Male Bonding2
For those who like to explore the concept and dynamics of male bonding. Men are socialized in different ways in different societies, and so many men would like to have close male friendships, yet after spending time establishing a career, primary relationship and live in general, find themselves without close male friends. Many of us want male friends with whom we can share openly without...
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Love a str8 nude friend.
Return to DiscussionsI have a str8 friend that I was hanging out nude with. We used to do a little stroking together. When i suggested that we stroke each other, he got a little paranoid. And he stopped hanging out with me. He never said anything to anybody, and he does not know I am gay as I just came out to a few people just recently. HE loved being nude with me, but he just was not comfortable touching me or me touching him. I guess he was afraid of turning Gay ?? or me finding out the real him !!!!!!!!
Deryck
I have a str8 friend that I was hanging out nude with. We used to do a little stroking together. When i suggested that we stroke each other, he got a little paranoid. And he stopped hanging out with me. He never said anything to anybody, and he does not know I am gay as I just came out to a few people just recently. HE loved being nude with me, but he just was not comfortable touching me or me touching him. I guess he was afraid of turning Gay ?? or me finding out the real him !!!!!!!!Deryck
Sounds like you may have pushed him outside of his comfort zone, for better or worse.
I would love to Have str8 friends who like to get naked and have some naughty fun sometimes no Taboos Included.Cuddling, aSS SPANKING AND MAYBE MORE.
Sounds like you're looking more for a bisexual guy. A straight guy is not going to want to get sexual with another dude unless you're going to pay him.
Might it be that he is straight and simply does not want to be stroked by a male. Surely his choice and his choice should be respected.
Yes I agree. I did not push anything on him. And I am open to rebuilding our friendship if he wants to.
As a gay man I have many straight married male friends from all walks of life. These are very cool guys who are the loving husbands and fathers some even grand fathers. There were a couple of them that blew my mind the first time we were ever alone, their hands were all over the place like naughty boys when mom and dad had left room. I did not mind the physical activity, I was just surprised by it. It seems so sad that people have to hide their true feelings for fear of being labeled or fear of disappointing themselves or someone else. They are still my friends and we do still socialize nude of course. Once in a while one of them will get frisky, but I never found that to be a problem.
I believe that's all part of the Kinsey (?) sliding scale for being gay or straight. Some might identify as being straight (for whatever reason) but have tendencies to want to play with other men. Some are completely to other end of the scale and don't want to play with others. That doesn't mean they are opposed to hanging out nude with other men. Enjoy your time with them!
Yes, I suppose it's possible that the suggestion of mutual masturbation freaked your friend out.I'm more sexually open than most guys, and to be perfectly honest,I was quiteunnerved the first time my friend, Bruce,asked me to join him in aguy-on-guy stroking session. I was nervous as hell, but agreed to try it, and after about five minutes, my nerves and inhibitions abated. Soon I wastotally into it. Despite my worst fears, I had a delightful time, and couldn't wait for it to happen again.I think I realized that two males pleasuring one another doesn't necessarily imply a love relationship, or a predisposition toward homosexuality. It's just twoguys helping one another out with something we all do.
There's a huge difference between love and sex.
Stroking with another dude doesn't necessarily make you gay....unless you like it and desire it. Sexuali identity is based on desires. It's not the sex act itself. It's the desire for the sex act to occur.
An interesting thread. What seems to be overlooked by much of society is the simple fact is that any person is physically capable of having sex with any other creature. Being capable does not equate to wanting it or desire. Nor does it equate to love. Desire and love are emotional not physical reactions. I am often amazed when someone makes comment that a straight guy had sex with a guy, so "obviously he was gay all along". Does the reverse apply ? If a supposedly gay guy has sex with a woman, does that mean he has come out of the closet and was really straight all along? my take on that is that both sides of that coin are wrong. Anyone has the physical capacity. It is their desire that distinguishes straight, bi or gay and indeed, whilst not gay, I can understand that the status for some can be fluid over time