Nude alone w/clothed wife - question
Return to DiscussionsAt first, I posted this in the "Nude alone etc" thread but then
realized it might be considered a hijack. So I deleted it
right quick and posted here. Anyhow, this had its origin in the
other thread.
I have a question. Were y'all already married when you found
nudism? Or did you get married knowing that your bride wasn't
into it? I've lately had thoughts about marrying my current
girlfriend. She's fine with my nudism but says she won't go there
until she loses weight. Problem is, I know her well enough to know
that she'll never get around to losing weight. So while my right
brain wants to marry her, my left brain keeps asking "are you
NUTS??". If you had it to do over again, what would you
do?
Edit: by the way, I'm just assuming that since your wife is not
into nudism, she won't see what your answer is here. But you're on
your own so don't blame me for any consequences lol!
Is your G.F. hesitant to be nude in public because of her figure? I think she has got a wrong approach. One does not have to have a figure like a movie actress to be a naturist. You may find all sorts of figures amongst naturists- men with large penis, almost no penis, skinny to bones, with a large tummy and women with almost no breasts to big hanging breasts and tummies. The secret is that very few look at other's bodies during a naturist gathering, since everyone is busy enjoying the freedom from clothes.So please tell her to shed all inhibitions , complexes and join you naturally.
I had been married for some time before going nude at home, been married for 52 years. To answer your question, I don't plan a changing my married status because she doesn't go nude. I am fortunate in that she does not mind me being nude at home. In regards to your intended's self image, if she agrees, you might show her pics on TN. I was always self conscious because of my size (small). After spending time on TN I realized that the variety in both women and men is pretty vast.
oh she knows all about body variation and the body acceptance
concept. In fact she had been to a couple of nudist resorts in her
younger years before I even met her, so she knows first hand what
it's like. And the thing is, she's not even all THAT much
overweight. It's all in her head and she knows it. She won't do
anything about it though. We don't even talk about it anymore cuz
all it does is aggravate her. But we match up in every other respect. So if I marry her, I'll never be able
to complain cuz I'll know what I'll be getting into. And I've been
married before so it's not like I'm naive about it. I was
just wondering what other guys have done in a situation like mine.
I don't want to lose her but.... -shrug- whutcha gonna do?
It's complicated .... (as stated on my profile).
her loss but don't ever stop me from being myself or it's over so I do feel for you yes it sucks being a lone nudist
If I thought there was a chance that she would ever want to stop me, I'd be long gone by now. But I'm sure she won't. I'm also sure she won't join me. Therein lies my conundrum.
open those lines of communication RIGHT NOW. She must be made aware of how you feel about nudism and what it means to you.
Same here. I married my HS sweetheart at age 21. And we were even happy for 8 non-nudist years. Unfortunately, the marriage lasted for 10 (those last 2 rreeaallllyyy sucked). And I've had a parade of women in/out of my life ever since, mostly non-nudist but a couple of nudists with nothing else in common. But I've never had communication as open as this time though (she says the same about me). And that's why I know her as well as I do. And I know it shouldn't be but.... this is definitely a stumbling block. Thanks for the good luck wishes, I'm gonna need it.
I am not a die hard nudist. I enjoy being nude when I can,
but being clothed works for me too. Before we married, my
wife knew I enjoyed going to the nude beach and we spent a few
mostly nude weekends together in her apartment. But she told
me not to expect that she would ever join me at the beach or a nude
result. She also told me not to try and teach her to ski.
So there are a few things we do alone. I was not naked
around the kids, but when they left home, I have been a major at
home nudist and my wife seems to be OK with it. We joke about
it some and she has even asked me a few times why my clothes are
on. There is a difference between being a home nudist and a
social nudist. After 40 years of marriage, I still have hopes
that at age 74, she will join me nude on the patio one of these
days. My being nude around her at home much of the day is
rubbing slowly off on her. Now she often makes the bed
topless and a few times has joined me naked in the kitchen to make
breakfast. A couple of weeks ago I even noticed after a
shower she remained nude to read her emails. She claims she
has no issue with nudity. She just does not enjoy being
naked. I think it is really a case of 'good girls' don't do
that and she just has not been able to shake that. My
marriage has been good and I would do it again.
I have come to realize that I have to respect those who want to wear clothes as much as they should respect the fact that I enjoy being nude. As far as to what my wife says for opposing it: she is afraid that someone will see me or I will get caught, especially outside. She doesn't mind me being nude in the bedroom or bathroom or if I make a quick trip down the hall to the kitchen, but she otherwise frown on me lounging around the house in the nude. When she was younger she would occasionally sunbathe topless and tell me if she had a better body she would more often or even in the nude. That was a long time ago.
She's fine with my nudism but says she won't go thereuntil she loses weight.Problem is, I know her well enough to knowthat she'll never get around to losing weight.
The first sentence above, makes it sound like she would do it, IF she weren't so heavy. Maybe if you could get her to doing it occasionally at home, it might be the extra incentive she needs to pursue her weight loss goals more seriously. Perhaps see if she will join you in just watching a movie on TV, in the nude, then maybe a few more things inside, just the two of you. Just sleeping naked would be a start.