Male Bonding2
For those who like to explore the concept and dynamics of male bonding. Men are socialized in different ways in different societies, and so many men would like to have close male friendships, yet after spending time establishing a career, primary relationship and live in general, find themselves without close male friends. Many of us want male friends with whom we can share openly without...
- created by AZdesertman
Getting the discussions started:
Return to DiscussionsSo to get the sharing started, let me pose a couple of questions.....
Do you have a male best friend? What does (or would) the role of a platonic but intimate male friend play in your life?
For me, no, I don't have a male best friend. I have a couple of male friends that come close at times, but I dont' think I've ever had a BEST friend, that I could completely count on, one that we shared unconditional fraternal love and that I didn't feel like I had to guard my words or my sharing with him. I would play a tremendous role in my life...how nice it would be to havea confidant, a kindred soul and a strong masculine presence in my social life.
What about you all??
That's a very good question and good topic. I did have a male best friend whom I loved dearly, I shared all things with him good and bad and he with me, and neither of us ever judged the other. We supported each other, told each other if we thought we were making mistakes, we cried together laughed together, he was the only person in this world who knew the real me. It meant a lot to me, he's passed away now and no one has come close to fulfilling that spot, not even my partner. So to have a friend like that would be a godsend. I think that kind of closeness we had was akin to being soulmates. I do have another friend that I can share a lot with but it's not the same.
I don't have a male friend like that but would love to. I have several close guy friends but only one knows I'm a nudist. He used to be but isn't anymore. My other friends don't know about my nudism. I wish I could share with them but whenever I bring the issue up there are either jokes made or one friend is outright hostile to the idea. I guess I'll just have to be satified with what I get.
Jim
I have a couple of fantastic male friends. They are a couple and they are older than myself. So, they're not only good and trusted friends, but they're also like my 'gay parents'. We've been friends since I was in my twenties and I don't want to imaging not having them around. Our relationship is completely non sexual.
My best friend is very straight, although we played around a few times in college--enough to satisfy his curiousity. He is non-nudist. We talk almost every day and I listen dutifully about what a bitch his wife is. I love him, but often at a bit of an emotional distance. I think I've become more reserved in my old age. I've given up trying to get him to go to counselling--I've eventually come to the conclusion that he doesn't want to risk being told that he might have to change something.
I don't actually tell him as much as he tells me. He and his wife are very gay-positive (they even suspect their twelve-year-old might be gay), but my friend gets a little squigged out with TMI.
I'm grateful for his friendship in many, many ways after 30+ years. But it's not necessarily as warm and fuzzy as I would have searched for when I was younger.I think this is why I'm looking for more naked friends now.
I have had a couple of close friends who have been close friends, accountability partners, ones who i would share my deepest secrets with. Nudity is not an issue with us, it is just something that comes natural. Even after we started dating our wives we would still get together for guys week-ends and nudity was accepted as part of the week-end. Even still we take fishing and camping week-ends together.