Married Men With Non Nude Wives
lots of men will understand this how do we make our wives understand us
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How do you spend the time nude or with others without spouse getting mad?
Return to DiscussionsI do not tell her where I am going or say to swims which she knows are nude and not being a naturist does not wish to join me, otherwise best not to tell her when I go meet others who enjoy being nude with me.
Most of my nude time is at home. My wife doesn't like it but has grown to put up with it. If I go nude elsewhere,I just keep quiet about it. I do wish she would try nudism but I also respect her feelings.
Pretty much the same with me but I try to find nude time for me because I deserve to have my life as well.
After my spouse lost her interest in nudism, we hammered out what amounts to our own "don't ask, don't tell" policy.Recognizing that I've been a nudist for over half my life, and that it's an integral part of who I am, she thoughtfully agreedthat I shouldstill allowed to "pursue my nudist muse without her," provided:(1) I do not become sexually involved with any of my nudist acquaintances(2) If I happen break rule #1, I use common sense, practice safe sex and NEVER tell her about it.(3) I do not discuss with her what I do, where I do it, or with whom, and that she is NEVER to meet any of the people involved.Well, as they say, rules are made to be broken. Hehehe!
Those are "rules" I could absolutely live with!
My wife accepts my nudity at home. At first, she did not accept it but she would allow me just to wear a T shirt without pants. Now, I go around nude as often as I can with rejection, One thing I am proud of is that she now, at times, only wears a T shirt. Hopefully she will feel comfortable to go nude around the house as well
I have been an "unofficial" nudist since a small kid as I was always ditching my clothes and lived on a farm. I was married in the late 60s so getting nude in a hot tub with the neighbors was not unusual. My wife was from a very repressive home and has never wanted to be nude. She would not go to the neighbors if we went into hot tub. When our kids were small and we went camping, the boys and I might skinny dip. They stopped that as they got around 8 years old. I was often nude around the house but stopped as the boys got to that age. Jump ahead and the boys are men and gone from home and I am near retiring.I was nude on and off at home but briefly. In 2003, I was ready to retire and knew of a nudist club a couple miles from my home. I went to check it out, ditched my clothes and loved the freedom of being in a group outdoors nude. I was nervous though that I might see someone I knew. My first day, a person with whom I had worked many years and his girlfriend, whose work desk was 15 feet from my wife's, came in. Weird, funny and ultimately a relief. I joined on the spot.When I told my wife, she was totally pi**ed off. I finally just said that there was nothing wrong with it and I was going to do it. She automatically assumed it was about sex because we had no clothes. I offered to take her and she could leave her clothes on. No way! I drove her to the place so she could see the high fence. No way! Finally, I said I was doing it and started being nude in the house all the time. She finally asked if I would wear clothes part of the time and I said, sure.I have now been an AANR member 11 years and have made wonderful friendships. I have enjoyed nudist clubs in FL and MI as well as Haulover Beach several times. She still doesn't think it is "normal" but accepts that it is a part of my life. Funny side note. She has said the" kids" (now 39 and 43)would be shocked and I just laughed. Our 43 year son and his wife have vacationed in St. Maarten 3 times. I said, "Oh, Orient Beach" and my son said, "uh, yeah." I said, "cool." I admit I showed my "smug" faceto my wife.
My rule: Until my wife gets got the point where she has no problem with me hanging out with other nudists, I'm simply not doing it. Preferably, she would become more of a nudist before she becomes ok with that so I will have her company. It's her I really want to share my nudism with anyway.
My wife tolerates my nudity at home so I guess that helps. I try to visit nudist venues when she is at work or otherwise occupied so I don't take away any of "her" time. She doesn't seem to mind my spending time with others as long as there aren't any women around. So far not a problem since men outnumber the women greatly. The exception is Gunnison beach. She will go with me there since she doesn't have to disrobe. She doesn't seem to care I can see other nude women there.
Jim
My wife has caught me nude while doing outside work on are farm and she thinks its weird! Go to Fl. sometimes alone and go to Playalinda and Apollo nude beaches but when she is there with me she wont even go as she could keep her clothes on. Love to get her nude [alone] in our hot tub but only after dark!