There have been topics about "head-scratching" moments with our wives...so I decided to make it a thread. For fun and perhaps some education.

My first wife started out "reluctant" like many wives. On her first trip, after initially wearing a sundress, she decided to change into a short T-shirt (actually going bottomless) and agreed to be nude after a while - but only in the sauna and the hot-tub - because no one could see her naked there. She was quite resolute about not anyone seeing her fully naked. But as we got ready to leave later on, in the midst of changing, she spontaneously decided to go to the front office and have a chat with the owner before leaving. And so she tossed her clothes in the front seat, and proceeded to walk over to the office...naked. And for 15-20 mins, she conversed with the owner, fully naked in front of him, with no sign of self-consciousness whatsoever. When we left, she did not say a word about it; as though it'd never even happened.

Then , there was the "sarong era." While laying nude in the back of the pool area at the resort, my wife would keep her sarong on her thighs, for the sole purpose of quickly pulling it up if someone walked a little "too close." And that was "weird." Occasionally someone would drop by and try to talk to her, and she'd instantly pull her sarong up over her chest. It was a little embarrassing too. The other "weird" part about it: if she got up to talk a walk or go to the restroom, she would tie it loosely; often with just one knot to the front or side. The "effect" was that it would open up with a simple gush of wind; or a boob or buttcheek would pop out of the side. Yet, she showed no self-consciousness about her parts "peek-a-booing." That "era" actually lasted a couple of years, into our foray into non-landed nudism.
And it finally ended during one particular trip at a non-landed club. She was in a room with other women; and the only one wearing a sarong. I don't know who talked her into putting it away; but she deserves a medal. That would be the first time was wife was truly socially nude.

She then entered a new "interesting" phase after the loss of her sarong. It was almost "competitive." She decided to "go smooth." She would undress on the way to the resort and already be naked by the time we got there. If there was an event at the resort, she'd volunteer. She'd easily take to being the center of attention; sometimes even seeking it out by being "exuberant" and fun. At the non-landed club she might decide to stay naked as everyone was leaving and help the hosts clean up. Yet, she would still get shy from time to time for no apparent reason.

Not every woman's journey in nudism is the same; and sometimes a non-nudist upbringing intersecting with nudist culture can result in these "odd behaviors." But looking back, it actually makes (a little) sense: my wife was struggling with body-image.
- Why did she spontaneously decide to chat with the WTP owner naked after saying she didn't want anyone to see her nude?
My analysis: she was "testing" herself. After spending all day "hiding", she decided she didn't want to leave without giving social nudity a shot; and seeing how someone would "act" towards her if she was naked in front of them. She figured the owner was the perfect person for her "experiment", since he was alone in the office and undoubtedly used to interacting with all types of people naked. And he seemed trustworthy.
- Why was she self-conscious about laying down nude but not about walking around partially nude?
It was about being looked at directly by a stranger while nude. She wasn't ready for the potential of "wandering eyes" while being in a static, "stuck there naked" position. The "barely tied sarong" allowed her move around feeling like she wasn't completely hiding; while at the same time feeling covered.
- Why the sudden "enthusiasm" being socially nude? And getting shy?
It was brought on by two things: my wife suffered from body-acceptance issues. So when she finally got rid of the sarong, and saw that she easily blend into the nudist environment naked, it "liberated her." And she "ran with her newfound sense of freedom"; perhaps to a greater degree than many other women, because she was a naturally exuberant woman.
The other thing was one person. We made friends with another couple. The female part of the couple, Allison, was an experienced confident nudist. That's where the "competition" part came in. If Allison was going to drive to the resort in a sarong, my wife was going to ride with her naked. If Allison was going to check in to the resort naked, so was my wife. If Allison had done cartwheels naked, my wife would have done backflips lol! But thank you Allison.
Yet, every now and then, something would remind her that she wasn't always happy with her body. It might have been a "skinnier person" in our midst. The fact that she was enthusiastically naked didn't always mean she was happy with the way she looked nude.

Anyway, if you dig hard enough, you might find the underlying reason for why wives sometimes "act weird" in social nudist situations. And learn more about what makes your wife "tick" from it.

• 4 years ago