How do u come out
Return to DiscussionsHow do u come out to your spouse u like being nude?
Just say "I like being nude and I'm pretty sure I'm a nudist". Then
just start being nude around the house as much as possible. Simple
enough? See my response to the question "Revealing nudism to
lover" in this same group.
It took me a long time, although I didn't plan it. I wasn't a regular nudist until recently. My wife and I go to a cabin each year. It is in the middle of nowhere, completely private. Once, when we were sunbathing, I took off my shorts. She didn't even say anything about it because it seemed so natural that way I suppose. So over time I slowly started being naked there more and more, until now I am naked from the time we arrive until we leave. Being in complete privacy made her comfortable with it. I liked it so much I started going naked at home when she wasn't around. But when I started feeling like I was living a double life, I told her I'd like to go naked at home like I do at the cabin. To my surprise she was fine with it. She even likes it. Actually, she encourages it, helping me make my house and yard as private as possible so I can be naked outside. In other words, it was a process not just a "coming out". Maybe I'm just lucky, but maybe my unintentional easing into it helped it not be such a shock.
I told my wife over the years that i wanted to try a nude beach. I didn't even think about being a home nudist until I researched naturism and discovered i should start at home. That's also when I discovered there is a nudist club just 45 minutes away. i asked my wife how she felt about it. She said she would try the nudist club just 1 time. We've been nudists ever since.
My next step is to get my wife to be naked with me. We're headed to the cabin I mentioned next week. I've already said to her that if the weather is sunny and warm maybe she will go nude with me. No reply, but no refusal either. She has told me she doesn't like to be nude simply because she isn't pleased with her body, so I've been telling her I like her body to make her feel more comfortable. I'm guessing I have a slight chance of getting her to be naked with me inside and a little more of a chance of getting her to be naked outside. The sun will help me persuade her! This has been and continues to be a process as well.
How do u come out to your spouse u like being nude?
Sit down and talk about it! This is your life and she is your wife.
You shouldn't need people you don't know, people on the internet,
telling you how to tell your wife you enjoy being naked whenever
possible and how she feels about that. Have an open and honest
conversation with your wife. Maybe she'll surprise you.
I'm extremely fortunate ... my wife took to nudism right away ... on our wedding night. She'd been naked with me, innon sexual situations, prior on many, many occasions and she enjoyed the freedom. I don't think she became a nudist. I think she's always been a nudist ... I just brought it to the surface!
Good luck with your talk!
My spouse hated the thought of being nude. And thought anybody who wanted to walk around nude was perverted. I knew there was no way I could talk with her about it. So right after the divorce I visited the local nudist club, became a member, and have been a nudist for 10 years. Love it, and now I search for a nudist girlfriend.
My spouse hated the thought of being nude. And thought anybody who wanted to walk around nude was perverted. I knew there was no way I could talk with her about it. So right after the divorce I visited the local nudist club, became a member, and have been a nudist for 10 years. Love it, and now I search for a nudist girlfriend.
No message board, forum or amount of experienced advice could have helped you in your situation. Sounds to me that there were some deep seeded reasons your ex hated the thought of being nude and thought anybody who wanted to walk around nude was perverted. She needed professional help and assistance to deal with that. You couldn't have done that on your own. Sounds as though you're both better off on your own. Good luck finding that special someone to share this with you.
LOL....my kids would be laughingat that if they read that. They always thought their step Mom needed "Help". LOL. Yah, there was a issue hidden somewhere there. But like you say, we are better off apart and I'm so very happy in the nudist lifestyle. Been 10 years now at home and at the club. Butthe "Nudist Issue" still kind ofpops up now and then. Being single I wanted to share my love for nudism with a partner, girlfriend, or with good fortune....a soul mate. Dang.....the reaction I get in the textile world is quite mixed. I've mentioned this before in other posts. Most would show respect, "Good for you but not for me" sort of response. And in the 10 years only 2 were willing to go up to the club and experience it. But I did get quite a bit of negative. One emailed me over and over trying to get me to go get help to fix my nude problem. Such is Life....and I keep going. The key though, is to talk. If I click with someone I will have two or three good talks and then I say the word NUDIST. I feel a person should be open and honest right away when starting a relationship. Shouldn't keep things hidden which I find a lot of guys on here do. I get a lot of private messages from guys who say they are nudists but their wife doesn't know. Whoa......a woman would consider that cheating and lying. Need to get some balls and sit down and chat. If she isn't into it then your choice is how much do you love her vs nudism. Pretty simple. All you got to do is talk.
I agree that being honest and upfront in the beginning of a new
relationship, about your nudist life, is important but I don't know
that I'd start a relationship with that info, on the first couple
of dates. I haven't dated in a long, long time, so I'm certainly no
expert on dating practices.This is just something I'd
probably do formyself. My wife, GF at the time, and I
had been dating for quite some time before we'd begun talking about
being naked, just to be naked. It was then that she told me about
her grandmother's visits and stays with them and how she'd lounge
around naked all the time. We talked openly and
honestly about nudity and she'd shared some stories and things her
dad said to them after building the addition onto their home.
He'd placed the windows higher than normal so "they could walk
around naked if they wanted."
I think because her dad used to say things like that, it
didn't make it threatening for her to talk about it with me, but
then again, we'd been dating for quite some time and had pretty
much committed ourselves to one another. She made me the
communicator I am today. She's all about open and honest
communication. I was always the quiet one on that type of
communication but she changed me and it's made our life together
much better and it's made our nudist life much better.
Still ... if something would happen to my wife and I was alone, I'd
probably date and keep my nudist life and tendencies to myself for
quite some time, allowing the woman/women I date to know me better
before I spring it on them. I'm not sure what quite
some time actually means in a time frame. I think you
know after dating someone that the time is right to tell them and
hopefully ... they look at who you are and the kind of person you
are before casting judgment on your nudist life.