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Unexpected cuddling with another guy
Return to DiscussionsHey guys, I thought I'd share an interesting and fun story that happened to me last night and this mornng..So I have a workmate, Kevin, who has become a good friend over the years. He's straight. He knows I'm gay. Never been an issue. We don't hang out too often outside of work. But we'll grab lunch together during the work day and chat a little here and there during the day. Nice guy. We've never talked about nudity (it's a challenge to bring that up at work)..Last night our coworker was having a retirement party. A lot of the office crowd went. It was fun. Open bar. I had a little too much to drink and figured I shouldn't drive home. Kevin's apartment was in walking distance so he offered for me to crash at his place..I should mention that I was wearing a kilt. So, when we got back to his place, I realized that it was an "efficiency apartment, which is basically a very small studio apartment. Just a bed and a bathroom and a tiny kitchen area. And it was insanely hot in there. Kevin then said that he can't regulate the heat. The heat is for the entire building and he has no thermostat. And then he starts stripping down. Well, me being in a kilt, I wasn't wearing any underwear either. So I undressed too..I went to the bathroom and when I came back, Kevin was already asleep, naked, in bed. I was like "ok" and jumped in with him. (It was a queen size bed) and passed out promptly..Hours later, I wake up and he's cuddling me in his sleep. I'm "small spoon" and he's nuzzled up behind me. His beard between my shoulder blades and his arm draped over my torso. It felt great..I fell back to sleep, really enjoying the comfort of his naked body against mine..When we woke up in the morning, we had moved apart at some point and were sleeping on our own sides of the bed. I didn't mention it and he didn't either. But neither of us had any issue being naked in bed together. We chatted for a bit about the party and I got up and got dressed and left. Now I wonder if he's a nudist too. I'm looking forward to more nude fun with Kevin. Hopefully more cuddling.
I had roommate in college who said he was straight. When we traveled together, even if the hotel room had 2 beds he routinely climbed in bed with me naked, and loved to spoon but he neveroffered to do sex, and we generally were in our undies in the dorm, but never totally naked, unless we traveled. Although several times in the middle of the he was against me with right up against my butt, and half in my crack, and face against my shoulder blades. He also liked to do massages, but never totally nude. So, I never knew if he was in the closet or, just horny. He is married today, but they don't have kids. If this happenedtoday, I would try to bring up sleeping naked, and indicate thatI didn't mind being naked in bed, and since he knows you are gay, as am I, would indicate that I wasn't coming on to him, but did enjoy being naked together.
Thanks for sharing. Glad others have had similar experiences.
Thanks for sharing this story! I find it very interesting. I've never had an experience like this, but I think any straight man who sleeps naked with another naked man is comfortable with nudity and his own body. Since he also cuddled, and I am quite envious of this whole experience by the way, I'd say he is either enjoying thefeeling of nakedcloseness or is feeling totally comfortable with you as a friend. Ishared a bed several times with a close friend in college when four of us took a road trip together during spring break and shared a motel room. I and one other guy slept nude but I didn't sleep with the other naked boy. So there were two beds, one naked and one clothed in each. I slept with my closest friend but he slept in boxers. There was body contact off and on throughout the nights we slept in bed together, but there was no cuddling. There was one night that ended in a sexual situation, but that's another story, and he was and is straight. There was one other time when I and a straight man cuddled. I used to work with college students and I struck up a close friendship with one guy who later lived with me for six months. He was straight and now is married with two kids, but when he lived with me we cuddled together on my living room couch while watching television or movies. It was entirely his suggestion and he actually positioned us to spoon on the couch together the first time! After that it became our regular practice. We were always at least partially clothed, a couple of times in just boxer shorts and t-shirts. I always thought it was interesting he was so comfortable with doing this and even suggested it in the first place.
Thanks for sharing this story! I find it very interesting. I've never had an experience like this, but I think any straight man who sleeps naked with another naked man is comfortable with nudity and his own body. Since he also cuddled, and I am quite envious of this whole experience by the way, I'd say he is either enjoying thefeeling of nakedcloseness or is feeling totally comfortable with you as a friend. Ishared a bed several times with a close friend in college when four of us took a road trip together during spring break and shared a motel room. I and one other guy slept nude but I didn't sleep with the other naked boy. So there were two beds, one naked and one clothed in each. I slept with my closest friend but he slept in boxers. There was body contact off and on throughout the nights we slept in bed together, but there was no cuddling. There was one night that ended in a sexual situation, but that's another story, and he was and is straight. There was one other time when I and a straight man cuddled. I used to work with college students and I struck up a close friendship with one guy who later lived with me for six months. He was straight and now is married with two kids, but when he lived with me we cuddled together on my living room couch while watching television or movies. It was entirely his suggestion and he actually positioned us to spoon on the couch together the first time! After that it became our regular practice. We were always at least partially clothed, a couple of times in just boxer shorts and t-shirts. I always thought it was interesting he was so comfortable with doing this and even suggested it in the first place.
These sound like nice experiences. Great memories for u guys.
Sounds like a beautiful experience i have not had myself. Thinking of the story it seems to me that if two people sharing a bed that unexpected cuddle could easily be nothing more than an unplanned event. In other words, a normal reflex during sleep.
Isn't it amazing how we are conditioned to some things that we block out logic. Why shouldn't two males share a bed naked without meaning they are gay. No offence to gays, just that as straights many of us have grown up being almost paranoid about the thought of two males nude together.
Isn't it amazing how we are conditioned to some things that we block out logic. Why shouldn't two males share a bed naked without meaning they are gay. No offence to gays, just that as straights many of us have grown up being almost paranoid about the thought of two males nude together.
I agree. And cuddling just feels nice. :)
Yeah, I used to have a roommate who liked to cuddle with me on the couch. It was actually very comfortable and since it was plutonic I was never worried about anything being taken out of hand. Most often we were in underwear but a couple times one or both of us was nude.