you looking for ? I'm sure I will get different responsesdepending on whether your straight, gay or bi. I also know there will be people who strongly disagree with peoples responses. Everyone's idea onmalebodingwill be different in this group. I saw a threadwhere a few guys see this group as a sex group because someonemention having sex with who they were with. This made me think aboutthe group, so I started this thread. I don't like the idea of relating sex with nudism or this group, that is just my opinion. I found 2 definition in the web encyclopedia that I agree with, as far as male bonding goes. One definition is on Male Bonding, the other on Friendship. Seeweb addresses.Below.I also want to say there is a time and a place for certain statements, since there is a mixture of Straight, Bi & Gay in this group.If sex is part of your bonding, maybe that detail should be left out of your posting. Thereis a large number of different sexually orientedguys in this group.I think everyone will find someone from this group they can bond with. Whatever goes on with any 2 or more people from this group is going on with them, not you.When your reading someone's post be respectful of their world and not judgmental.As I said earlier, there are a lot of guys in this group. I think you and I will be able to find someonewho is a compatible friend or friends for us in this group. Since I joined this group to make real friends, I invite you to look over my profile. If you think we could become good friends, then send me a friend request with a message.If you live close or near by me, great !!Sean
Male Bonding- https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Male_bondingFriendship-https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Friendship

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I think that nudist male bonding is easier than non nudist. Male bonding is all about getting to know the person and having some interests in common. I find nudists to be far more open and honest with other people because they tend to be more self honest and the removal of clothing takes away many social barriers. As far as having something in common, love of nudity gives you a good starting place. Male bonding isn't about sex, just companionship and mutual enjoyment of normal activities. Of course, sometimes bonding can lead to other activities if both parties are willing and open to the idea.Nice response !! Thank you !! Sean

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Hey guys, I'm starting this thread because I want to know what your idea of male boding is. Why are you here and what are you looking for ? I'm sure I will get different responsesdepending on whether your straight, gay or bi. I also know there will be people who strongly disagree with peoples responses. Everyone's idea onmalebodingwill be different in this group. I saw a threadwhere a few guys see this group as a sex group because someonemention having sex with who they were with. This made me think aboutthe group, so I started this thread. I don't like the idea of relating sex with nudism or this group, that is just my opinion. I found 2 definition in the web encyclopedia that I agree with, as far as male bonding goes. One definition is on Male Bonding, the other on Friendship. Seeweb addresses.Below.I also want to say there is a time and a place for certain statements, since there is a mixture of Straight, Bi & Gay in this group.If sex is part of your bonding, maybe that detail should be left out of your posting. Thereis a large number of different sexually orientedguys in this group.I think everyone will find someone from this group they can bond with. Whatever goes on with any 2 or more people from this group is going on with them, not you.When your reading someone's post be respectful of their world and not judgmental.As I said earlier, there are a lot of guys in this group. I think you and I will be able to find someonewho is a compatible friend or friends for us in this group. Since I joined this group to make real friends, I invite you to look over my profile. If you think we could become good friends, then send me a friend request with a message.If you live close or near by me, great !!SeanMale Bonding- https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Male_bondingFriendship-https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Friendship

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why are youin this group ?I am looking for male bonding. I'm looking for a David-and-Jonathan-like friendship. Unfortunately, I live in an area where male bonding is highly controversial, the battle lines have been drawn, and I'm stuck in the middle. On the one side are the prudes that think all forms of male bonding is sin. On the other side are the crudes that think nudity is an open invitation. It is almost impossible to find true nudist in my area.
I agree, I have the same problem. And unfortunately its the crudes that seem to make the prudes appear correct. There is also the people who innocently assume that male affection is gay behavior judging by what they see on TV and whatnot and don't partake in it since they identify as straight.
A suggestion for you and salt. Click on search at the top left of the screen. Type in your locations and what other pertinent info you need to type. Click enter and you should get a list of people near you from the site. You probably have already done this, I don't know. After reading what you both wrote, I was just throwing it out there. Sean
Yup, already done this about a thousand times or so. lol Most of my search results for my area are usually obvious creeps or inactive accounts.
Sorry to hear that salt. Well, I hope you'll be able to hook up with someone from your friend list at some point.

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So far many of these responses mirror what i see male bonding as. You have to share vulnerabilities to build the trust that cements s brotherhood. Having expectations of what it should be usually backfires. And nudity is not a must for male bonding, although it really helps, it is not a necessity. Open communication is also key.As an example Ive been getting closer with a co worker of mine. What started our bonding was an after work beer where i shared an asoect of my romantic relationship(spouse) with him. Upon hearing that he looked really appreciative that I trusted him with that. From there it turned into jokes and insults at each others expense, the friendly kind of course. Since then we have double dated with our spouses, i invited him to my wedding, and now we are our each others biggest advocates at work. Which for me is unusal as I usually avoid getting close to co workers. Do i plan or expect him to bond while being naked? No. It just has to happen on its own.
I agree with everything you said !! Thanks for sharing your story about bonding with your co-worker. I'm happy to hear that worked out for ya. Hopefully at some point you can share nudism with him.Thank you for your input.

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To me, male bonding requires intimacy and shared experiences.I remember swimming with my friend Ian in highschool. We were in the locker room getting ready for the sauna and Ian got completely naked. It may sound like nothing especially on a nudist site, but consider that most people at that age hide behind a towel. It put such a smile on my face, not just because I was seeing him naked but because he was comfortable enough to get naked. I got naked too, and we enjoyed the sauna together. It was just a really special moment that cemented our friendship.At a party once my friend saw the girl he liked in a tent with some other guy doing who knows what, which really upset him. I remember laying on a field with him, looking at the stars, and we were talking and we ended up just holding hands and having a beautiful, honest conversation.
LOL !! I don't know any textile that doesn't do a towel dance. I have a friend I grew up with. We have never seen each other naked. My friend is in his 40's.Sounds like your friend in the fields appreciated your company. Thanks for sharing !!

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why are youin this group ?I am looking for male bonding. I'm looking for a David-and-Jonathan-like friendship. Unfortunately, I live in an area where male bonding is highly controversial, the battle lines have been drawn, and I'm stuck in the middle. On the one side are the prudes that think all forms of male bonding is sin. On the other side are the crudes that think nudity is an open invitation. It is almost impossible to find true nudist in my area.I think you have a laudable goal. But, I strongly suggest you read several interpretations and reflections on "David and Jonathan" before you condemn any others thoughts on this subject. I can't think of anywhere that True Nudism is not controversial. That is why we often seek out similar minds to support ourselves. Good Luck!It's controversial everywhere but there are some regions where the controversy is escalated.
There's more controversy in the medium populated areas. People in larger multicultural cities like New York have to learn to adapt anyway so many people just adopt a live and let live philosophy. Underpopulated regions like Australia's outback provide more opportunities for people to simply get away from the controversy. But the medium populated areas have the nosier neighbors that you can't escape from. (I know this because I moved to a larger city once and the anonymity I experienced was wonderful. It was nice to not have everyone in the city know who I am.)
There are also other factors that contribute to how much controversy is in a region: whether the state is a blue or red state, whether a region is highly ethnocentric or open to cultural ideas, which cultures are moving in to the region.

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Timborn12, I do agree with part of what you said. "I think male bonding is on the level of best friends. Someone u are totally comfortable with, can tell anything to". Why is your question printed 4 times ? Sean

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I really enjoyed the posts here. Everyone expressed exactly how I feel. I'm particularly interested in how totally straight guys feel because I'm NOT totally straight so it is good to see that others regardless of sexuality can resonate to some degree with others.

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