Male Bonding2
For those who like to explore the concept and dynamics of male bonding. Men are socialized in different ways in different societies, and so many men would like to have close male friendships, yet after spending time establishing a career, primary relationship and live in general, find themselves without close male friends. Many of us want male friends with whom we can share openly without...
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Bonding activities
Return to DiscussionsThere was discussion about this before, but a previous thread is making me ask this question:
Men touching: How far is everyone okay with?
The thread that made me ask this question was the one where men talk about giving each other mutual oral sex as a bonding exercise. Are there men out there that are really okay with going that far?
So I ask, if you are okay with touching, how far is too far?
There was discussion about this before, but a previous thread is making me ask this question:Men touching: How far is everyone okay with? The thread that made me ask this question was the one where men talk about giving each other mutual oral sex as a bonding exercise. Are there men out there that are really okay with going that far?So I ask, if you are okay with touching, how far is too far?
I don't think sex in any variation is essential to male bonding. If you desire it, and it's mutual, go for it. It's not a bonding activity. It's sex. Call it what it is.
I agree with griggs. Let's call a spade a spade! If it's mutual between two consenting adults, go for it. I do enjoy hearing the stories about fellas who have a group of friends that can enjoy naked bonding time. Thanks for the post The1JW!
Depends on if we're at the Y, or in private; then it all depends on
chemistry. Male, female, we're all human; after that, its all up to
socialization; whatever floats your boat, or 'Any Port in a Storm';
whatever.
During the depression, men would do anything for loaf of bread. Times get lean and your standards change. Like I said, 'Any Port in a Storm'.
A number of years ago, I was single for 10+ years. Now it's only been 1.5 years, and I long for human touch. What gives???
I think it all depends on each person. I have had straight buds that would hug and cuddle with me. Nothing beyond that and that affection is something that is missing in this country. Men can touch other men in loving ways without it being sexual.
Here is a great article that I just read on this subject: https://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/megasahd-the-lack-of-gentle-platonic-touch-in-mens-lives-is-a-killer/
But on a different level sex is a bonding experience also. People that say that it is not I think are deceived. I have had plenty of really good friends straight and gay that we have done little things of a sexual nature to each other or around each other and it just solidified the bond that we had already been building. It all depends on the context and comfortableness of your individual relationship with each other. Labels aside.
But on a different level sex is a bonding experience also. People that say that it is not I think are deceived. I have had plenty of really good friends straight and gay that we have done little things of a sexual nature to each other or around each other and it just solidified the bond that we had already been building. It all depends on the context and comfortableness of your individual relationship with each other. Labels aside.
i agree.. .. i've done some minor things with my buddies.. but afterwe had known each other for a while... and although anyone whowas observing would label and/or judge it as being sexual ..it dind't feel that way..it just felt like a deeper level of bonding.but by the time we got there.. we had already spent a lot of timetogether.. hang out talkin about our lives.. our secretseven slept naked together without anything happening..
I can speak of what I have found to meet my needs for male bonding. I enjoy the company of friends who I know well and with whom I have emotional connection - as friends/brothers. I love holding, spooning, slumbering together, massage.... but not in anything oral or that is with intent to stimulate - though, I expect erections to occur and like the identifying with one another's manhood. That is what works for me.
very well said
It all reverts back to chemistry. Chemistry can influence you to do something you'd usually never think of; kinda like booze.
This has nothing to do with chemistry, but during military POW training, some of us willing did things that we would swear that we would never do.
Never say never; just be careful.
As long as both adults are giving consent, that's my limit. I've gone quite a long way with other guys who identify as straight. But it was consentual
That's my boundary. As soon as one of us wasn't comfortable with boundaries, we pulled back.
Seems to have worked for me.